do you believe in pre-married sex?

Answer 1

of course.

Answer 2

If people marry and after the marriage have sex and find out they do not match there then this is a big problem. Because sex is pretty important for many people to have a good relationship. If you find out when you are married it is too late. You can not just go back and divorce because of that, that would be ridiculous.
So the better way to a good marriage is that people have sex before and learn whether it works for them. If it does not then they should probably not marry.

Answer 3

Yes, of course. Are you aware that the conception to marry before sex arose from esurient priests? They strived to profit from their abiding constituents and ignominiously imposed marriage dues upon them. Despite what some may claim, everyone wants to have sex. Church officials exploited this and declared that anyone who copulates before marriage will perish in hell. Now, of course they required a "nominal" charge for betrothment, which is initially how the Church gathered their wealth; allowing each Pope to live a lavish lifestyle. Following marriage dues were "Indulgences". For a hefty price individuals could buy their family members out of purgatory and even guarantee themselves a place in heaven. There were also fees imposed upon baptisms, which increased during the 1400s, to support wars and the construction of ornate churches. Any child that died before being baptized would perpetually burn in hell, which is still held as truth today. Rather disturbing considering the contemporary Church's claim of purity and probity. I am not attempting to bash the Church, which would be too easy; I'm merely trying to convey that you shouldn't allow others to easily sway you. Why does a simple piece of paper make a bond more sacred between two people? You can still marry even if only for ceremonial purposes (I'm a pantheist and I intend to marry), but you don't have to wait for the Church to approve of and condone your sex life. Sex is not only a physical connection, but it is also a profound emotional bond. Don't you want to experience that before you marry to ensure you are marrying the "right" person? If you don't and your partner is not what you expected you might divorce. Ultimately, it's your decision, so don't let me or anyone else convince you otherwise, but just consider every facet.


Christian Fundamentalism: The doctrine that there is an absolutely powerful, infinitely knowledgeable, universe spanning entity that is deeply and personally concerned about my sex life."


Religion has actually convinced people that there's an invisible man living in the sky who watches everything you do, every minute of every day. And the invisible man has a special list of 10 things he does not want you to do. And if you do any of these 10 things he has a special place full of fire and smoke and burning and torture and anguish where he will send you to live and suffer and burn and choke and scream and cry for ever and ever until the end of time...but he loves you."

Answer 4

No, and for me it's not about religious beliefs, even though I was raised Catholic. It's hard enough getting over someone, and if there was sex involved it only complicates the situation and makes things more difficult. You can have a healthy, loving relationship without sex. People have done it before!

Answer 5

Nope, because it kept me bonded and shacked up with a total looser for almost 7 years. I could have gone to college, traveled to Europe like I had wanted to, ect., but I thought that I loved this person who was playing house with me, using me for sex, and as a maid. I am certain that if we had never slept together that I would not have been with him very long at all, especially after he had told me later that he was only using me for sex in the beginning of the relationship. I know that not all men are total a*sholes, but I know that sex is a bonding act. Why bond yourself with someone that you are going to break up with? Why give your total self to someone who really only wants to use you to make themselves feel good? Basically, that almost equates you to a box of kleenex and a bottle of lotion if the guy isn't married to you.

Answer 6

actually i think that i do. U see, god put adam and eve together as the first marriage but within the bible i haven't seen any "thou shalt not have sex before marriage" law. I think that it is just an inteference made by the early church that has become tradition. Of course on some levels, it makes logical sense not to have sex before marriage but i think that the choice is the individual?couple's and should not be determined by religion

Answer 7

I believe that it happens everyday, if that's what you mean, otherwise I myself don't. You will hear," I like to try it before I buy it", and even though that shouldn't be the most important thing in a relationship, it is to most people. I'd like to believe that I am only half of that decision making part of someone else's life. If she wants to, great, if not, that's ok with me too, as long as she is waiting for me on our wedding night.

Answer 8

YES. just think if you wait till your married and then what happens if you get a divorce and things don't work out? Then you would have waited for nothing! But you should hold out until your sure and your older. Sex isn't for kids.

Answer 9

Sex has no bar, Marriage defines by society humans border not mandetory by nature nature needs only male & female for sex. no partition of pre or after martial bar

Answer 10

In hindsight no, but I can't say that completely without being somewhat of a hypocrite since I had two children before I was married to their father. I wish my children wouldn't do it because I know how much heartache it can cause but when you get caught up in the moment it is hard to resist temptation.

Answer 11

Yes, and after married sex too!