not go to the wedding or just put on a brave face?
2006-10-19 22:38:19 · 64 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your daughter is the one that has to live with him, not you- this is her choice. Out of respect for your daughter you should suck it up and go!
2006-10-19 22:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should put on a brave face. I got married at 18 and had to give up having a big wedding because my former mother would not come if my dad was there. Even if you don't want to go. I know how that feeling is believe me, you should because it is your daughter's day. I hope you work things out.
2006-10-19 22:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mother inlaw made it clear she did not like me marrying her daughter. We married anyway had two children and my mother inlaw made life unbearable for me. Unfortunately after 9 years my wife died of breast cancer. We had two children and my mother in law then found her self in an awkward situation ( that only she is responsible for). Contact with her Grandchildren now produces great embaressment for her as she has to contact me and arrange the times. I can see her choking back her past words every time. Obviously in the early days when I needed help with the children she was the last person I would call. I am sure she wish'es she had been far more mature in the past! I was glad I kept the high moral ground. I suggest you do the same. If you indicate your disapproval and don't attend the wedding where will your daughter turn when things go wrong? Even if you never said it, the "I told you so" syndrome will make you the last person she will want help from. Be there for your daughter and be polite and patient with your son inlaw!
2006-10-19 23:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no go to the wedding. Even if you do not approve of her partner i am sure it would really hurt your daughters feelings if you didn't go to the wedding and cause all sorts of problems down the road. Seems she has already made her choice so really you just are going to have to live with it and make the best of it. I wouldn't be cutting down her husband to her either it will in the long run just make alot of problems between you and her and then it may get to where she will not even be comfortable coming around you anymore. Hopefully things work out and you can get to where you will like him or at least be on decent terms when he is around. Just remember your not going to the wedding for him your going for your daughter maybe it will help to look at it this way.
2006-10-19 22:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by sammy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put on a brave face unless there is an actual terrible reason that you are against the wedding like he beats your daughter or molests children.
2006-10-19 22:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long do you have until the wedding date? If you have a good month...I would suggest You PRAY girlfriend! Prayer is VERY Powerful!
Find a Christian church close to you and go and ask for prayer. You see satan wants to destroy us and our children. Pray and ask the Lord if this is the man He wants your daughter to marry and ask if it isn't, to put a block somehow someway. He knows the answer. And may His Will be done and not yours.
You need to be in a group of believers. The prayers of believers avail much.
Get "Power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omarian. Very good. You need Faith girl and all will be fine. Your life will never be the same once you accept Jesus in your heart. My life changed all for the better. I'm living testimony.
You must have seen something you don't like in him and you probably have your motherly instincts, so Pray, there is nothing you can do. Oh and show love to your daughter. Do not say another negative word to her. Do you know that what comes out of our mouths is either life or death to our children, husband, etc.... You just tell her you will support her no matter what and always be there for her. You show love to him too. Love conquers all. This is a verse for you.
Jer 29:11-13 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
His Word never returns void. Here's another verse for you.
Phil 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;
Christ's Blessings to you and your daughter!
2006-10-19 23:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding and just put on a brave and SMILING face. Just keep on telling yourself over and over, "I'm glad I'm not the one marrying this person." Look at the bright side!
2006-10-19 23:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by tul b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on a brave face if you want your daughter in your life. My mum doesn't like my fiance (and she is the only person that doesn't like him, its not him, its because she thought my ex was Mr perfect, as I said to her, if he was then why did I leave him?) and she is not in my life anymore, for a number of reasons but also because of her little hate campaign. Its not worth the hassle, he makes her happy and if your right about him, then you will be there to pick up the pieces.
2006-10-19 23:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just put a brave face on like my parents did, however, I wish I had taken their advice, now they are no longer here and I'm sure they would have been very happy for me when I wed the love of my life
2006-10-19 22:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question! You must go to your Daughters Wedding, wearing that Madonna smile.
Your Daughters day so rejoice with her even if it means being a hypocrite for the day. You can manage that can't you.
Who knows you may even get to like him. See how he treats your Daughter that's what counts not your likes or dislikes.
Have a wonderful day and may the sunshine on you all. And remember you are not losing a Daughter but gaining a Son-in-law for richer or poorer.
2006-10-19 22:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation in my family my dad is ok with my relationship its just my mum she is not liking my fiance at all. we been together nearly a year now and she still ain't excepted were together. People say the more times u push and try and split them up the more they stay together. just let them split up in ther own time and ur daughter will love u more cause she will have ur support when it happens i think u should put brave face on 4 ur daughter..
2006-10-19 22:47:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋