I swear to God, it seems like there is a damn "edit" switch in my life.
I can't even write in my journal without pretending or editing a bit just in case someone reads...
2006-10-20 02:57:55 · 27 answers · asked by falzalnz 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I used to walk the line. I always had the perfect life, because that was the image that I projected by editing out all the other crap, but the older I get, the more I realize that we are only on this earth for such a brief time, and we have to live our lives to the fullest...all of it.
2006-10-20 03:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by forgottenprincess 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I do.
But more because I like my privacy than because I have to tailor things to suit others; those days are way gone for me now.
Mind, I will say that is why I quite like this venue. Here I don't really have to give a toss about a single thing, so I get pretty cavalier sometimes.
I dunno if it's therapeutic to have a right rant and a moan, or spout bigotry and impatience all over the place, or just plain good fun.
Probably both.
Everybody should have at least some privacy in the other world though. The rules are different out there.
2006-10-20 03:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've known that feeling for as long as I can remember - everything we do, we do with at least a bit of wonder about someone else might think. We play different roles for each different person we know and up to a point, that is fine and even necessary, but no one is comfortable with someone with whom you cannot let your hair down and just be yourself. You can't spend your life walking on egg shells in order to avoid someone else's scolding and unsolicited opinions. Even at my age of 55, if my elder sister saw some some of the things that I write on this site and my blogs, she would have a heart attack. We had a falling out when she started to pontificate piety to me a few months ago. The role of "dumb little brother" may have been alright 45 years ago, but it got old a long time ago. I finally decided that peace with myself was more important than peace with any one person. I trust my own self better than I ever have before, despite my shortcomings. No one needs a family matriarch to take the place of deceased parents.
Firmly and courteously stand your ground with all persons, don't ever apologize for who you are, only for occasional poor manners, which we all display at times, answer only to God, as YOU perceive him.
Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. --- from Don Miguel Ruiz's book, The Four Agreements
2006-10-20 03:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cool question.
I think most people edit their lives.
You share a bit of your history with one person, but not another. You act freely with one group of friends, but more conservative with another.
I think it is natural. Except when you edit the REAL you. Your sexuality, your needs and wants.
I can understanding having to be protective of your journal.
I had a code in my journal as a teen.
I would draw a box, or a spiral, or a triangle in the top corner of each page that reflected a situation that occurred in my life that I didn't want anyone else to know.
In the ultimate act of editing I burnt nearly a decades worth of journals when I moved in with my partner. Too much history that no longer mattered.
2006-10-20 03:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by gideon9595 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I use the full suite of Adobe LifeShop 8.0 products. I'm able to create, edit and alter my life in order to suit those around me! The best part is, I get to save a "master" file of my life so in case I loose bits and pieces over the years, I can always start over from the original. Never ever loose the original file...or you're screwed.
2006-10-20 04:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by gotalife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I'm glad that I'm not the only one suffering from this problem. There are many times that I write in my journal, and then all of a sudden I think, 'wait a minute, is this true of me?' Crazy, I know...sometimes I can't turn off that voice in my head. It drives me nuts. I am 28 yrs. old and just a few days ago, I feel like I'm finally starting to feel comfortable about myself. All my life I've been taught to please so many people that I feel like a fake person! I don't even know what I like sometimes b/c I'm so used to "editing" it to please people (i.e. parents). I must've gotten it from my father b/c he is a people pleaser, so everything I did he had to control or correct. Now that trait has been passed on to me, and my real self has been trapped for so many years that I'm just starting to get to know the real me. I think that has something to do with feeling "free." You know...that term everyone likes to say, but have no clue how to get there. I think knowing who you are and learning to love yourself are ways that lead us to freedom. And everything else follows after that...
2006-10-20 03:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rosseau 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all the time. I am the mother of 3 children and a husband that works nights. I tell tired hubby what he wants to hear because he is a cranky butt. Kids are just kids, they just keep you busy, but it doesn't matter if they like what I have to say. At work, to keep the peace, you say something that others don't agree with, so you try and sugar coat it, so you end up seeming like a wishy washy pushover. You do this all just to keep the dam peace in your own little world.
2006-10-20 03:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
but sometimes you just have to think stuff everything I am allowed to be who I am. We have to except other people, so they can pay us the same courtesy back. If they really don't like who you are, it is their loss. Find people who are like you and hypothetically if anyone ever was nosey enough to read your journal, then they are just plain rude and don't have their own life.. Just be yourself..
2006-10-20 03:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have always done this,It seems like i also lower my standers to please people some time's especially my husband,It is like i am a human doormat. Everyone likes to walk on and i take it so i don't hurt there feeling's,But i do not see them laying down for me.Whew i feel better now that i have vented. Have a great day.
2006-10-20 03:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by tr2thhrt 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes. I have to agree with you.
I change myself for one person I can't help it it just happens.
I don't care what people think of me I strive to look so misplaced in the world that It makes people change their view slightly without even realizing it
2006-10-20 03:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by chexmix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋