we are friends more than anything and my 4 year old son is not affected by our non-physical relationship. we are committed to one another and our child, but the lack of sexual activity is starting to bother both of us. how do i tell her she does not interest me sexually anymore? this has been going on for 3 years. yes i am sexually attracted to other women.
2006-10-20 01:25:23 · 15 answers · asked by CuriousB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't get a divorce. that's the worst advise ever! you can't just go in to a marriage and get divorced because of something as silly as this. don't get me wrong- it isn't a silly or stupid situation, but it would be to get divorced over it. marriage is forever, no matter how many people don't abide by it anymore. go to counseling. you both know that it's a problem, so both are willing to work together to make the marriage better. find out the real reasons as to why you aren't physically attracted to her anymore and work it out
2006-10-20 02:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Steffi . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly this is not a healthy relesionship for anyone, sex is one of the most important part of your marriage.
Your son no matter how much you think you are keeping up the shararde he will notice tension between you both.
You are a man you are going to look and feel attracted to other women , even more so that you are not getting anything at home.
Truthfull discuss it with your wife, explain you are male with needs, and you maybe should arrange a wkd away just the 2 of you to discuss your marriage and try to bring the spark back.
If this fails you will only end up having an affair and leaving her, that will be even worse.
Talk to her, tell her how you feel and try to save your marriage...
If you dont want to get out and be happy , you only have 1 life live it .....
2006-10-20 01:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by loulou777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if u really don't love her anymore that u should be honest and tell her. It's okay to fall out of love people change. I'm sure u still love her with all your heart but, your not in love with her anymore. I wish u the best but, cheating is not the answer.
Best Wishes
I've also been there myself I have a 3 year old son. For me it was the other way around I wasn't in love with him anymore. But, I told him how I felt it was the best thing I ever did.Why stay with the wrong person u never know the right person might pass u by
thinking your with someone.
2006-10-20 02:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by sissabrokenheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this in reverese, i was no longer attracted to my husband. but it was a smaller symptom if something bigger. i felt like he was no longer interested, so i started doing my own thing (not cheating just not going out of my way for my husband) eventually neither of us were doing anything for the other, it was like we both lived here, both slept here, both ate here but we weren't here. he got wrapped up into work, me the kids and my appearance. after a year and a half we were on the verge of a divorce when during a fight i blurted out that i didn't think he loved me anymore, he thought i felt that way, both of us were reacting to the other and it was all over a miscommunication!! maybe your wife over did it with attention on your son in the beginning and the result has been a three year slide down hill. All marriages are worth another try, but you will never fix anything if you are not honest. maybe she feels the same way, maybe becoming a mom changed her priorities and what she wants in a man and she might be having the same problems about what to say to you. good luck i hope it all works out for the best.
2006-10-20 01:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by jwpsgirls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is her looks that bother you then have her get a make over. Tell her when she looks good and how sexy she is when she does try to dress sexy for you. Try other things in the bedroom with her and tell her you want to try this and that. You married her through thick and thin. Think of how you met and fell in love with her and discuss this with her. You might just find that spark you once had. I suggest you find a babysitter and have date night two times a month make her feel special and loved.
2006-10-20 04:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting a divorce because you 'fell out of love' is lame. especially if kids are involved. quit looking at other women, porn, and jacking off! realize that this is the only woman you are going to be with and get over it, try to remember what attracted you to her to begin with. you may not have the same body that she married also. suck it up and be a man and most of all be a father!
2006-10-20 02:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey been there done that currently seperated and will be divorced. By the time we got to a counselor it was too late. See a counselor together that can sort out the problems
2006-10-20 03:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself why you're not attracted to her anymore. Is it something that she can fix (like losing weight, etc.) or is it just you? If it can't be fixed then you should just let it on her easy. This is not something any woman would ever want to hear especially from her husband. Go easy on her.
2006-10-20 01:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by It's a secret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not attracted to her anymore because she does not try to please you anymore and does not try to attract your interest. And maybe she doesnt do this because you do not show interest in her, you have your mind on other women. You do not give her what she needs to feel like you love her and have passion for her. It's a viscious cycle.
2006-10-20 01:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by SOM 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound pathetic. Why is it so hard to stick to a commitment? Do whatever it takes to GET ATTRACTED to her. MAKE AN EFFORT. If your wife was smart, she'd divorce you - you don't sound worth it at all. I bet she's gorgeous, too.
2006-10-20 02:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋