Been friends with him for almost a year and are pretty close, but recently-about a month now-when he mentions girls to me (some love interests) he keeps implying that im jealous in a joky way. Sometimes he implies but other times he's direct.
Eg. he said to me "hypothetically, what would you do or say if i told u i have a g/f?" and i replied "i wouldnt do or say anything, but id be curious to know who she is"
and then he replied "yeah, and then after that you'd probably hunt her down and tell her to stay away from 'my (***)' "
stuff like that
and he keeps mentioning girls to me, even though i know that he hasnt got a g/f but he claims to fancy this girl at his uni
Some say that he tries to make me jealous and play with my mind, whereas others say that he just wants to joke and chat about these girls he is interested in
If i talk to him about it, im worried that either i'll embarass HIM or MYSELF!
I dont know what to think or do - any advice?
P.S (***) = his name
2006-10-20 02:27:52 · 19 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, and he doesnt talk about girls ALL the time but often enough, and when he does, he tends to say stuff like that.
2006-10-20 02:28:50 · update #1
why dont you just kinda gp - "jeez anyone would think you're trying to make me jealous the way you go on" and see what his reaction is - you've opened the door for him to either laugh it off (he doesnt fancy you) or ask you if hes succeeding in making you jealous (he does fancy you!)
Good luck hun xx
2006-10-20 02:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe it is trying to feel out the situation with you. He may want to try and push things further, without risking what you have. Every guy knows that once in the friend zone, it is very hard to get out. But he may be making the effort.
You also need to look at the possibility of if you do come off jealous. Many times women do not realize how their attitude and reactions are precieved. If you start asking 20 questions about the girls he dates/is intereste in, it can come off as more than just interested. If you bash the girl at all, it could again come off as jealous. Mind you, I am not saying you are interested in him or jealous, but it often appears that way. Just remember, he is a guy and guages your reactions based upon how he thinks a guy would react. Be careful when talking to him about girls, you may want to let him really just do most of the talking, vent a little. Do not avoid the subject, or it will seem to him that you are even more interested than he may think you are already.
2006-10-20 02:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Craig B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how do you really feel about him? Have you guys ever had sex? These are the things that other people might wonder. Whether you did or didn't, the next time he says things like that to you and your not interested in a relationship with him you need to nip it. Ask him why is he saying these things to you and let him know exactly were he stands and will always stand. You not a mind reader so stop trying and make him tell you. Make him express himself open and honestly. Then go from there.
2006-10-20 03:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is flirting with you and wondering if he has got any chance with you. If you are not interested you need to be direct and very clear with how you answer him or tell him that you do not like how he is talking to you. If you are interested then again you need to be direct with him say something along the lines that i find you attractive like alot of girls would im only human after all, but that does not mean i get jealous. That sort of thing. Or alternatively if he is playing around saying would you be jealous just reply by saying in your dreams matey.
2006-10-20 02:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possible reasons for this:
1) He just has a big ego and assumes that every girl fancies him.
or
2) He doesn't have the confidence to tell you directly that he fancies you, so he is playing this game to see how you react.
Next time he says that just politely tell him you don't fancy him but like him as a friend. It could destroy your friendship otherwise.
2006-10-20 02:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him flat out that you have absolutely no romantic interest in him, that you value your friendship though and you are happy he is in your life. I have a sneaking suspicion that he likes you romantically though, and that is why he is trying to get a reaction out of you. Are you sure that you don't get jealous though, just a little bit. Best friends can make the best lovers you know. Frienships aren't always ruined by getting romantic. Some of the best relationships start out as friendships.
2006-10-20 02:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by firefly2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if he's the one with the feelings for you and is testing the water to see if you feel the same way... if he's as good a friend as you say you should be able to talk to him about it, just be honest and ok it might be a bit cringy at 1st but it should be ok, what i would do is invite him out or round for a few drinks wait until your both a bit tipsy and then broach the subject, the truth always comes out with alcahol.
2006-10-20 02:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound as though he is testing the water ... if you are a good friend you should just come out and ask him .. clearing the air will either let you know he wants you or make the way clear for your friendship to get better and better.
if he goes all weird then he wasnt as good a friend as you thought and it is better to find that out too!
2006-10-20 02:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend assumes you like him. I think your friend is trying to figure out if you like him. Based on these type of questions, it sounds like he likes you and is trying to figure out if you like him back. He is joking about it, because it puts less pressure on him, if you don't really like him.
I think you need to have a talk with him. Let him know his round of questions is bothering you and you would appreciate if he did not do it in the future. However, when he does finally get a girlfriend, mention NOT you, you won't mind if he comes to your for advice, you would like to meet her, etc...
Good Luck!
2006-10-20 02:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by SNK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he is a little full of himself.You should get a date and go out with him. Then maybe your friend will see that you have no feelings for him that are more than just friendship. or you can try by just telling him flat out!
2006-10-20 02:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋