we go to college together and i dont know what to say.... i told my tutor and she had a word with her and she did and she hasnt done anything about it can she not smell it????????????
2006-10-20 02:03:28 · 36 answers · asked by shell25leics 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
we brought her loads of stuff but she dont seem to use it.... it makes me sick when we eat dinner and i cant bear to look at her now
2006-10-20 02:07:33 · update #1
shes very over weight and its not a bo smell its like a feet dirty smell all over her even her bag smells
her neck has creases in it full of dirty and god i just dont know
i cant say anything i dont like confrontation
2006-10-20 02:23:30 · update #2
Unfortunately, no matter how you tell your friend that she has an "odor" she might be mad or just not even hear you. Just try to be as casual as you can, and say "I notice sometimes that you have an odor, that is not good. For your benefit, since you are my friend, you might want to take care of that problem, so you dont get made fun of or other things." something like that, caring and honest, but simple, use the conversation to her benefit.
hope it works out
2006-10-20 02:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by darkshadow300200 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know the very smell you mean. And as you can SEE the dirt in her neck creases, it is clear she is NOT WASHING regularly. As she is overweight she is probably sweating alot too and producing more dirt in her 'creases'.
As many people have said, you have to be CLEAR but still diplomatic. Just hinting doesn't work - you've tried it.
Sit her down and say 'look, I'm your friend, but this is getting to be too much for me to live with, and alot of other people talk about it, so I want to help you with it..." Be sympathetic but not patronising. You never know maybe she has a phobia about water? Have you seen her come out of a shower? Do you know if she washes at all?
Good luck, be nice but firm.
Or, you know what? Make up an email address, and send her the link to this question. That should make it VERY clear if you don't want the personal confrontation :)
2006-10-20 04:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by jamrx7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her odor could be a side effect or a sign of a medical issue or a medicine she takes...or poor hygine...
example my mom is a diabetic and has other health issues as well and she will sometimes have a body odor,she also perspires quite a bit...her doc told it could be a side effect of some of the medications she is on...
go to your friend and tell her you are concerned about her. she may have a health problem, ask her if shes ok.... ask her if shes on any strong medications... explain you don't want to hurt her feelings but her body odor is a cause for concern...tell her a body odor is sometimes a sign of a health problem....
It could be that whatever she uses ..soap deodrant could be not compatable with her body chemistry...kinda like an allergie...but with out hives....I have a friend who has this difficulty he has to use only one kind of soap and has to be careful which deodrant he buys.
some helpful suggestions :
baby powder...mixed with corn starch...if she is a person who perspires a lot this will help keep her dryer and fresher...
deodrant of course ...but rember some deodrants do not work well with some peoples body chemistry...suggest a different deodrant if she is using one perhaps its not working well with her body chemistry
Instead of perfumes which just make things worse in cases like these ...sugest an essential body oilyou can use it like perfume it lasts long and usually doesn't get that nasty smell if you are a little too liberal with it....its good for people with allergies as well. You could also talk to the scool nurse and let her handle it!
I hope this helps!....good luck!
2006-10-20 02:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a bit of online research about body odor (or breath odor - whichever applies), and find out what health conditions can cause body odor. (I think yeast/candida can, but I don't have my reference book handy to double check).
Then approach her from the aspect that you are worried about her health, because she is smells like she is decaying inside. You can say "I was reading about (insert result of your research) here, and it can really cause problems, with body odor being one of the symptoms. Are you sure you are ok?"
She can't smell it because the nose can tune out noxious odors over time.
My sister had to have her boss talk to her more than once. She got prescription deodorant, and has to take a change of clothing to work - in case. She has low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) and may have a systemic yeast syndrome (www.hufa.org has info on both these), but the cause of her body odor was not found.
It is under control more.
2006-10-20 02:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there are actually medical reasons for someone smelling offensive. It might be a medication they are being prescribed. They might have a chronic infection somewhere on their skin, in their lungs, or mouth. They might have had parents that never taught them about hygiene.
Being extremely polite and in a private place tell your friend that you indeed are her friend, but you have to tell her that she is offensive smelling. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her. Be her friend, but firmly emphasize that something needs to be done.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 02:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been in the same position!!! i ended up having a quiet chat and just told her in a very nice way. she was a bit offended but i think that was only because she didnt know what to say and was embarrassed. she did however say that she didnt want to use deodorant because of the aluminium in it. we are still really good pals and she still smells a fair bit. all our friends are used to it now, but it took a while. she uses some more natural deodorants but they only work for a while. its a hard one!
2006-10-20 02:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of stink do you mean bad breath or just throw her in the bath kind?
if its the breath buy her mints a big packet and some for you just ask her to eat them have some for your shelf so it does not seem like your saying anything.
if its the other kind buy her a shower/bath/body spray gift set as a gift say its an early Xmas gift and say treat your shelf more get some body spray it makes you feel great?
or just say it but don't expect her to talk to you again unless you be sutler goodluck.
2006-10-20 02:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by queen west 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes used to the stink, her nose no longer smells it!
Tell your friend gently, by offering to go shopping for nice smelly soap and antiperspirant with her. Hint that she needs to use them, if she says no then take the opportunity to say...yeah well, actually you do, youve got BO.
2006-10-20 02:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a personal hygiene issue. You have done what you can by buying her stuff.
She is your friend. She comes as a parcel. You just have to deal with it. No alternative.
But, if you consider her as your good friend and she does likewise then I think communication is the key. You ought to tell her gently. No one else will.
Or, you have to suffer in silence. Because you like all other things about her, right? Nobody is perfect. So, understand and accept.
2006-10-20 02:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very touchy situation! Maybe have a talk when you are alone together about what kind of deoderant, soap, etc. she uses and gently make a suggestion of something that might be better for her to try. Explain as carefully as possible that sometimes her products don't work as well as they should and you really care about her and don't want her to be embarrassed.
2006-10-20 02:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋