I am 22 and people are trying to discourage me from moving in my boyfriend's parents basement because I will not have "control" as it is not my house. I don't see what possible control issues I could have. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and have a very good relationship with his parents. We both want to go back to school and the $400/month rent they are asking for is very appealing to us both. I know that relationships may change when living together, but I feel that we know each other pretty well since it's been 5 years. of course we argue, but who doesn't. I can think of so many reasons why we should do this but #1 is because we love each other and want to be together everyday.
2006-10-20 04:06:04 · 12 answers · asked by cd_leo22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If your going to pay $400.00 a month to live in someone's basement,then why not get an apartment of your own? Ask yourself these questions:
(1) Will you both have absolute privacy?
(2) Is the basement equipped with a bedroom,bath/shower,stove,fridge,furniture,tv,stereo,and all the basics you are going to need?. Will you be able to cook your own meals,or do you have to eat what his mom cooks everyday,and will you have to contribute to the grocery list?
(3) Do you think his parents can hear you (through the heating vents) if your argueing or making love?
(4) Will his parents have a problem,if the two of you want to entertain your guest?
These are some questions, that need to be put into concideration,when moving in with anyone. Although his parents may be "Good People",there is bound to be something that you and him will want to do,that his parents will disapprove of,or set limitations to. (Your question is very good!). If the whole family has already decided to do this,then make sure you know about rules and regulations about his parents household. It does'nt matter how much "rent" your paying (Just like any other Landlord),there will be rules.
2006-10-20 04:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to make it better for both parties involved, I would make a lsit of questions regarding chores, food, adn other possible concerns for argument or control issues. Then sit down and discuss with his parents that these were questions that were raised regarding you guys living together. That way you will have all posssible issues up front before it's an issue. Also, maybe tell them upfront that you guys are in a relationship and don't want intervening by anyone, they can give constructive criticism but nothing liek interferring. Plaese establish that rule up front, his parents can break a relationship, because 9/10 times they pick their child and you will always be at fault. Really think about if it wouldn't be cheaper to get your own place, the two of you together. Watch Mama's Family and then think about it. lol. I t could be so much better if you guys got your own place, but if that is not a possibility, then before you guys move in, make sure you give guys sit down and lay down rules about the house for both parties. Also, make sure you aren't treated like Cinderella
(doing everything in the house), but don't be lazy and not help out either.
2006-10-20 11:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a little young but you have been together for quite a long time. I think trying to live together in his parents basement is a good idea. You get to test the waters and get a great deal on the rent.
2006-10-20 11:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is possible to make it work. My bet is that if you do move in with them that you probalby won't be their for too long. The two of you will want to get your own place for more privacy. If you are in thier house, everything is their business. You can give it a shot and see how things work, but don't be too upset if people are always stepping on each others toes.
2006-10-20 11:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by krazy_b81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a complete apartment, in the basement, with your own door, that you can lock, then it may work. but if you have to eat, and bathroom upstairs, then their may be a problem. sometimes what sounds like a good idea, does not always work out for the good of you! Think about it long and hard!
2006-10-20 11:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way for the 2 of you to find an apartment by yourselves for around that price?? if not then i say go for it. if worse comes to worse you could move back in with your parents, right??
2006-10-20 11:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in with your boyfriend and his family unless you want to be an unhappy camper. Get married and get your own house. then live with your husband and have your OWN life.
2006-10-20 11:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well their just trying to say that things arent going to be done your way because its his parents house not yours.
2006-10-20 11:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont yall just get your own place instead of mooching off everyone else?
2006-10-20 11:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do it. It could be a complete nightmare.
2006-10-20 11:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋