My wife and I have a healthy relationship and enjoy being wild and kinnky together. Recently weve talked about having a 3some. We can separate sex and love, and it would only be for a thrill and we agreed would never talk to the person we did it with after.. What do you think? Also, she has been with women before so this isnt new for her.
2006-10-20 03:21:46 · 32 answers · asked by hockeytwn09 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't recommend bringing anyone else into your relationship. Even if you don't speak to them afterward it may cause problems in your relationship. You two should find other ways to make your sex life interesting
2006-10-20 03:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I don't care what any one says. Eventually it will cause a problem in your marriage. Just think about how it would feel to imagine your wife having sex w/ some one else. Now that is what it would be like to have a threesome- only you actually saw it. I've never had a 3some, but these are the resons I never would.
Of course, some ppl are just turned on by that stuff and the fact that marriaige means that you forsake all others means nothing cause sharing turns them on.
2006-10-20 03:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by brianscupcake2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg....there is no "healthy" relationship involving marriage that will outlast a threesome!!!!! If u both love each other as much as u say u do u will not bring in a third party. What makes the 2 of u any more capable of seperating sex and love than any1 else. Talking about something (fantasy) and doing it r two entirely different entities. U will be single-handedly sabbotaging any chance of remaining happy with each other over what? Watch some dirty movies about it instead..cuz if u do it ur wife will never be able to feel adequate enuf for u ever again...and in back of her mind she will always imagine u liking this other person more than
her...maybe us ladies should start bringing home that hot guy at the gym for a threesome w/our husbands....hmmmmmm...sounds fun!!!!!
2006-10-20 03:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. Not worth it, man.
I don't care how much you both think you're prepared or how you can separate it, you can't. What if your wife really digs the other person.. They're better in bed, have a bigger cock, whatever the case may be. What if you dig the other person more than you do your wife?
Even if neither of you feel that way, you're going to wonder if the other does, and that'll mess things up.
Also, there's the serious risk of disease.. one of the beautiful things about marriage is that you dont catch VD. So stick to the marriage thing, man.
2006-10-20 20:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by dotman10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're missing the point. If you separate sex and love then you really just have sex with your wife instead of making love with her. With a threesome, you're consenting to cheat on your spouse in their presence, not to mention the health and pregnancy risks involved. By the way, the stories I have heard on threesomes don't usually end well. The guy leaves his wife for the other woman or the woman leaves her husband for the other woman.
2006-10-20 03:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO!...I don't know one single relationship that has tried this and it didn't end in a catastrophy. PLEASE don't do this to your marriage. You will always wonder things in the back of your head about that woman, or being with another woman after that. Worse than that even, your wife will wonder what you are thinking about when you're having sex with her. Jealously is an evil beast and breeds mis-trust, even though you can separate love from sex. Would you want to see another guy bangin' the brains out of your beautiful wife? The woman you chose to make your life with forever? How would you feel afterwards, even if she "never talked" to him again?
Please think LONG AND HARD first!
2006-10-20 03:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Big and Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have your ground rules laid-out, than go for it. It sounds like you two have discussed it in length and are on the same page about it.
From personal experience, though, it will:
1. be very hard to find a single bi-woman to have a threesome with (this is why most threesomes end up happening with someone you know), we call them "unicorns" because they are just about as common as one.
2. Like any woman, most likely she won't want the same "never talk to them again" thing, she won't want to feel like she has been used by you.
and
3. You usually get to be friends with them. Which isn't a bad thing. If it is, you might want to rethink the "adding another person to the mix" thing because it sounds like you are already worried about something, and that is a warning sign of some jealousy somewhere. It's great to be cautious, but in my opinion that might be a little too so.
As a post note, trusting advice about a threesome from somone whose never had one is like trusting advice about rock climbing from someone whose never rock climbed. That's most of the people answering negatively here.
2006-10-20 03:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you can seperate now, but TRUST ME, it will all change once you get to pumping! If this is a woman, you honestly think your wife will be able to be secure after knowing her husband has been screwing another woman? What is missing in your marriage that you would need to bring in a third party?
Would you consider her being with another man and you? And I'm talking about another man screwing your wife?
Threesomes are bad news, especially for a married couple. Bad move.
2006-10-20 03:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by 11:11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! Me and my husband do it all the time and we have never had an incident. What you have to remember is, your wife wants to keep you happy. So therefore you have to respect all boundaries. Don't get all turned out by the other woman no matter how beautiful she is and think of the woman as another object that your are using for your kinky games you play. One more thing, just for the sake of arguement if the thing does go down, don't pressure her to keep doing it and mentioning the other woman, let her keep all contact with her don't give her you phone number or don't take hers. Let your wife keep total control of the situation, and I guarantee you, there will be no issue.
2006-10-20 03:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by cbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I got married, my husband and I considered this, too. It was a huge fantasty of his and I always wanted to be with a woman as well. But weighing it out, we decided not to (although I'm sure he'd still jump at the chance if given.)
From my point of view, it would ruin our relationship. A marriage is a sacred thing.
2006-10-20 03:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a very exciting idea. Potentially dangerous, mentally and physically. I think it makes NO sense to have sex with someone you never plan to see again. If if you can separate sex and love (I can't), I think you should do it 100 times at least just to justify the disease risk, however small.
Two women, wow, gets me realy excited just to fantasize. 12 would be even more fun. One is probably really best for sanity.
2006-10-20 03:25:54 · answer #11 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋