When you split up with exs do you always have small thoughts about them(eg what are they doin, how are they, do they still do things like you did together, do they still think of you) even if you really happy now and they were the worst partner in the world and you now realise how bad they were. Even when i was with the ex i had thought of the ex before that does anyone else know what i mean
2006-10-20 01:34:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Yes Tammy, I think that thinking of exes happen to everybody; it's normal because even the relationship wasn't so great with that person, that person has been part of your sentimental destiny for your personal evolution. Don't worry, it's still happen to me, I'm married, I have a baby and when things are not going so well with my husband then I think of somebody I met in the past and whom I have loved very deeply. You see, it's normal because we're human. Meanwhile, when the difficulties are settled and over these thoughts just vanish by themselves so don't give them too much importance otherwise you could break your actual relationship for nothing.
2006-10-20 02:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this happens to everyone although some people have good thoughts and some bad ..
I think if you DONT think about your ex then you probably were with the wrong person since in a relationship you learn to think about that persons thoughts and feelings etc and it is only natural that it will take time to fade when you move on .. it becomes habit.
2006-10-20 01:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think about ex's who were special - who I was really in love with etc, even sometimes dream about them. I often think about what would have beens - even if I was the one to finish the relationship. I think I know exactly what you mean - but the thing to remember is that we wouldn't be where we are, with who we are if it wasn't for that relationship failing. Rose tinted glasses and hindsight play a part in this & also the grass is greener - maybe its just natural curiosity to see those people again - to see how they are and what they are upto or to just let them know that you are doing just fine without them!
2006-10-20 01:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Evo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. You should be glad you do too. My opinion is that it's a sign of a loving and caring nature. As long as it's not taken to extremes such as hunting/stalking someone just to satisfy your own curiosity.
I'd like to know what happened in the lives of every girl/woman I dated or had feelings for (even the ones I had a crush on in grade school).
There was one, I actually did find out about 25 years later, but that's another long... story.
2006-10-20 01:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by delriokid08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i think most people have that. everyone has good and bad memories about a time, place or person (or all 3 together). now n then, people generally remember something that happened, and that can include memories of exs. its a natural thing i think (and hope!). dont let it bother you: if you find yourself in reverie thinking bout an ex, either stop, or let it happen: depends if it was a good or bad relationship, and whether you're over them i guess. dont worry about it! its fine
2006-10-20 14:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ollie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. They were not always your ex, and at that time, presumably they were capable of doing something right, and having a positive impact on your life.
It is the same for me in my job. I am a War Lord, and I often think back over the pitiful pathetic enemies I have crushed with some affection - after all, I would not be what I am if it were not for them.
2006-10-20 01:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know exactly what you mean silly little things make me think like a song on the radio or going to a pub or club for a night out and thinking he might be there or waiting all night for him to walk in? I'm over it now i think just need to get on with life!
2006-10-20 01:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Deep Throat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure do.. I also think it's really normal. Wouldn't be normal if you suddenly just don't care a bit about somebody who u loved or at least cared a lot for quite some time.
2006-10-20 01:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Icha Halim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you not?
After all they were a part of your life at one time, and nobody is ALL bad.....
I like to think of my exes.... well some of them anyway.
2006-10-20 13:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question here is, "Am I human?". I think most people wonder how their ex's are...not because you want them or anything, you are just curious.
2006-10-20 01:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by rdnck_grl_ms_007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋