My husband & I are living wid my mother.Sometimes, they can't get along wid.?

Question

I am bothered evrytime my mother and husband argued wid each other. I don't want this thing to happen coz I want my family to live peacefuly. Bt I must admit that they don't always compromise wid each other. I don't want to throw words either to my husband or mother coz it's nt my attitude.And in the first place, I don't want my mother to get hurt coz we're living n her roof. We can't live separately coz practicality wise, I'm d only child & I don't want to live my mother. She's alone, my father has passed 1 and half year ago. please advice me!

Answer 1

If they cant get along its best for your marriage that you dont live with her. Why not get a 2 family home so she can be with you but everybody has their own space.

Answer 2

I believe there are a few issues that needs to be resolve.
Firstly, it seems you are asking your husband to buy in on the fact ur mother is along and need u. He need to accept that fact. If he doesn't then the fights will continue. Secondly, if u got married, I would think you now have a responsibility to stand with your husband. Mothers will always be mothers, some age gracefully some dont, hence kids move up. In order to establish themselves and be independent. If you cant or dont want to be independent then you cant have it both ways. Since it seem the situation is what it is, you need to make your mother understand ur position (ie with ur husband) you cant stay on the fence.
Finally your husband ?????!@**{}????

Answer 3

You need to sit your husband down first, and explain to him that he needs to be more patient and respectful of your mother as she is your mother nothing will ever change that and that he needs to be the first one to compromise or at least just keep quiet Sometimes its not a good idea for some people to live together. Have you ever thought of extending the house so that it can be subdivided in such a way that your mother can also have her private space and your husband can have his??

Answer 4

im kinda going through the same thing. even though you dont want to, it might be best that you and your husband moved out or they are always going to fight with each other and you cant really do anything because you are under you mom's roof. moving out would be the best thing and you can always get a home close to you mother. good luck with everything.

Answer 5

If you want to prevent this from happening you have to get your own roof, even if is close to your mother so you can visit her often.

Answer 6

hmmm relax don tense yourself up, i guess it would be better to tell your husband how u r feeling, he should be able to understand that u are feeling stuck between both of them. wish ya luck take care, god bless ya.