My love of my life has been using drugs quite often lately & we had bad trouble with this a few years back. I don't understand anything about it like how he's feeling because i"ve never done any type of drug. I tell him that if he luvs me & our child that he would stop & he always tells me that it's not that easy. Does he luv me? How can I help Him? I know he needs help.
P.S. don't worry he doesn't do drugs around me or my son
2006-10-20 04:12:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes he loves you......but he has an addiction and he's right its not that easy to stop.......he will need help and a lot of support...but he needs to want to stop and get help...you cant do it for him good luck
2006-10-20 04:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by dollyvg2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are having to deal with the after effects of the drug use, he not doing the drugs in front of you or the child is only a small benefit. Depending on the drug, the receptors in the brain can change, like the dopamine with cocaine or others. Behavior is altered alot, anger, laziness, seclusion etc. So he may not be his personality totally intact.
BUT that does not excuse you from your responsibility of doing what is best for you and the child. If he does not want to help himself, you will only drag down with him. After a good amount of support is given by you, if no change is made. You take care of you and your child. Sometimes that is the best brick wall they can hit and it causes a change. The question is not really does he love you. Its are you ready to really accept the answer either way
2006-10-20 04:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by momusmusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may find this is a phase. It happens quite a lot unless it is hard drugs. You may have to be hard on him and say you cannot have drugs around your child so it's either stop the drugs or he cannot be in the house with you both. This may give him the shock he needs to stop. You may find he actually moves out for a bit, but a seedy life of drugs with no home comforts, loving partner or child should bring him home. Good luck.
2006-10-20 04:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in recovery from alcohol and drug addiction for 20+ years. His love (one and only) is the drug. He won't quit until he is ready. He may quit if you leave, which I'd say you should do for your safety and the safety of your child.
Tell him, you are leaving because of his drug you, and don't want to see him again until he has been active in AA/NA with a sponsor for a year or better. Tell him you've had it and need a life.
2006-10-20 04:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be doing them around you but he is high around you and your son. Your son will eventually find out about his dad one way or another. Your love of your life needs to get clean. You might have to do some tough love. Tell him it is either you or the drugs and tell him there are places where he can go and get help. If he refuses then I suggest you leave because it will only get worse as time goes by.
2006-10-20 04:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard. First of all it depends on if you are married to him or not. If you are married, then you need to help him through this. You married him for better or for worse. Keep your vows.
If you are not married then I would say love him enough to let him go and refer him to a professional or local church for help.
Protect your heart and your son's heart. I have seen drug addictions kill people and destroy families. People who use drugs will not stop using it just because you love them. They have to want to stop. Self-motivation is the key.
Look at what happened to Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown.
2006-10-20 04:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by ShacklesOff.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or may not love you, but the love of his life is the drug. It is stronger and more powerful than anything he feels for you or your son.
If he doesn't agree to help, help yourself and get out. The strongest role model a child has is the same sex parent. He will be your son's strongest role model. Do you want that?
2006-10-20 04:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out and let him figure out for himself that you are more important than the drugs. When a person is on drugs, they aren't themselves and they can't think for themselves. I have a lot of addiction in my family and I know how it is. You can never compete with a drug. Show him tough love. You can't change him and you can't make him quit. He has to do it on his own.
2006-10-20 04:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question of love. This dud has an addiction. Addiction is a deep issue with serious consequences that I'm sure your son will notice. If you want to talk about love, don't allow this lifestyle for your son. You are opening more doors for him to be an addict as well.
2006-10-20 04:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all l can say, is being a paramedic, and seeing families, kids, all torn up or splattered all over the highway in blood, just because some Fu*********cking idiot chose to drink or do drugs then drive,
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-20 04:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? he is doing drugs around your child its on his clothes in his car ,what if child welfare came in your home and asked him to empty his pockets no it's not that easy to quit drugs but if you love yourself and him and your child then I would move and have no friends before I would allow drugs to be going into my loved ones body.
2006-10-20 04:17:43 · answer #11 · answered by csaw3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋