my mom said she didn;t even want to talk to me about it and was worried that we were making a mistake. I told her that even though we are not rich our kids have never been without the necessities of life, and a third would not change that. She made me cry and doubt myself, how can I get thru this 9 months without letting her affect me like that?
2006-10-20 02:53:59 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sometimes a parent's expectations of their kids make them say stupid things, but she has no business telling you that you are making a mistake. It is up to you and hubby whether to have three or ten! We are not rich either, my hubby is self-employed and I stay home with our four kids. Of couse we struggle sometimes, but our kids have what they need. You tell her if she can't be happy for you, then to keep her mouth shut because no one needs that kind of negativity during what should be a time of great joy. If she does it again, refuse to talk to her or let her see the other kids, at least temporarily until she comes to her senses. Congratulations and best of luck.
2006-10-20 03:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by prismcat38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pregnancy is a very beautiful state, which you have to go through very calmly and happily! You and your husband know what you're doing so, calm down and don't let the others spoil this marvelous thing which is pregnancy and also your happiness.
I got pregnant last year and the company I worked for four years didn't renew my contract. Imagine the situation; unemployed with a new member in the family! Well, I didn't let it spoil my 9- months pregnancy.
Your mum should be happy for you and try to help instead of annoying you: tell her that!
Be happy and enjoy your new baby!
2006-10-20 03:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ana GG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soon to be in that position myself. I have 2 by my ex and left several months ago after 5 years of abuse. I have been seeing this wonderful man and we found out earlier this week i'm pregnant. My mother made me feel like that when I was pregnant with my first two. She had the nerve to tell me before my child was born that I was not fit to be a mother. After that I decided to distance myself from her for a few months. I did explain to her why and eventually she came around. It was very hard not to call her each time I went to the doctor but I told her that she had crossed a boundry that I was not pleased about. She's is going to completely flip out on me this time. But I'm waiting until I really start showing to tell anyone. If anything tell her how you feel if not in person then write her a letter and send it to her.
BEST OF LUCK!
2006-10-20 03:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by aivey318 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' worry about your mother. You and your hubby is the only two in your world (plus the other 2 kids you have) that should be influencing whether or not you are happy with 3 kids. If he is and you are, as well as your other children on having a new baby, then tell your mom to butt out and keep her mouth shut that's it's none of her business and that her opinions are unwanted and unfounded.
2006-10-20 03:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be happy and supporting you.
My husband and I have 3 kids and Im pregnant with my 4th now and we are by no means rich. But our children dont go without. Sure my mom has made remarks, but all in all she is happy and excited to have another grandchild. Just tell her how she is making you feel and that you dont need to feel like htat when your pregnant. You have enough going on in your body right now to have to deal with that.Congratulations and good luck!
2006-10-20 02:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it, you know what and what you can't do. Sit back an enjoy your pregnancy. How many kids did your mom have, they are always the ones who open their mouths first, the ones who had a lot of kid's themselves. As long as you husband/boyfriend isn't complaining then just don't worry. Tell her the next time you chat that you hope it's twins, that should shut her up. There is always room for one more.................you always find a way. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-20 03:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your mom. She is probably just in shock that she will have a third grand child. As long as you and your husband know that you can take care of that child then don't worry about it. She will come around. You just need to worry about you and your kids. Not your mother, she just needs some time to cope thats all.
2006-10-20 02:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you mother is not being supportive right now when you need her to be. If you are happy than don't let her bother you. She may just be concerned and isn't showing her concern very well. I'm sure she will come around. Don't doubt yourself - if you have to stay away from you mom to regroup than do that.
2006-10-20 03:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is harsh, but don't talk to the b*tch if she continues to express this concern throughout your pregnancy. I'm sorry but it just makes me mad, and I don't even know you guys. But regardless of how she feels, she shouldn't be so callous as to continue to tell you it's a mistake. Her job as a parent is to give you support and understanding. And trust me, you'll have face when she oooing and aaahhing over the baby when it gets here.
2006-10-20 03:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a topic that many will fight me on but heres what i have to say about it. if your mom is filling your life with negativity then she doesnt need to be a part of your life. being blood related to someone doesnt give them the right to be a part of your life, being a positive influence, one of love, and understanding does!!! in other words remove her from your life unless she can be a more supportive influence
2006-10-20 03:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋