I get really aroused to imagine being a girl. I sometimes dress in my girlfriend's clothes when she is out. Should I tell her or keep it secret?
2006-10-20 02:10:39 · 27 answers · asked by Nature_Boy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh.. um i think u should tell your girlfriend, and talk about this!
2006-10-20 02:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by Janey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I mean do you fantasies being with men when you are in these clothes ? or you just admore women so much that you feel that you would be more confertible as a female ? It dosent necesarily mean your gay or bi, its just a twisted little thing you like to do. Tell your girlfriend that the other day you were watching a show on guys that do that, and see what she says...depending on what she says then you will know whats the next step.
Eventualy, she will find out you know, but go ahead and do this first ok.
2006-10-20 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this means you are a transvestite, a man WHO gets sexually aroused by wearing the opposite sexes clothes, a majority of men who are transvestites and have no desire to be a woman or sleep with men, its a common misconception amongst people who don't know any better.
try sounding her out about it mention in it in passing see what her reaction would be, obviously not all women would like the fact that their blokes are running round in their best dresses,probably better than her walking in on you decked out in your full splendour.
also try support groups, these can usually be found by search engines on the Internet, you will be surprised how many others there are apart from you, who can give support to you and your girlfriend may also get support from other partners of transvestites
2006-10-20 20:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women are turned on by crossdressing and alot of women are not. I wouldn't just spring it on her, especially since you've worn her clothes.
You are a crossdresser. That's someone who gets sexually arroused by wearing clothing of the opposite sex, and it usually starts in puberty hence the strong sexual connection. Most crossdressers are heterosexual. Its a kink you will have for the rest of your life. You can either choose to ignore it (if you can), or you can find an outlet to release the built up stress.
While it would be nice if your g/f was one of those turned on by it, don't be surprised if you lose her. You can choose to go behind her back and explore this, but you will eventually get caught because there are some humiliation aspects to this that may cause you to self sabotage.
You are going to have to tell her because living a lie will eat you up inside. What my ex husband said to me when we first met what simply that there was something he needed to tell me about himself and that he wore womens clothing sometimes. However he isn't a crossdresser, he's a transvestite, he never had a sexual response to wearing women's clothes. He could also pass as a woman and is a very successful Drag Queen. Just so you know, it did factor into our divorce, but only because I got tired of competing with his other life.
If your g/f is a self confident intelligent young woman, she will be ok with this because she will understand that its no threat to her, and it has nothing to do with your sexual life with her, she hasn't failed you in some way. I suggest if she wants to explore it, you suggest she pick out some clothes for you, start with panties and thigh highs, maybe a silky nightie. Incorporate it into your sex life but don't make it the only thing you want to do. That's not fair to her at all. Let her set the pace.
If you lose this one, find one that is turned on by this. I can tell you many women are, so you want to look for a dominant female. Your local BDSM community can be of help as well. Good luck to you, and stop wearing her clothes. That's just icky.
2006-10-20 09:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think you should not be wearing your girlfriends clothes
buy your own then you will not have problems with that
if you and your girlfriend are serous you should tell her but i would not tell her you wear her clothes she will freak out and feel dirty
i think you really need to work out what your own feelings are
about being the other sex
you could be a transvistite
a transgender
or a transsexual
there are many different levels of this and you may need some treatment here are some on line test that may help you in the search for who you really are
http://transsexual.org/Ttestpages1.html
http://community.sparknotes.com/gender/
http://community.sparknotes.com/wench/
http://transsexual.org/cgi-bin/mj-test.exe?
there are many more out there
but the COGIATI test seems to be one of the best
good luck with what ever you do
2006-10-21 04:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off, Just because you might want to dress in girls clothes does not mean your gay, most crossdressers are straight and its nowhere near as uncommon as you might think. deciding if to tell or not is only somthing you will know, if you have been together a long time or its serious then maybe you should aproach the subject, it would be sooo much worse if she came home and caught you, if its not serious then might be a good idea to keep it your little secret
2006-10-22 08:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that uncommon. I have had a lot of transgendered (born male) hit on me (I'm a girl) in the gay clubs. Just because you identify as a woman doesn't mean you can't like girls. And even if you like guys and are transgendered - that is totally cool too!
If you really care about your g/f, you should tell her. Otherwise, get out of the relationship - if you aren't going to be honest with her.
2006-10-20 09:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start out being a female impersonator or drag queen. A lot of people have fantasies. But you can live the life of a woman without surgery. Halloween is coming up. Tell your girlfriend you want to go as a girl and see what her reaction is. That way you can ease her into it.
2006-10-20 09:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by gc27858 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say how old you are but I assume you're at least a teen. Lots of boys have crossdressing and role-reversal fantasies. It depends on what roles you want to experience. Are you pretty when you dress "girly? Are you cute enough to attract boys? Do you want to be your girlfriend's lesbian lover, or do you want to be some boy's girlfriend? Do you admire girls and want to be one of them or do you want to find out what it's like for a girl to have to pleasure her boyfriend? Some boys like to be submissive to their GFs and like to be forced into being girly. Boys who are ashamed to admit they're gay can pretend to be a girl having sex with a boy. Confusing, isn't it? Yes. You should talk to her about it. Ease into it. Maybe ask if you can try on her panties first.She might even like the idea. or she might dump you.. It's important that you try different things and experience as many of your fantasies as possible. Good luck and have fun..
2006-10-21 00:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by debbysfemail 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fantasizing about being female can be a common male occurrance in some people, and is not in itself something to worry about, though perhaps when you try to make that reality is when it is worth talking it through with someone.
In any case, I think it might be a little inconsiderate of you to get her clothes all sweaty and dirty. If you want to keep wearing women's clothing, I'd suggest you talk to her about it. Who knows; she might even relish the opportunity to make you over and take you out shopping.
2006-10-20 09:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Explore your feminine side by all means but few girlfriends accept this so proceed with care. There is a chance that she has already smelt you on her clothes and may have her suspicions.
check this website and go to the chatroom for realtime help
www.trans-mission.org
2006-10-20 16:11:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋