I'm currently getting divorced and I've met up with an old work colleague online and we've started chatting, I asked a question on this site the other day asking how I should ask him out, but my soon to be ex came across it and he's now giving me a hard time, I lost all my friends whilst I was with him, he doesn't like me speaking to my neighbours and now he knows i'm chatting to this other bloke, and yes its only gossiping, he is having a go at me, why is he doing this, we've been seperated since Easter this year so why the big fuss?
2006-10-20 00:58:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I bet that's part of why your divorcing him, because he's a controlling freak. He knows now that the two of you won't ever get back together since he found out that you're interested in dating again. It's probably eating him up inside to lose the control he once tried to have. Don't worry about him and just look forward to the day that you're free. Also I would change all of my emails and passwords if I were you. He has no business being in your business. Good luck!
2006-10-20 01:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by artist2213 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are getting divorced. right? Well then it has got nothing to do with him. Tell give to get stuffed. You have taken the opportunity to start your life over. You shouldn't be explaining your self or your actions to your "EX" husband any more. he ruined your social life when you were married. Don't let him ruin it now that you are single again. So my advice would to ask this other bloke if he would like to join you for supper or a movie. Well whatever.
Don't let your ex interfere with your life.
Good luck & enjoy your social life to the fullest
2006-10-20 08:53:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be for many reasons but it might also be that he is in denial. He was probably taking you for granted (him being on top of things, the better of the two of you) & he now sees that you are moving on & he cannot take it because it either hurts his pride or he still loves you.
If you truly believe that you really don't want him tell him & be stern. If he calls you hang up on him, change phone numbers, don't talk to him, don't ask how he is doing, nothing (he may take a it like you still love him).
Be happy :))))
2006-10-20 08:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by marissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to control you. If you are getting divorced anyway, the best thing is to try and find somewhere else to live, or for him to live. Get away from each other so he can't try to control your life any more. He had no right to control you before, but now you are not together he has no rights at all!
2006-10-20 08:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by claire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that deep down he wanted u back. How long have u two got married? By the way, I think maybe he wants to keep u by himself. But since it's impossible, it could b that he's trying to get u felt sorry for leaving him b coz no one wants to b with u anymore. Any way, if this happens again and again, try changing ur avatar picture and name so that he won't know if it's u or not.
2006-10-20 08:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to get into the many reasons of why he's still trying to control your life but I will say, good riddence to bad rubbish! Good luck in with the divorce and starting over.
2006-10-20 08:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of peace and privacy, you need to be more covert. Use a bogus email if you need to. Leaving a paper trail behind is just stupid (no offence). I am not saying you should have to justify your actions to your ex but it does throw unnecessary fuel on the fire when you should be trying to quell it.
2006-10-20 08:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by mattallica123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you might need a restraining order against him. he is a jealous man. he will do what it takes to keep you lonely only so he can have a chance at getting you back. you need to deal with this now or it will get out of hand.this could turn ugly if you dont stop it now..
2006-10-20 08:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope your living in separate houses. SEEMS like your not. LOOKS like he wont leave you alone till you separate totally. THEn you may need a restrainting order.
2006-10-20 08:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men tend to think of women as a personal possession. and it doesn't matter that you are divorcing and he doesn't want you anymore. you are still his. tell him to mind his own business and get on with his life.
2006-10-20 08:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋