Were very much in love but my family doesnt approve of him because he's from the north. They dont even give him a chance, if they see what I see I know they would love him.It causes alot of conflict and I dont know what to do, he asked me to marry him and I say yes, now how do I break the news to them??
2006-10-19 21:02:10 · 10 answers · asked by lilsoutherngrl8422 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im over 18 im 21 so please stop thinkin im 18
2006-10-19 21:17:33 · update #1
Oh I know how you feel. My parents disapproved of the one I love. They actually even kicked me out of the house because of it. I was 19 when I told them about Will, he's older and they hated it. So when they kicked me out, where else do they think I was going to live. It was really hard at the beginning, but after a couple of years at least everyone could be civilized to eachother. So, I know how hard it is, but if you really love him and know he really loves you, get married. Tell your parents that you would love to have them there, but if they won't, don't let that stop you with the man that you love.
I hope things work out better for you. Take care.
2006-10-19 22:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Duper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At eighteen you are not old enough to REALLY know your own mind. Trust me, everybody that young, thinks they are mature, but later realizes that they still had a lot of growing up to do. I feel for you about your parents not liking your B/F, but the real tragedy would be to marry too young, and in the process cause a division with-in the family that may take years to undo, and that probability is very high that later on you will need your family, when it hits home that you married too young.
2006-10-19 21:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by hollymichal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started reading your problem and was going to say that you should at least listen to your parents some, maybe there's something there (I dated this woman my parents loathed and in the end they were absolutely right about her, she turned out to be a fu**ing ra*ing lunatic b**ch), but then I read further and saw that it's because your BF is from the northern US. If that's all there's to it, then your parents are absolutely absurd & nuts and should be unabashedly ignored. I didn't think people like that even existed anymore. They're dinosaurs. You should take photos of them, interview them and write it down in a journal because it'll have historic value one day --- chronicles of the very last of a dying breed.
Are your parents racist too? I want to understand that kind of person a little bit better.
2006-10-19 21:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 its kind of young peoples personalities change a lot by 25 in unexpected ways. Also, Family may not get mad about it but they get over it with time. In reality, better to take things slow because then you know the person to get good idea of what there like.
2006-10-19 21:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by ram456456 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you said yes to his proposal because you really love him and want to spend your life with him. Not because your rebelling from your parents trying to prove something to them. Just give your parents time and don't be in a rush. You can be engaged for awhile till they see that you are serious about this situation. If the conflict continues, then elope. But tell your Father, that you want HIM to walk you down the aisle. You don't want to elope but you love this guy. Try your best to help them see what you see in him. Because if you do elope, your parents will be hurt and it will only make it worse on you, and him. So you need to try your best at making this a win win situation.
2006-10-19 22:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm not sure.. but i heard of some similar cases and the couple just get married without their parents consent. after they get married and have children, their parents can accept their marriage coz they love to have grandchildren. Afterall they do not wanna lose their family ties. they'll understand one day. it takes time though...
Emmm..... u must be sure also about the guy u r marrying too, dat he's worth all the risks u have to go through in future after u guys are married.. all the best!
2006-10-19 21:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by libby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you are both over 18 and you are both able to make your decisions....let them know that you love them, and that you can't see why they don't approve of the two of you being together.....maybe they are afraid that their little girl is an adult now some parents can not accept that....I'm having the same trouble now with my parents and my ole man, well at least with my mother, she is a b i t c h to him and for no reason, other than she realizes that I'm a grownup now, just do like I do and continue to hold your ground and continue to love and support him! best wishes
2006-10-19 21:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Ma & Pa are southern rednecks.Tell them the North won the war, so shut up
2006-10-19 21:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come out and tell them and let them know you got to fallow your heart. and maybe one day they will see how much he means to you. good luck i'm behind you all the way.God bless and take care.
2006-10-19 21:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by linda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them u love them and are happy give them a sob story and then break the news
2006-10-19 21:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by supraknuckles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋