She has a locker next to me and has already shuved me! She is really rude and has the most annoyin laugh! She knows my crush cause she cut into a truth or dare game. She may spill and I'd feel sooo embarressed! She also know the other girls crushes! She bullies a girl that hasn't hit her growth spurt and picks her up and holds her so she can't move her arms even though she screams to be put down! I have alreany told a teacher but know she just eyes me down and still bullies. What should I do?
2006-10-20 04:09:14 · 13 answers · asked by xoLoveMaexo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A couple of things...
Recognize that this girl lives in a home environment where there is a "pecking order". No doubt she gets a lot of sh*t at home, and she can't wait to be the "top dog" and tourment someone else. To her, this is "normal".
Have pity on her.
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Try "head games" with her. Any time she has a negative comment, respond with the focus back on her. "You're not loved at home, well I love you", or "Alot of girls have a problem with 'self-esteem', - does picking on others make you feel better about yourself?" She'll eventually not want to field "embarassing" questions in front of others.
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She'll keep pushing and pushing, and at an opportune time, be prepared to punch her lights out. I had a pier pushing me too far, and at the quiet time at the end of class, I walked back 3 seats and started punching. I forgot that he was a black belt, and he said he was gonna "get even". He totally left me alone after that.
Of course that was 30 years ago in publik skool, and now-a-days there's a punch of PC crap and "tell an adult" punch lines that's turning this young generation into a punch of fems, that can't deal with everyday life situations.
2006-10-20 04:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the teacher won't handle the situation, take it to the next level- tell the principal or a counselor or something. Now, as far as this bully, does she have any friends herself? Y'all need to stand up for yourselves. You can do this together, it would probably be the best idea, being she's bigger and got y'all all scared. But, know nothing will happen until you do. Show her that you wont take her stuff any longer, and she'll find new people to pick on. As for the crush, its really not that serious. You're young, and will go through these moments. Why not be bold, tell him! So if she does tell him? He may be crushing on you, too, and then she'd be doing you a favor!
2006-10-20 04:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned with the locker room, chances are other guys are concerned as well. Changing in front of people will always be uncomfortable, no matter who it is you're changing in front of--a male, female, relative, doctor, partner... Erections are a part of growing up, so don't pay too much mind to it. As long as you just change and keep to yourself, what is the big deal? Locker rooms are usually very lax, and not as intimidating as people make them out to be. If you do happen to get an erection while changing, it is doubtful anyone is going to notice/care. And if they do, you can always play the "why are you staring at my penis?" card. Locker room showers, like most other communal showers nowadays, are private. Keeping your cool will be key. :)
2016-03-18 22:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform the teachers, if the teacher does nothing go to the principal and inform them you've told the teacher and the teacher won't take action.
Bullies suck. My daughter was picked on by a group of little gutter sl&ts in middle school. I would get so damned angry.
If you know how to defend yourself, do so, Don't take crap from anyone. If you stand up to a thug you are changing your situation and making the situation better for everyone.
But best tact is to make the school and your parents aware it is happening..
2006-10-20 04:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl obviously has problems of her own. You need to have your parent or Guardian speak to the Principal of your school about her, it's no good trying to "stand up" to someone like this your self, you may get hurt. Don't try to be a hero. If you can get the parents of the other girls she is bullying to report her too, something will be done about this ugly situation. Good luck.
2006-10-20 04:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two ways to deal with a bully confront them or ignore them. Either choice requires a concious decision on your part. You can either stand up for yourself (I don't just mean physically) or deal with the bullying. Their are positives and negatives to either choice but the important thing to remember that nothing is beyond your control, you make the decision on how to deal with it.
2006-10-20 04:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't back down to her and let yourself get walked on like a used rug. Most bullies back off when there confronted with the same treatment. Acting like a whimp just encourages them. So let her have it!!!
2006-10-20 04:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fkck the teacher, go straight to the vice principle and tell him / here everything. Also DEMAND for them to change your locker somewere else. Tell them that if they don't do this your goin to sue that bullies parents and the school for not procteting you.
2006-10-20 04:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rat her out , ask a teacher to stand near your locker,or ask for your locker to be moved.
2006-10-20 04:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by csaw3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step up to the girl tell he to BACK OFF!and stop bullieing you and your freinds give her a small gift put it in her locker.
2006-10-20 04:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋