Is it me or does everyone my age (20) seem to be settling down already?

Answer 1

I know a lot of people in their early 20's that have already married or live with their bf/gf and have kids soon after. Most of them also end up regretting it and truly wishing they'd waited a few years and gave themselves a chance to experience life first, before getting tied down with everything else.

Young people tend to have this fantasy version of marriage and family life in their heads, and can't wait to experience it for themselves. They don't realize how much of a commitment it really is. They don't think about how they may not get to hang out with their friends hardly anymore cause their spouse doesn't like it (I know sooo many women whose husbands get really jealous if she goes out with her friends, and they tend to expect the woman to be home to fix them dinner, take care of the kids, etc). And if the couple has kids, it will make it even harder for them to find time for themselves.

Answer 2

You need to wait until you're ready, and that's a personal choice. I made some bad mistakes when I was your age and got into a relationship with a guy who treated me badly, purely because I'd had a bad childhood and wanted someone to love me. I'm now a divorced single mum with a disabled child and 28 years old. I love my child, but if I could turn back time I would've experienced life before settling down, and if I'd had the sense to wait I would've realised that you can't "buy" love or security, it comes from within. You've got the right idea by waiting and you'll be a more rounded person as a result of having your freedom. Don't let friends/family pressure you into settling down before you're ready.

Answer 3

I think your getting it wrong!
No one is settling down! If anything they are up-roaring there life finding sum 1 having kids! That's not settling that's taking the easy road out of having to get a job and work for your living! Not many youngsters are still together even if they have got kids!
Alright I'm 21 and have been wiv my b/f four and a half years but that's not settling down that's just being happy with sum 1!
I don't really think people settle down until they are retired! work family's its all upheaval in peoples lives! But then again is any 1 ever settled even in death people are unsettled!

Answer 4

I have been in your shoe before my Dear but hear this.
There is nothing wrong in settling down at tha age my dear if you can answer these questions

> Have you completed your education,at least reach a stage you know you can not be push aside by your friends?

>Are you financially balanced that you dont have to worry if your man is financially handicapped?

>Are you matured in mind,I mean emotionally, Can you handle your emotional problems?

>Spiritually are you balanced?

Ask your self those questions and pls be sincere with yourself.
Marriage is not a thing you rush into; if you rushed in you will rush out.This is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with or are you planning breaking up after a while?

Divorce has no good thing to offer you,it will only marred you.
Take your time before you do anything.If your friends are settling down now dont be bother,appreciate God for that,Yours will come at the right time and all of them will rejoice with you.

I wish you best of luck

Answer 5

Im 20 and im not settling down, i still live at home with my mum and love it that way! Yeah i would like to find someone to settle down with EVENTUALLY but im too young at the moment and am enjoying the freedom! But then each to their own, if they wana settle down young then good luck to them but in most cases they'll split up ina couple of years

Answer 6

A lot of people do, but then a lot of people split up. Just because people settle down it doesn't mean it's forever. I am 23 and have bought a house with my boyfriend of 4 years. It sounds young to have done that but it's what we wanted!

Answer 7

I actually read something today in the Yahoo/Dating columns that said that most are not settling down lots of people are waiting until they are older. I cant remember the exact stats but most wait till they are 25-27 to get married and settle down...And if you look at studies a lot of people are waiting to have kids too! People around our age are waiting. I dunno about those teenagers tho....

Answer 8

yeah, I'm 22 and have lived with my partner for three years and my sister is 20 and she's lived with her partner for two years. so we're all coupled up.

i guess when you meet the right one you know and then you hang on to them, regardless of how old you are.

p.s no i don't have children as some people seem to be suggesting of people who settle down 'too young'. i have a degree and a job.

Answer 9

Yeah most of my friends have settled down, got married and have kids where as i have neither! Make the most of your time without this and when you do end up settling down youll have no regrets!

Answer 10

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