iam a man who is attracted to another man my mother force me to marry a girl who is 19 and i am 29 i am not able to give her love n sex as i dont feel like loving her or having sex with her wat shud i do as i feel i am ruining her life she cud b with someone who cud love her alot n my mother doesnt want me to leave her she says i will love her but no feelings for her give me some advive wat shud i do
2006-10-20 01:15:09 · 16 answers · asked by sherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU ARE WEAK MENTALLY. YOU DO NOT THINK ABOUT HER AGE. IF SHE IS 27 WHAT YOU WILL DO. IF YOU CAN GIVE LOVE TO THE GIRL OF 27 YOU CAN GIVE SAME TO HER.
2006-10-22 06:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have the ability to rationalize things so that they can compartmentalize what is necesary to solve this dilema. By breaking a situation down into small areas or compartments, they solve the least thing first, (that what is easiest), then work towards the harder parts with help or alone. They have the ability to ask or get help when needed for something they cant handle, and know when it "is" too big for them to handle alone. They also have the ability to stop a lot of problems before they start up, by seeing ahead of themselves and what certain situations will entail further on in the future, and nip it in the bud, so to speak, before a problem become so overwhelming that they have to call for help. Problem solvers are just those who have a logical mind, and can sort out details, and maximize all available resources to throw at the problem from all angles. I wish you well.. Jesse
2016-03-18 22:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you and your wife plan a way to get a divorce together? you could use the excuse that she has not conceived, or make up some other reason that people will believe, and then get a divorce. then she and you can both have a chance for happiness with someone else. but you must both agree, and don't tell anyone what you are doing. besides even if you do get a divorce, you have to be very discreet so your family doesn't find out. but things like this usually come out in the end, so maybe you might think of telling just your immediate family eventually.
2006-10-21 18:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that love should have an age or sex limitation on it. I think we should be able to love who we love. You will find that the more you try to make everyone happy the LESS happy you will be. I think you should be honest with your mother and yourself. The longer you go on hiding your emotions and feelings, the worse the situation will be. A mother's love is to be unconditional, and when a mother starts putting conditions on her love, that becomes more of a control thing than love. You can't control love and no one should MAKE you feel like you have to do something to fit in or BE LOVED. Be honest with yourself, and her, and your wife, if they don't understand, then maybe in time they will, and at least you know in your heart that you don't have to pretend to be someone that your not. We are put on this earth for a purpose, and I don't believe any-ones purpose is to be a LIAR OR A FARCE!!!!! Think about the situation, and take some advice. You are a strong person I'm sure, to be dealing with all of this, and you know what you need to do. No one can make your decisions, but you, and if you choose to keep this charade up, then you only have yourself to blame. If your in love...............be in LOVE, with the one you LOVE, not made to LOVE!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK, DAPHNE
2006-10-20 01:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be honest with your wife and let her go. It isn't fair to her and it isn't fair to you either. A gay man cannot be turned straight. A life without love is no life at all. You are far too old to be cowtowing to the demands of your mother. This alone would be enough to ruin any relationship with a man or woman.
Stop vascillating and make a decision. Your mom already had her life; It is time for you to live yours.
2006-10-20 01:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And if you fear your mother will disown you, just tell your wife and tell her to find another man and you will also find another man. Whenever your mother wants to visit or you visit your mother, just take your fake wife and pretend all is well. But that is only if you cannot handle the pressure from your mother which I am sure you can't because you already ask us instead of going to her in the first place.
2006-10-20 01:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of ruining 2 lives, be true to yourself. You are depriving yourself and your wife the opportunity to have a real and intimate relationship with partners that can provide what you both need. The sooner you address the issue, the less damage will be done.
I know its easier said than done, and I wish you and your family all the best.
2006-10-20 01:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can force you into anything because you are a grown man. Did your mother put a gun to your head. Let her go your intentions are not for her. She will hurt but it's better for her in the long run. Get it over with now so 20 years from now when the kids are in college you want have to tell her that your gay and NOW your going to LEAVE HER AND THE KIDS. But make sure that you let her no why her MARRAIGE IS ENDING. PLEASE BE A MAN!!!!
2006-10-20 01:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by BABYWHITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for you and not for your mother. You are a grown man able to make your own decisions. You and your wife should not be miserable. How long do you plan on having your mother run your life. Please just get out the marriage, for yours and her sake, your mother will get over it. Good luck!
2006-10-20 06:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case be frank with the Girl you are supposed to Marry tell her how you feel. That you are not normal and that you care enough for her not to ruin her life
2006-10-20 01:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋