no life, no looks, no friends, no ability to dicipline myself constuctivel without having a nervous collapse!!

Question

Due to lack of concentration and always looking into myself I struggled to be able to socialize and perform well work collegues. I suffer with anxiety and panic attacks and cannot handle any kind of adult pressure(such as adult responsibilities towards people). Since childhood i've always fell looking inside myself and talking to myself openly in public and not been able to recognize social needs and circumstances.This has left me on a downward circle of isolation and soclusion which is understandable, however needs addressing. I would love to know more about what i want from life and relationships, and to discover who i truely am and how to fight my self protective ego. THANK YOU FOR READING!

Answer 1

Well, you certainly do not have a problem expressing yourself in writing. I think perhaps you just need to give yourself a little more credit. No one is good at everything. Good luck and God bless

Answer 2

To accomplish this, it is going to take a lot of discipline. Start by making a list of your personal morals and values, make a second list of how others act in social situations. When you are out in public, try doing some of the things you see others doing, like starting conversations with strangers. Think about what you are saying, especially in relevance to how it will make the other person feel. If you find yourself saying things that are mean or untrue, that usually points to some self-esteem and ego issues. You need to think long and hard about why you said it, and be specific - does this other person make you uncomfortable? Why? What can YOU do to make yourself more at ease? Also remember to tell yourself that the hurtful comment is not right, that it is not okay to say or even think that way.
When you are mimicing others behavior in public situations remember to keep your morals in mind. If someone is lying and you disagree with that DON'T mimic it. The list is only to help you get a general idea how to function.
Remember too that if you have been asked to make a commitment and accept it (adult responsibilities) that is *YOUR* responsibility. It is now a priority. Don't agree to something just because you want someone to like you, make sure you can do it, that the time is available, and that it is not something you are going to change your mind about halfway through.
As I said in the beginning, this is NOT and easy thing to accomplish, but nothing worthwhile ever is. Don't be upset if it doesn't turn out perfectly the first time, or if you don't suddenly have tons of friends in a couple of weeks, look for the small victories, like having a simple conversation with a complete stranger, or holding to a commitment you've made to someone - even if it's a simple as getting them a cup of coffee when they asked you to (assuming you've agreed to do so).

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Do some deep thinking about wat u want in life and where u want to be in 5 years time.U sound like u have no confidence of urself..AT ALL.U can start by getting to no ur colleague more or go join a club or somethin to widen ur circle of friends.Read motivation books or listen to motivation song to get urself inspired on life.Life will throw curves at u so there will be many setbacks u have to face.
It is easy to feel jaded about life n carrer.But it is important to keep an open mind tat life is filled w opprtunities for learning and xploring

Answer 4

You know I have the simular situation going on in my life, I am and can be depressed, I go through panic disorders as well as anxiety. I have learnd how to control it to some degree but at times it does come back. I have no problem with being around people as a matter of fact I love the attention, but what I don't like is the constant pressure of people telling me what I should be doing and what I should be doing, it drives me crazy! I had to discover for myself what I was all about of course I am still searching because there are times that I think I have it figured out and then all of a sudden I don't.

I have a good marriage up to a point and what I mean is because there are things that this 41 year old feels that is not being met by her husband. He tries to do everything for me but it never seems to be enough for me. But we do communicate and tell each other what is on our minds and yes it helps so 18 years is not a nightmare for me actually it is good at times.

I have talked to myself but I focus it on talking to Jesus when I feel that my situation cannot be taken care of by me. So far I haven't drifted any further down at all if anything I have learned to be strong dispite all of the things that are going on in my life.

Now this is for you: You can fight that ego problem because it is simply an emotion that can be taken care of for one try to reach out to those that are willing to help you and talk with you, Try to look for all of the good qualities about you that makes you be you, trust me I had to do that plenty of times and so far I can see who I am for the first time, I am beautiful, smart and intelligent and love to talk with people and have fun at the same time. You can do that to just try it and see what happens. As far as relationships go be patient on this one because I am married and believe it or not men are flocking on my Instant messenger to speak to me only because they do find me interesting. And I am not pushing the situation believe me. So on relationships take your time and be patient there will be a man that comes along and will be the man of your dreams, he will take care of you in ways that you have never been taken care of before.

Just have faith in yourself and believe I did and I am glad that I did!
I hope that this has helped you and have peace and good luck my friend :)

Answer 5

Many are in the same boat as you. One difference, however, many don't like to admit to themselves that they are in that boat of isolation. At least you realize it. That's a big step forward. Just remember we live in a competitive society, we have to take the wins with the losses. So don't get down on yourself when you lose, we all lose. Only the strong pick themselves up and continue to try.

Answer 6

I sorry you feel like this, but you need to get tougher skin. You feel like this because i assume that you have low self-esteem. People is not going to like you for what every reason, because your white or black or fat or skinny, rich or poor etc.., They just won't. This doesn't mean to go into yourself for comfort. You must stand your ground. Be strong for yourself. Have confidence in everything and anything you do. You will go far if you do these things. Good luck

Answer 7

what's the question? Oh sorry, i did no longer recommend it that way. purely relish existence, do no longer think of with regard to the pressures of daily existence. somebody available cares for you. somebody else rather does care. attempt to discover those human beings, panic assaults are formed in ones head, so I recommend think of and relax once you're dealing with it. purely relax, meditate probable, this helps the thoughts soothe itself and look in direction of a greater advantageous initiate, a greater advantageous day, or perhaps a greater advantageous existence. pass with the pass of existence. do no longer combat it, relish it, relish each and every 2d of existence. that would sound too consumer-friendly for me to declare, even with the undeniable fact that it keeps the thoughts attracted to different issues that make existence so captivating. So, relish YOUR existence! Have a brilliant Day!

Answer 8

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