My husband filed for divorce 1 month ago. He left for Australia for a "job" on 10/10/06 he was off of the plane in Melbourne not 3 hrs and called me begging for money for a return ticket. I said no way. Somehow he made it back home on 10/16/06. I found out 2 days ago he has been having an affair, for a year, with a woman he met on the internet. She has been over here on several occasions. Supposedly she is wealthy. She had paid for him a 1 way ticket there and I dont know what happened to make him want to come home. He told me that the "job" would pay well and my four year old son and I would be very well taken care of!! What a sponge and a liar! I also found out my ex-mother- in- law knew about this and never told me! Now, she calls our mutual friends and asks them if I am being a good mother and if I'm keeping my house clean! Someone please advise!
2006-10-20 03:09:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
get a barring order!!
2006-10-20 03:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by pmca_dub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You become better than them. Show that the interfering does not bother you and that you have moved on. If your friends are real friends then they will tell your mother in law that you are a good mother and that you keep a clean house. You have to tell your husband straight that it's over and you know all about the affair and why he went to Australia and that you know that his mother knew. Inside you will feel all over the place but to them you have to show that you are strong and that you don't need them and there is no place for them in your life.
2006-10-20 05:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Tabbyfur aka patchy puss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married the guy BEFORE you had him checked out, and now you are learning the price of that.
Is the child his ? You can always move and use a post office box for a mailing address at the new place. Do not give out your home address. Do not have a listed phone number. Give a secondary message phone # to him if the child is his. If the child is his, let support services handle the child support, if not, count your blessings and be a LOT SMARTER with your next romance.
2006-10-20 03:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the divorce.
don't give him a penny.
he's a user.
write down the day he left and came back evidence for the divorce court..
don't speak to either except as required for child custody.
ask everyone else to not discuss you or your children .
mom probably knew about the job too. and is the same as the son.
lots of warped people out there.
perhaps also time to get new friends?
join some sort of support group for divorce or single moms see if parents without partners near you. good place to start make new friends, new life.
2006-10-20 03:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pass away or decrease all touch with them different than what you sense you are able to on your youngster sake. tell them to maintain there nostril out of what's now no longer there company. tell all and sundry the actuality as you spot it and chuckle at him he became an exceedingly stupid guy and truthfully could get what's coming to him. Make him pay as plenty toddler help as you will get the legal professionals in touch and sue the little sod. tell your youngster what and why your husband has carried out what he has carried out and by no ability ever take him decrease back no longer whilst quickly as. Your ex mom in regulation has no appropriate to do what she is doing given for a fashion long she knew approximately what became happening. She is making an attempt to apply the youngster as a weapon against you that's amazingly incorrect. recover from the cheating sod and pass on sturdy luck.
2016-10-02 12:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, from experience, heres a list of things to do.
1. tell the mother in law there is free bingo day and night down at the local community center for an entire 4 week period, thus, keeping her occupied for a bit.
2. tell your ex that channel 4 are showing non stop episodes of neighbours and home and away for the next six months, thus, keeping him glued to the tv and off your back.
3. get yourself a local solicitor, preferably good looking, and offer to talk your plans over a candle lit dinner.
4. if the mother in law prizes herself away from bingo for long enough to call your friends, tell your friends to tell her you are currently talking over a private education proposal with a very handsome professor for your sons future, and that you wont be home for a few days, but if she needs to contact you, she can leave a message with your live in domestic cleaner.
this will please the mother in law but she will secretly seethe in her own jealousy, which in turn should please you immensly.
you deserve to be happy hun, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on, you can do it hun.
hope all works out for you
good luck
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2006-10-20 03:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh,dear the dreaded mother-in-law.
Yikes though,i would tell your "mutual" friends to tell her to mind her business,or if you cant trust them you need to ditch them,as if they were friends,they wouldn't get involved in this campaign your mum-in-law has going against you,and would support you more.
I think as your getting divorced from ex,maybe the friends should go if they are Tellling your mum-in-law stuff.Change your phone number well.
Well,your ex,sounds a real charmer,going off with someone from Internet,and in a way,at least you found out and getting rid of him,hes obviously a loser,and your so much better than that.
You will one day hopefully laugh at this and for now,you have to get friends you trust,and that negative interfering mum--in-law has to be told to butt out and mind her own darn business.You think she would have better things to do
But i guess she is bound to stick on her sons side,and hes probably asked her to spy on you.Cheeky mare.
I hope you find a great guy when your ready and one who will cherish you,for you,and not be a loser that cant be faithful like the ex,i say your best out of that family,they sound like a right load of psychos.Good luck Sweetie.:):)
By the way,what business is it of hers or anyones if you have a clean house or seeing anyone.Hey,some of the best mums have mucky homes at times as they are being with and loving their kids,crikey,i bet your a great mum.i think your hubby has ideas of getting back with you,if your mum-in-law is spying to see if your still a single mum.What a darn nerve huh?
Theres a lot of great guys out there and thank god not all men are like that.
2006-10-20 03:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by ann123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be indifferent with them. :-) Indifference drives people crazy. Don't let them know that you know they're spying on you. Instead build a much better life for you and your son than you ever would've had with him.
If you really want her to know though, that she's checking up on you... call her and say, "Thanks for being so concerned that you ask my friends about me. I just want you to know that we're very happy." If she tries to be "fake sympathetic", just say, "Bye bye" and hang up on her. Be cheerful about it. Then pack up your bags and move out of hearing distance from her, change your phone numbers, id names, etc. Don't look back.
You'd have to ask your friends not to let her know about your whereabouts though. If the boy is also your husband's son, then he would have a right to visitations. :-( His contact with you can be at your place of employment, or some other arrangement which might be more convenient for you.
It matters not what happened to him "over there", what matters most is the well-being of you and your son right now. Take care of you, cause no one else will.
2006-10-20 20:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put as much distance between you as possible, (maybe you should think about Australia if he back!). Realistically visit your lawyer and be careful what you say to "mutual" friends to make sure that none of them are stirring. Dont even give her the time of day. Good Luck.
2006-10-24 00:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Katslife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to say, to a few well chosen friends so that you are sure that it will get back to her is, "Unfortunately, under the advice of my lawyer, until we decide what actions we will be taking, I just really can't discuss this." That will make her wonder- Sometimes giving just a minimal amount of information can drive the other person batty. This should do it.
2006-10-20 03:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A restraining order, fight him on custody, and consult yr lawyer about the gossip and questions.
Prepare for war, you are in one, and no mistake. People can get incredibly petty. Find a support group or two, and network for advice.
http://www.211.org/
http://www.sassypinkpeppers.com/home.asp
http://mentalhelp.net
http://www.feelinggood.com
http://www.adaa.org
Now, I'm a guy. Plz don't go sour, all guys are not like that. Women have done me wrong, it was that woman, not ALL women, okay?
2006-10-20 03:19:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋