2006-10-20 01:43:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it depend on how long this has been going on..it it has been going on for along time, then it sounds like he has forgotten that you and him are one..and that he is not respecting you..you can forgive anytime you choose, but when you forgive you have to forget..that is how it really should be..if this has been going on for along time..and you are willing to forgive him, also suggest that you and him can get some help to find out why he so angry..something is bothering him and it sounds like he may be taking it on you..blessings
2006-10-20 01:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by connie l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A partner that starts swearing at the other is sometimes having their own personal esteem issues that they vent out on the other. I was in a situation like this and came to realize that swearing, yelling, etc. is a form of verbal abuse. Also once it starts, it's hard if not impossible to get them to stop unless they resolve their personal issues. In my case it just got worse.
Can you forgive and forget? Since you are asking the question, I would say you are having difficulty doing one or both. If the swearing at you is ongoing, you will only be able to forgive for a while and forget forgetting. Words hurt and even though I could forigve, I couldn't forget the ugliness.
Can passion be lost and found again? I think so, but it's hard in a hostile environment. Good luck and do me one favor. If the swearing continues, please take a good look at whether you can live with this the rest of your life.
2006-10-20 01:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need more details luv... Is he physically abusive.. Is he verbally abusive over 30% of the time? Or ever?. Are you living a lie with him, thinking he is ooh sooo "what you need" but it is obvious to everyone else he's not?
Depends on the investment you have in this relationship...& your point of view.
Yes, you can forgive..........
But...... if you forgive and not forget
You carry " a greater guilt" than he.
Don't forgive then bring it up again, ever, ever...
You break a promise and declare you are untrustworthy if you do.
We all hope you come out "smellin roses", good luck
2006-10-20 01:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think swearing is something which should be easily forgiven as people often say things in the heat of the moment. Can lost passion be found...well that depends on how hard you are prepared to work at it
2006-10-20 01:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by Moth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swearing at you is a form of abuse and an attempt to control you. It can be death to a relationship.
Sure the passion can be there but the abuse can immediately follow.
Don't know how long you've been in this relationship but if I were you I'd be very careful and leary.
I suggest you pray for wisdom.
2006-10-20 01:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi 4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether the partner swears intentionally or not. Also depends on whether its part of constant abuse. If either of the above don't put up with it. If the swearing is a harmless part of his language not to harm anyone then there shouldn't be a problem.
2006-10-21 07:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by myra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend in what context they had sworn at me really. If it was just something silly of course I could forgive and forget - and would probably give back as good as I got anyway - particularly if it was a heated argument. However, if my other half was rude and put me down I wouldn't be impressed and would probably wonder what I was doing with that person anyway.
2006-10-20 01:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Ex partner used to swear and insult me sometimes in the day, but then she would expect me to forget it all later in the bedroom, which i found difficult !.
Luckily i got away from that situation.
Tell your partner you don't like it and wont put up with it and you wont tolerate it much longer.
You can forgive , but its hard to forget !!.
2006-10-20 02:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Blues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If swearing is a reason to end passion then your relationship does not have a chance. Relationships are built on trust, commitment, and shared goals. Passion is not the reason to have a relationship.
2006-10-20 01:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your partner is being verbally abusive then they have a problem and you shouldn't stand for it as it isn't right.
passion can be found again in a relationship as you need to talk and tell each other what you love about each other and what turns you on. try going out on dates again and reminding each other of what you fancied in the first place.
2006-10-20 01:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by slinky2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋