2006-10-20 00:46:21 · 29 answers · asked by dimitrakavoukopoulou 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
story of my life. cept i'm 21. when you find out let us know yeah?
god bless xo
2006-10-20 00:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by anabanana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The key word here is "All". First examine yourself and look at why this pattern is so prevalent. How are they hurting you? You can only be hurt if you allow someone to have that power over you. No one can make you happy. It is up to you to allow that happiness to happen. Find it first in the small yet significant things: the right song at the right time, a sunrise for your eyes specifically at that moment in time, sincere words from an unexpected person; try giving kind words and a smile to someone and see what you get in return. Do random acts of kindness; you'd be surprise how happy giving makes you feel. Be mindful in the moment at whatever you do whether it be washing dishes or making art. Every moment is significant and every moment is just simply there. Appreciate life and count your blessings. Be aware. And know that while things could always be better, they could certainly be worse. Celebrate who you are and love thyself.
2006-10-20 01:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you should learn to be happy as a single person, first, before searching for a mate because when ever a person is uncomfortable with being alone, or single, they will do anything to keep a partner happy… In other words, you will make sacrificies that will cost you in the long run…
Instead, if you learn to love being single and sassy, you will develop a better personality and self worth… two qualities that will keep a man…
Many girls have beauty that will attract a man but they don’t have the qualities that will keep a man… Thus, in short, start off by pleasing yourself… Find activities, groups, events to get involve with that interest you.
God made Eve for Adam because God feels it is not good for man to be alone… Thus, you are made for somebody but not anybody… Until you two meet, use your free time constructively
2006-10-20 01:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by mumblewords 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my life or very similar, but I'm 22. I recently went through a hurtful relationship and I told myself it's time out for dating. For some reason I keep picking guys that aren't good for me. That end up hurting me in the end. So, I figured I need to focus on me and find out more about myself and why I keep making bad choices as far as men are concerned. So, maybe you should see why you keep getting hurt. Maybe it's the men you are choosing. I think sometimes we as women set ourselves up. Compromising ourselves for men, trying to make the flaws we see in them o.k for us when they're not. In the end we become so hurt, but we knew in the beginning there were things we didnt like, but we felt we could deal with them. I would say stop settling and allowing yourself to get attached if it's not really what you want and give yourself time to get to know the person. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-10-20 03:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am more than double your age and I can't give you an exact answer. I will say it is best you learn that person is not right for you before you are married to them. The trouble is so many women have sex too fast and can't seem to understand that a good man will wait for marriage to have you and if you are no virgin the man does not have as much respect and mistrust is always present by both parties. Respect is what is being left behind nowadays and relationships seem temporary to begin with.
2006-10-20 01:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all that hurt is to gain you experience....it may not seem like that right now but time will tell...i am 42 and thought that relationships would always be about hurt...but after each relationship..ask yourself what have I learnt ..and try not to repeat it...experience teaches wisdom...try not to put your whole heart and soul in any one person...if you took the time to get to know people before giving your all...you would be better off...i
ts just like a job that you thought was the best ever..then you lost it...got something else and realized everything worked out for the best in the end...at 25..life is just beginning
2006-10-22 15:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by Candi L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find happiness within yourself. If you rely on someone else to make you happy, then you set yourself up to be hurt. Do things you enjoy, spend time with friends & family. Be a whole person who doesn't need a "romantic relationship" & then once you feel happy on your own, the right person will appear & you will have a healthy romantic relationship! Be the person you're meant to be & you'll find the person you're meant to have!
You're still very young. Give it time. Good luck!
2006-10-20 00:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find the Lord and get saved. He wants you to find him first and to do that read the bible and learn more about him. Become happy with who you are and love you before you try to be happy and love someone else. God has someone waiting in the wings for you so don't worry, he's got your life planned out, you just have to let go of the control over your life. Best Wishes!
2006-10-20 00:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Happiness is a very elusive feeling. A person can be happy temporarily given a set of situations or circumstance but true happiness is in the set of attitudes a person has. Attitude is all that matters.
2006-10-20 01:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by gracy_1770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find yourself and learn to love yourself...once that happens it radiates from your soul and confidence is shown...then don't look for anyone let everything fall into place naturally the way it should...you never know that right relationship/person could be right there in front of you the whole time
2006-10-20 01:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by vissionaerie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find your happiness from with in and in time it will shine on out and someone will want to be close to it too. ask yourself this when you were young and couldn't walk wut did you do? did you try and fall down and hurt yourself? well we all did guess what we all learned to to walk and then run but we still fall down. you will continue to fall down all your life but also you will get up and try again. relationships are the same you will fail til you find one that works and will wonder why it took so long. it all depends on what you want and how you do it and if it's right for you. no one is perfect so learn to accept some crap but not all. just keep tryin you will get there in time
2006-10-20 00:59:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋