Okay, Ive been with my boyfriend for four years off and on, but two years straight and things were going really well between the two of us. Lately things have gotten kinda rocky though because my mama keeps saying negative things about him and its really starting to piss me off. Its like she cant see the good things he has done for us and how he helped her out when she needed help the most with money and things. But it seems like my boyfriend and i's relationship is starting to fall apart and that the strong love we had for each other is starting to become weaker. its to the point where we have bad fights almost everyday and i dont really smile as much anymore, i cry more than i smile now. he doesnt even like to come around my house anymore because my mama will say he acts like a big kid or she will find something negative to say about him. tomorrow my boyfriend, our newborn baby, and i are suppose to have a family day out but hes been acting really irritated. i need advice please!!!!!
2006-10-20 03:02:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also latley when we have our big fights, one of us always seems to say maybe we should just break up and leave everything alone, but when i mentioned that to my boyfriend the other day, he said that neither one of us would be truely happy because the person we really love is somewhere out there. im really lost and dont know what to do anymore. can someone pls help me out?!!
2006-10-20 03:04:43 · update #1
my boyfriend wants for both of us to be happy together and not have to worry about breaking up or not working out. he wants everything to work out and he wants the plans we made for the future to still come true. and yes we are a young couple.
2006-10-20 03:44:43 · update #2
You need to step back and think about how YOU feel about him, not your mom. Ultimately it is you that will have to spend your life with him, not her. If you decide that you truly want to be with him you may need to make arangements to move out of your mom's house. I am assuming this is a very serious relationship as you mentioned having a newborn baby. Sit down with him and have a serious discussion with him about the future, for you him and your child. And then sit down and have a similar conversation with your mom. You need to let her know what you have decided and that she needs to stop. Now that you all are a family he needs to be treated with respect. She does not have to like him but she needs to respect him as the father of her grandchild.
2006-10-20 03:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is are you guys fighting mostly because of the stuff that your mother has said about him ? Why aren't you guys living together instead of you living with your mom.?Is what your mom saying about him true?Unfortunately the fact is you're living with your mom and not your boyfriend.She's paying the rent and helping to take care of you so she feels like she has the right to say whatever she wants.She might be kinda mad at him for not supporting you financially .Are you guys really young or something?I can understand you living with her if your''re both too young to support yourselves.You need to sit down and have an honest talk with your boyfriend.If hes the father of your child then it's important that you do that. if you're not getting along only because of your mother than meet him somewhere else and not at her house.Keep them separated for a while and see if things improve after that. If he is falling out of love with you then you need to know that too. Why would he say something like he said about the right person being out there for both of you unless he was thinking that was true?You know,anyone can break up, that's easy. The hard thing is to stay together and work things out.If he still loves you and you love him then try to get your own place!
2006-10-20 10:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Yahooanswerssux 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in the house with someone else such as your mother. It does take a toll on any relationship. The only way there is to get away from some of the stress is to try to meet each other in some other surroundings. If possible try getting your own place. You'll see less stress and arguments from both sides mother included.
2006-10-20 10:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up for adoption and move on with your life, that wouldn't enclude your mother...........
2006-10-20 10:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not getting between you and your momma!!!!!!!!
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2006-10-20 10:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋