Hi guys, soppy one i'm afraid. I have been seeing someone for a month after splitting with my ex before the summer. I have been soo happy.He told me when I met him a month ago that hed finished with his ex months ago, like me. He told me on Wed that he had only split with her (3yrs) the day after meeting and kissing me. He said he was going round to tell her to move on as he had and has now realised he still loves her, and cannot be with me if he has feelings for her. He says he needs time to see how things go back wth her. Should I wait for him if things dont work with her? Sorry its a bit long. Very sad!
2006-10-20 01:06:23 · 30 answers · asked by Jenni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweet heart, he is not worth you waiting on... No one should be selfish enough to ask someone to wait around for them to figure themselves out. Love is never selfish.. It is fair that he told you that he can't be with you, that was good on his part, but you shouldn't have to wait.... What if you wait forever, and pass up the perfect man for you? If its meant to be, it will happen.... It's easier said than done, I know, but you need to move forward with your life, and that just might mean without him.
2006-10-20 01:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. He's the kind of guy that while he's seeing someone, he meets and kisses other girls, remember? Now he's going back to her. That means one thing: you were just a fling and you shouldn't wait for him for two reasons:
1) He's not that into you or he would be with you instead of picking her
2) He's not worth being into, because he's the cheating kind. Once a dog, always a dog.
Save yourself the certain heart break of the future and move on to someone who has relationship integrity and will like you as his first choice not something to stick on the back burner. You deserve better.
Go!! Meet someone awesome who'll make your heart sing, not bring tears to your eyes.
2006-10-20 08:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't youl always wonder if hes with you because he wants you or just because she didnt want him or things didnt work out with them. Hes obvoiusly a liar he lied from the begining i would cut my losses i was in a simaliar situation i was the ex hanging on realised if he could mess me about in the first place ther had to be some one else he wasnt that great a boyfriend any way, soon as you stop thinking of the messer you turn round and the man of your dreams is stood ther waiting you just never noticed.
2006-10-20 08:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by dora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people would just tell you to move on, but if you really like this guy then give him a little bit of space. you will feel better for it, and he will respect you for it too. but i am only talking a month tops. if he is still with her after that then its time for you to move on. if he thinks he's then made the wrong decision then he can come back to you - by which time you may or may not have found someone else. give him a bit of time, and good luck
2006-10-20 08:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Change the way you "choose" your partner. There are two decisions in the making when it comes to a love interest. The "first impression" and the "I didn't know that about you" decision. If you can't see an idiot at first glance your in trouble! (Yes, I have seen people who did it and regretted it.)
Look at the inside first. Look for things like, "having consideration" and being "concerned for" you and your welfare..And wait at least 2 years to "get to know" your partner.
2. If you choose badly the result is "emotional turmoil" in your life. You can't say to yourself later " What did I do to deserve this?"
3.Change the way you think about you (self-image)...... Being "ooh soo happy" knowing this guy is really a jerk ? Don't fool yourself, luv... It's not what life is about.. Be yourself, truthful and beautiful......and requiring respect as any woman.
Love comes from within the heart....
Love within can break the heart...
All "meaningful change" comes from ........within
Think and change....Move on thru your winter and grow happy in your spring...
2006-10-20 08:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u have to realize he did not clearly tell u the exact truth.... u were in the same mood so it is normal that you had things in common but he obviously did not tell u the truth it is hard to be with someone if he thinks of another person try to take it easy and not focus too much on him -ti know it's hard- let some time pass if he comes back and u still love him it's ok but he also takes the risk to lose u no perfect answer i'm afraid or u can also go to see that girl and shoot her ;o)
2006-10-20 08:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by celine d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will do nothing but hurt you. You need to make that choice and walk away. If he feels like this after 3 yrs odds are he will cheat with her... what I don't get if he has been free of her for 3 yrs and he now feels he has to tell her its over to be with you then its not over its just a pause in his sad life. he needs to figure out what he wants before he continues to hurt people..
2006-10-20 08:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've been used hon. Either that or he wants to have his cake and eat it. I wouldn't bother waiting. As much as you like him if he's done this once, he might go running back to her again at any time even if he does choose you. For all you know he might never have split up with her at all. You can do better!
2006-10-20 08:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Julez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it luvy, but your best to move on, 3 yrs is a long time to be with someone, so he obviously has feelings for her. Count your lucky stars that you didn't get too involved and find someone else x
2006-10-20 08:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things fall into place and keep your senses intact and go on with life. As they say, the heart will always seek where it rightfully belongs - if he comes back you're lucky. Nurture strength of spirit so you wouldnt get hurt so bad. :)
2006-10-20 08:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by tagaCEBU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋