I have been with my boyfiend 10 months. And ever since we have been together I knew he had a best friend that he hasdly ever talked to half way across the country. Well last night, he talked to her on the phone for time with me there. I am not sure if I should be mad at him cause he ignored me while talking to her, or if I am just a little jelous. Even though I heard the whole conversation, they still talked about her seeing him in his thong and all. Please help me go about with my problem, and give me some tipps about how to handle something like this!!!
2006-10-20 01:06:32 · 12 answers · asked by Saxybabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
there is nothing wrong with anyone having a friend who is the oppsite sex..it sounds like he has known her for along time and probally have had some real funny times..that doesn't mean he is in love with her, or wants to be with her..maybe you are a little jealous..i think you really know the answer..has he told her about you? and it probally would help if you got to talk to her yourself..tell him that you want to get to know her to..this will help you and learn to trust him.i had a male friend, and gave him up for an ex..i really miss him talking with me..give it a shot and tell him how this is making you feel and that you want to know her to..blessings
2006-10-20 01:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by connie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is half way across the country. he's not trying to hide anything from you by talking to her with you in the room. and if they wanted to be more than just friends, they probably would have done so already.
I wouldn't worry about her unless she's planning a trip to visit with him. Try not to say anything to your BF about your concerns.
For some people it is hard to understand that two people of the opposite sex can be only friends. But it can happen. I've had a couple of very close male friends that has never gone any farther.
The best thing for u to do would be to try and start some sort of friendship with the girl yourself, so that u don't feel left out of their friendship.
2006-10-20 01:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust and keep an open mind but at the same time keep tabs on it. It is not like you have been dating him forever. You are still getting to know each other to some extent or another. It is a good sign that he does it in front of you. At least from this view he does not look like he is hiding anything from you and that is a good thing. For the time being I would not make a big fuss over it just see how everthing progresses...Heck you may in the end be friends with her too....
2006-10-20 01:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by cyborg_2099 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, it's very tough. I had a guy for a "friend" for a long time. However, his girlfriend ALWAYS came first. As she should have. he shouldn't have ignored you, and if he didn't let her know you were there, then you may have a problem on your hands. However, if she knew you were there and he included you, that's great. I believe guys and girls can be friends, but there are boundaries and rules. Don't be jealous, but be aware. Evaluate things at face value, don't read into anything, but don't be a fool either. Good Luck!
2006-10-20 01:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him it was very rude of him to continue a conversation in the first place when he had company. You can cut the chat off very quickly by telling them you have company.. It is easily done.
It was totally inappropriate to talk about anything intimate with her while you were there.
He has a problem of respect for your feelings and I think he way trying to show off in front of you.
There is nothing to be jealous of, you are with him and she is not.
What you have to be upset about is his lack of respect and his inappropriate behaviour.
He needs to apologize and never do that again.
If this behaviour is something that happens again, I wouldn't put up with it.
2006-10-20 01:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf had this person as a best bud, before your relationship, you can' expect him to quit talking to her now, BUT I think it was rude of him to be talking to her while you were there. Just tell him you don't mind that he talks to her, but when you two are together, you want to be together. If it happens again, tell him "I'll leave you two alone to talk" and go home.
2006-10-20 01:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, anyone can any best friend. If you really want to stay with guy, you'll have to work it out with yourself. It's your insecurities. If you can't deal with it, then maybe he's not the one for you. you don't want to stay with him feeling like you do right now. It will put a strain on your relationship. (been there) and neither one of you will be happy.
2006-10-20 01:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has she been his best friend? its kind of hard to talk to someone on a phone and give your attention to another at the same time ...sounds like you are a little jealous but as long as he is being upfront and honest with you and not talking to her behind your back i think you should honor their friendship..
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2016-11-24 19:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by maza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothng wrong with a guy or girl having a best friend of the other gender as long as there is nothing going on bewteen them.
2006-10-20 08:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋