will listen more to her dad(my husband).To me its sort of like embarrassing that she will only listen to him.Its kind of sad,i feel
like stupid,like powerless.I sort of feel my daughter has no respect for me only to her dad. I haven't share this with my husband,its sor of like embarrassing.Any advice PLEAAASE???
2006-10-19 23:43:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
talk to your husband! You can work together to make her listen to you. Perhaps you can get your husband to start saying things like you'll have to ask your mother first, listen to your mom, or thats totally up to your mom. If he starts giving you control infront of her then odds are she'll come around. I'm really sorry you have to go through this by yourself right now, but I feel that if you talk to you husband about this you can accomplish more and not feel so bad. Try to cheer up.
2006-10-19 23:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God knows how to deal with kids! I have three of my own and am still waiting for the manual.
I'm not sure where you are, but where I am, we have access to the triple P Program. (Positive Parenting Program) worth doing no matter what your socio-economic background.
What I learned in a nut shell: Pick your battles. Ignore the small stuff, otherwise you will be fighting 24/7.
When you choose a battle, you must win at all costs.(give in and you're done for).
And parents must show consistency. (sorry you may need to talk to your husband ) if you can't then make sure you are consistent.
Remember it's not easy, but it's worth it!
2006-10-20 00:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Karen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she playing 1 against the other...I bet she listens to you when you tell her what she wants to hear. When it doesn't go her way she runs to husband and he gives in. It won't get better if you and husband don't start backing each other up. Obviously there is alot more to this than could ever be typed, Without this turning into a book. The bottom line, I would bet, is that she is playing you to against each other to get her way. And he gives in ALOT more than you do.
2006-10-20 00:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12 yo girl and a 9 yo boy. The boy really only listens to me (Dad). Every now and then, I straighten him out by saying something like "I know what you're doing to Mom when I'm not around. You need to know that when she says something to you, it's like me talking. Mom is as important as me, we're the same." It has to come from Dad, so I think you need to talk to him about it and ask him to help you out.
2006-10-19 23:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by John 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little girls share a strong bond with daddy. And maybe mom is a pushover. She knows that mom won't enforce the rules so why listen. Come up with some consequences for her if she doesn't obey you.
2006-10-20 03:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over the embarressment. There is nothing to feel embarressed about. Just talk to your husband and then to your daughter. Communication is key! Let them know how you feel, its ok. We have enough to worry about this day and age without worring about whether or not your own family is judging you so don't feel embarressed, just talk to them!
2006-10-19 23:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to you husband and tell him about this problem, you are the mother and make sure both of you have a say in rearing this kids. don't make her put each of you against each other. kids are smart, they know how to get away with things especially from their parents!
2006-10-20 00:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a daddy's girl and finds his voice more stronger, but that doesn't mean that she has no respect for you or doesn't love you cause I know she does.
2006-10-19 23:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Southern Cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well find out why she's like tht?is it because you're more strict or harder to approach?give in to her or do something to make her happy and try to spend more time with her.
2006-10-20 00:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋