but the boy come out with so many problems? He can build you an entire computer and fixed anything that has to do with them, but has no common sense. He is 23 a genious, very high I.Q. but doesn't know how to deal with normal every day things. He is the one that looks like me and acts like me. But the Doc tells me he is not really 23 yet. He is like 17 in his mind. Where did I go wrong?
2006-10-20 00:12:41 · 11 answers · asked by Boricua Born 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I love my son very much, I am trying to get help for him, he gets in trouble with the law, now I have to find a mental hospital so that instead of jail or prison, he can get real help. He suffers from bipolar and schizophrenia.
2006-10-20 00:35:41 · update #1
He trust everyone even his enemies and he doesn't listen to me when i try to let him know that.
2006-10-20 00:37:47 · update #2
You did nothing wrong. There might be something deep in your family line that came out in that generation. Due to the fact he's a genious, usually I want to say, common sense lacks. They can give you the techinal answer to just about everything but when asked about something like what's your opinion on (enter something general here) they're at a loss. I remember a kid from high school who was a genious and he looked down when he walked because he was counting how many steps he took. He found comfort in it. Some are just too smart (blessing and a curse) to function okay outside of professional help. I wanted to try to reassure you that you did nothing wrong in raising. I highly doubt you put IQ formual in his food growing up. Life throw a lot at us and since he's 23 you made it this far. You're a strong woman and you'll do what's best for your son. AGAIN you didn't do anything wrong.
2006-10-20 08:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Tara C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother is just the same. VERY intelligent with an extreme high IQ. He's 30 now. He's opened at least four successful business and then shuts them down. He gets bored really quick. My baby brother and I aren't as intelligent but manage college and a stable job.
You didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure the public schools didn't help much either and tagged him a "problem child" instead of helping the parents develop such an intelligent mind.
Try to take a course in college on psychology. I did and it helped me reason with my wild brother. I now understand him better and pray every day he has hope of settling down and not getting in and out of trouble....still at 30!
2006-10-20 07:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Zoila 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Schizophric and he too has no common sense but is highly intellengent
Schizophrenia is a psychiatric diagnosis that describes a mental disorder characterized by impairments in the perception or expression of reality and/or by significant social or occupational dysfunction. A person experiencing untreated schizophrenia is typically characterized as demonstrating disorganized thinking, and as experiencing delusions or auditory hallucinations.
Although the disorder is primarily thought to affect cognition, it can also contribute to chronic problems with behavior and emotion. Due to the many possible combinations of symptoms, there is ongoing and heated debate about whether the diagnosis necessarily or adequately describes a disorder, or alternatively whether it might represent a number of disorders.
Just as the diagnosis itself is mired in controversy and counter-accusation, it is difficult to establish a clear picture of recovery and rehabilitation. Both long ago and in the recent past, patients in developed countries were told that chances of recovery were limited, with statistics being quoted to support this negative prognosis.
Today, with the advent of a vocal Recovery Movement in mental health, statistics are quoted in a conflicting fashion, and attention is drawn to cultural and local factors in impeding or accelerating recovery. Rehabilitation provision is uneven and strongly dependent on local political culture and/or resources.
2006-10-20 09:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by nana_viki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it was nothing that you did, it is just the way God created him, love him for who he is and stop being so hard on yourself. You know Albert Einstein was had an amazing mind, however, was unable to comb his hair or tie his shoes. Good luck and God bless Ok, with more information, you need to get him to see a mental health professional that he can relate to and trust, someone who is able to get through to him and help him to set up safer boundaries. And with medicine he should be able to do better with them. And lead a decent life. Still, i do not think that it was anything that you did or could have done to prevent this. Iam sorry you are having such a hard time and having to deal with your son;s illness has to be very difficult for you and your family. my first granddaughter was born with a disorder called holoproencephly a brain disorder her brain did not develop properly, she died after 10 short but very difficult months. She struggled everyday to live. Sometimes life gives up less than we deserve. We have to find the positive in the negative in every situation. You and your family are in my prayers. Please try not to be so hard on yourself God bless
2006-10-20 07:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't go wrong. He's just different. Would you be asking where you went wrong if he was shorter than you expected? It sounds like you've done an excellent job raising ALL of your kids. Your son will adjust to the real world. Even if he never fully matures, there are plenty of real 17 year olds who manage when they have to.
2006-10-20 07:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys grow up slower. It's a fact. They do not mature as fast as gilrs do. If he is that smart, just give him some more time. He'll snap out of it. I'm 51 and I still have a few immature bones left, but I am old enough to see them now. He is still a child at heart.
2006-10-20 07:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...QUIT blaming YOURSELF! You didn't do anything wrong...(unless you did some drugs maybe while you were pregnant?)
He is 23, YOU need to quit bailing him out and let him be a man, If he falls on his face, I guarantee you, He WILL get back up, what doesn't kill us, Makes us stronger...Good Luck!
2006-10-20 21:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by conniechung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's ur fault. Ther's a lot of boys in this world that was like that. I think that it'll b better for u just to pray to God. I bet God can fix it coz there's a lot of kids in my school that's just like that n now, they all became such adorable normal kids thnx to God n their teachers' prayers...
2006-10-20 08:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Autism or related?
There are untold diseases that will hit one sex more, or one sex only. Are his reading and writing good?
2006-10-20 07:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has their own potentials and vice-versa. To be cooperative and helping each more and more patiently is felt to be more welcome
2006-10-20 07:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by all2solvedstrss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋