One of my friend in my college always encourages me to bunk classes but i dont want to bunk & if i dont bunk she gets angry & starts arguing with me. She not only encourages me to bunk but also makes me roam along with her around the area where dirty the boys are surrounded & i dont like going with her & she even has dirty friends who are one of the dirtiest boys. If i say no then again she starts arguing with me. So from since 1 week i'm not speaking to her & i'm not roaming with her. Because of this she started crying & all my other friends are blaming at me that because of me she's crying. What should i do? Should i compromise with her?
2006-10-20 01:51:18 · 15 answers · asked by nutan_nutty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi! i don't know you well but i can understand your problem see friends are a important part of life and true friendship is very rare.There is a difference between a friend and a companion.If that girl is your true friend then she'll not tell you to bunk class and take you to those worse places. I know that breaking friendship will hurt you but if you don't do that than whole life you have to cry.When you break friendship you'll feel lonley but than i am there for your friendship.My IDis bhavya_rj@ rediffmail.com
2006-10-20 03:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI NUTAN...
Well you have a geniune problem but not the tough to be taken saeriously....See you are studying in college so that means at least you are your friends are enough matured to no how this world is and whats good and bad for youself.
Just take your friend and seat in a lonely place and ask her certain questions as under...........
1} Why we people come to college.. for enjoyment or for building our carrer?
2} Roaming is not a wrong decision..but at the same time isnt it wrong to choose to bunk classes...what does our parents expect from us?BUNK CLASSES or built good future?
3} Every age would gice us the opportunity ti make our own decisions..right now whats important is studies...when we built our carrer and become enough independent to handle our life at that time we can go and find many good boys friend ..isnt it?
I hope these questions would make her realise the importance of life and career...
Even then if she doesnt want to change then am afraid that is getting attracted towards certain unwanted things which no doubt would lead her life in danger but also yours...
so in such case its better to stay away from her...
And lastly in this life no one is responsible for anyones cause..so if she cries thats her fault and not yours..so its better that you wont listen to anyone in this matter when she cries and dont feel yourself worng even if anyone blames you ok..
HAVE ANICE DAY ..TKCR.BYE BYE
2006-10-20 16:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by lalit_jain123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns - be your own person. Maybe sit down and speak to her about how you are serious about school and don't want to "bunk" (is that skip class?) with her besause you need to go to class. Getting good grades and graduating from college are very important - they may not be to her now, but down the road they will be. Take a look around at different jobs and what people are driving or living in. Picture where you want to be, and shoot for that goal. I like nice things and taking good vacations - in order to do that I have to have a well paying job and work hard.
2006-10-20 02:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by typewithnospaces 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into a group of NEW friends who value the opportunity they have to attend classes. There are many people in the world who never get that chance.
You don't have to be enemies with your old friend - just tell her that you have priorities in your life and that you plan on having a fabulously cool future! That starts with attending class, doing well and getting a good job eventually. She can either join you in your positive outlook or stay in her 'dirty' world which it seems she prefers.
Your instincts were 100% right to tell her you don't want to hang out with her dirty friends and that you don't want to bunk class. Real friends NEVER pressure you into anything you don't want to do.
There are many very cool, handsome, intelligent, humorous guys & girls you'd rather spend time with! People who attend class and put a lot of effort into their studies and work are more your kind of people. NB: YES, YOU CAN BE COOL AND BE A GOOD STUDENT! The two are not mutually exclusive. You need new friends. Congratulations on standing up for yourself and what you believe in!
Have a supergreatphenomenallyfantastic future with good grades and REAL friends that support, love and respect you!
2006-10-20 02:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by smurfie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. You are old enough to know your own mind. Just tell your friend that you appreciate her friendship but you want to attend college and do not want to bunk off. Tell her that tears will not change your mind and neither will her constant arguing with you. If you feel you need a bit of back up why don't you have a chat with a teacher or best of all your parents. Tell her you would like to stay friends with her but you will not be able to unless she backs off and lets you lead your own life.
2006-10-20 01:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by PHILIP C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
Live your own life! Don't let other people tell u how to live your life. U might be sorry later that u put your life on hold to make this person happy. If she's really your friend then she would not ask u to do something that u don't want. DON'T BUNK CLASSES!
Good Luck
2006-10-20 01:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by sissabrokenheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't compromise with her. You should put yourself and your schooling first. It sounds like this friend is manipulative and she will bring you down. You can just tell her that you can hang out with her after school, but that you're just not willing to jeopardize your future over this. Don't be made to feel bad because someone else is manipulating you by crying. That's just trying to get you to do what she wants. This relationship is bad for you as it is right now. Stand up for what you want and be strong! Good luck!
2006-10-20 01:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by brianscupcake2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really like her?
Does she really like you? If she does, than she will understand if you're not ok with bunking classes....One or another time, yeah, ok....but constantly, i think not...
And why in hell did she cry????!?!JUST BECAUSE U DIDNT BUNK CLASSES WITH HER???cmon....i think there are lots of other girls that know what r-e-s-p-e-c-t for other people's opinion is....If was a boy, I would dump her....
hope this was wort it
2006-10-20 01:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let others decide how you are going to lead your life. If you don't like all these just don't do it and tell her clearly that you can still be her friend but she can't force you to do these stuffs against your will. If she still doesn't understand, then it's better to ignore her rather than repenting later for ruining your own career. Hope you can make the right choice. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-20 02:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by 123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't compromise with her...if you don't want to bunk classes and hang around with dirty guys then good for you....if your friends are so concerned about her crying let them hang out with her....
2006-10-20 02:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋