if thats ok? my mum has had those symptoms since she was 33. why do you reckon and now she is 47. what do you reckon is going on with her? she says she has had a lot of stress for 28 yrs that she been with my dad and therefore, she even lost her appetite and she hardly eating and when she does, she has bad stomach pains and when she doesnt eat, she still has bad stomach pains.she reckons everything is to do with stress from my dads behaviour she coped with all her married life and she is ill everyday with digestive problems, stress, depression liike symptoms and she has days before her periods where she goes mentally ill and cries and hits my dad and screams at any oportunity and says everyday when she wakes up taht she want to die and she dont know why God wakes her up to live a 'hellish' life that she does.we, me and my sis, have had to live with these symptoms since i was 8 yrs old and i am now 22 and it hurts to see her like this.i just hope life gets better for her and all of us.
2006-10-20 01:14:00 · 6 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Health ➔ Women's Health
what is wrong with her? why she doing this? i knw she is aneamic but she cant even have tablets coz no point if your'e not eating coz tehy wont wrk and anyway, she cant take them coz she has stomach pains when anything goes in stomach.she has had 3 cesarians when we were all born (3 of us) and lost alot of blood and she had transfusion of blood and a herbalist said that the blood did not do her any good coz it wasnt the right match for her and dint wrk the way is should have and that she having bad time coz she dont have enough blood in her and she getting weak in brain and feeling depressed and doesnt have energy to walk coz she has bad chest pains as far as i can remember.she blames my dad for everything coz he was an angry man but he changed now but he never has laid a finger on her tho but his behaviour was angry and agressive and she was soft hearted and she was affected quickly&coz she was weak after cesarians, it affected her more.i blame my dad too such an extent but what now?
2006-10-20 01:19:16 · update #1
It must have been really hard for you and your sister to have to grow up with all this bad feeling around you. It sounds to me that your Mum is very angry but is not expressing the anger in a constructive way. This can lead to depression and all the physical problems you list and more. You say that she blames stress and her problems with your Father, but yet she is feeling helpless and unable to cope with basic life. I would suggest that you try to get her to find some help, and perhaps, if the problem is really to do with your Dad then she needs to deal with his behaviour and move on, either with or without him, but leaving those bad things behind. I doubt if it is hormonal, but if it is then there is always HRT. I feel very sorry for your Mum as she is struggling with huge problems, and she will need help to get over it, but she can get past the problems and rebuild her life, and her relationship with her daughters.
Good luck, and don't forget to take care of yourself too.
2006-10-20 04:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by deee999 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you. It must be downright hell to live like that.
There are always two sides to a coin. You described her so, I can only go by that and give you this observation:
Two words: Harmonal Imbalance. Yes, if she goes on HRT (harmone replacement theraphy), you will see a marked improvement. It is also quite controversial as to its benefits. Consult a physician.
The imbalance has led to depression. She is inwardly angry that she has lost her ability to reproduce. This happens in menopausal women. She will not admit to it but that's what it is. She will be jealous of younger women too. (and, in a quiet way she could be angry at you too) - If you engage her in conversation, she will open up to you about the 'ways' of younger women in a bitter way.
Your mom is not old by any stretch of the imagination. Only 47. That's young. She just has been harmonally affected. Empathise. Understand. Give her elbow room. She needs help. Your dad is only a scapegoat in her eyes. She is directing her anger at someone and your dad is there handy. Seems like he has understood that and he has adjusted to it because he is way matured. You should admire him for that.
Take her to a doc and if she refuses you go to your family doctor alone by yourself or take your bro,sis with you.
He will tell you the same thing. At least, be aware though what not to do when you reach that stage. (I think you are a woman, not sure). Like it or not, it is coming - but it waaaaaay down the road.
2006-10-20 01:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's not menopause, while menopause takes many years in some women, 14 years is too long, and 33 is usually much much much younger than it starts for most people.
Sounds much more like clinical depression. She should see a psychotherapist, psychiatrist, or just talk to her regular doctor about it.
Edit: Any injury from losing blood during a C-section 20+ years ago is healed and over and done with, it's not affecting her now. She's suffering from depression. Talk to her about getting help for it.
2006-10-20 01:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by banzai 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi
Some how i doon't think its menapause your mum is going throught. I have a simliar problem,Not i am not saying this is the case of your mum but it could, this word is hard to spell but what i will do is write down and you just say it the way i have spelt it.(MD MEAT TREE OIOUS) Sorry about that. Now this gets me very down and real bouts of depression. The pains are very intense and trying to pass urine is very sore. Comming up to the time of the month for me is the worst this really sets it off and set me of as well.The way you describe your mother as hitting out i do the very same, i know its wrong to do that but i helps, Now i know what i have i go out to my back and break cups ashtrays and believe me this stops me from hitting other people.Try to persuade your mum to go back to the doctors and ask about the word that i typed, or even you go and ask if this could be the case. I so would love to talk to your mother as it would be much eaiser for me to explain. Right now all i can say to you is try and be there for her. I know its not fair on you are your sister. But please be patience with her. Truley I wish you luck. You can email me at any time or add me to your pall list then we can speak one on one
2006-10-20 01:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor dear, what a miserable way to live your life, both for you and for her. She needs more help than we can give her on this site. There are medications that can help her deal with the stress and her depression. I urge you to seek medical advise for her. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-10-20 01:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mother is depressed get her to the doctors, she need help.
2006-10-20 01:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by twinsters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋