I WAS WITH THIS PERSON FOR 3 YEARS, AND DON'T KNOW WHERE WE WENT WRONG. SHE LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER PERSON. AND ALL I CAN DO IS THINK OF HER(DAY AND NIGHT). EVERYDAY I WAKE UP IT FEELS LIKE SHE'S STABBING MY HEART ALL OVER AGAIN.
2006-10-19 20:39:43 · 22 answers · asked by QUENNY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-10-19 20:46:42 · update #1
It will for some time.. this is how we know we loved someone is the pain it causes when it ends - as unfortunate as that is.. I mean we know in all other kinds of ways but this way too.
I would just say to keep your head up and try to feel good about yourself - keep busy and stay with friends or family. I had my ex leave me for some other girl too once and I felt so betrayed cause it was like she was my best friend and my gf - I couldn' t believe it- but it happens. Just know that her actions have nothing to do with you and only say something about her - her fear of commitment or that you two were just not made for each other - you wanted things to last and she wasn't in it for the long run.. whatever you think - just don' t blame yourself because it is NOT your fault that she did what she did.. Three years is a long time though - I am sure this hurts but all I can tell you is that with time, the pain will ease. Just try to forgive her and remember the good times you two had and be happy that you were with her for the time you were - you will always have a piece of her inside of you and so will she.. Perhaps in some time she will talk to you about why she hurt you - but for now, protect yourself and be gentle on yourself. It is going to hurt - I am sorry but it is.. it always does and it does feel like you heart is being ripped out of your chest and you can' t breathe- believe me, I know.
The best thing may be for you to get out and meet some other people - not to jump into anything with someone else but to get out there.. knowing others are attracted to you and coming up to you will make you feel good - your self esteem might be hurting right now so maybe meeting some people would help you get it back up and make you smile - just try to do things that you like to do - things to distract yourself. I used to play the most depressing music on the planet and cry - bawl my eyes out for days -- look at pictures and things and then after that time that I "lost it", it was almost a cleansing experience and I felt a bit better.. you are grieving the loss of her in some way so do whatever you think will help you through this - if that is crying then cry and it might hurt but I always liked to get it all out and not "stuff it" to deal with it again in time even worse..
I hope you feel better soon and you will - trust me.. but it does take time.. just try to get out there and feel beautiful and wanted and smile.. try to do things that make you happy. :o)
2006-10-19 20:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 05:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Martina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, break ups are hard and we all get it through it one way or another... Some things might work for someone but it might not work for you~
check out some of these....
- try getting out of the house but try to stay away from places where you guys hung out or made out (for a while)
-meet your friends go to clubs dance it away
-meet new people
-remember if you do drink don't get wasted it would make matters worse.
-the whole idea here is to keep you busy and your mind of of the sitiation the le you think about it the less pain you'll feel and before you know it, you can live without her.
but if you wanna get back which is gonna be hard on your if you guys don't get together... then if you feel there is a chance then give it a shot only one shot!!!
How you gonna do it and what you gonna do is up to you~You know yourself better...
All of the best and hope things work out for you~ in Both ways~
No pain no gain...
You will become stronger
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It does hurt when you find out someones seeing someone new, I went through this also with my ex who found someone new the day we broke up. And denied it.
3 months is still not enough time to get over a break up but the one thing you do need to do is stop focusing on her so much..sometimes we never get closure in a break up, but with or without closure, you can still move on.
It will hurt everyday and it will be hard, thats very normal..but eventually it does get better, you will start to slowly move on, it doesn't feel like it right now but it will happen.
Are you doing things for yourself? The one big way I started to get over my ex fast was keeping busy..at first I'd still be depressed even though I was busy, but then I really started having fun, and I made some new friends and started doing things I loved and it makes a HUGE difference!
Once again good luck
2006-10-19 21:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by im_a_ruffryder2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to go find the old punching bad {picture that bad as the person that dumped you} and beat the living crap out of it, but if you don't own a punching bad a nice drive around town 6am in the morning just 20 minutes before sunrise is a good way to forget about that person.
Like I always say to my little cousin if fate saids that's not the right person for you, then that's not the person you should be with for the rest of your life. Besides there a lot of fish in the lake, if you can't catch that one silver salmon then fish for another one eventually you'll encounter the one that you truely should be with.
2006-10-19 20:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't just make the pain go away over night. When gf dumped me, I dreamt about her every night for a month, and would often wake up with tears in my eyes. It'll take time for your broken heart to heal. In the mean time, you can do things to help take your mind off her, such as pick up a new hobby, or start on/finish some sort of project you had planned, anything that will help keep you focused and draw your attention away from what's happened. It won't take your mind off her 100%, but it should help you start thinking about her less and less. Also, treat yourself to something you rarely allow yourself to enjoy, be it a trip to a somewhat expensive restaurant, a night out on the town, or a vacation you've always wanted to take but kept putting off... Do whatever will make you happy. Pamper yourself for a bit. You deserve the break.
2006-10-19 20:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by goldenrose82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with." There are few things in life that are harder on a person than the time when they realize that the love they have worked so hard at, and spent so much time on, is finally over. For some, this realization is a complete shock and for others, they have seen the writing on the wall for some time now.There isn't a sure-fire way to mend a broken heart but there are definitely things you can to do to make it feel a bit lighter and ready for new love. First, allow yourself to feel what you need to and take all the time in the world to get over the person. For some people it may only take a few weeks to move on and others years. However long it takes, be okay with that. You can't live your life in the past, waiting for a second chance to do things differently. Doing so is only taking you away from experiencing things that could be better. Don't be scared to give love another try.So, you've found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn't the soul mate you've always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn't have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you'll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.Just because you are not attached to someone doesn't mean you can't enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you've always wanted to go.Maybe there is something you've always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.Best Wishes
2006-10-19 20:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only way to deal with this is to find someone to take her place and this will eliminate the memory of her. Staying away lone enough will help you to forget also. Sometimes relationship ends this way when no more love or feeling is there between the two of you. It also meant that you loved her more than she loved you. So if she left you for someone else it could also indicate that she was cheating on you anyway.
2006-10-19 20:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience the only way I found true peace was accepting Jesus as my Savior. Find a Christian church near your home and you will enter the family of God. You will receive love and goodness and many prayers and support. If you can also join a Bible Study. Praying is very POWERFUL. Trust me I know. You will start seeing changes in yourself. Reading and learning the Word of God brings peace, love, guidance to everything in life i.e. relationships, work, finances, family, marriage later on, etc... You will never regret having Jesus first in your life. He is the answer to all your problems. You will never be the same once Jesus touches your heart. It happened to me. And I never have had such great joy as I have now. Will you allow Him to come in your heart?
2006-10-19 20:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the flip side of love and its called heartbreak. The good news is that in order for you to have so much hurt you have loved deeply, and that is good news because you have experienced something really beautiful. There is more good news, you can love deeply again. For now breathe, repair yourself, be good to yourself. You will find someone worthy of your love again. When you do, be good to this new person, give more than you expect back and be grateful for everyday your together. Good luck
2006-10-19 20:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Ande Deel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOHH! Im sooo sorry about this!! I hope you will recover!
Anyway, what I would do: Listen to some sad music and cry everything out, ORR just sit down with 5 boxes of Kleenex and cry cry cry EVERYTHING OUT.
Second of all tell that to the water. Say EVERYTHING to the water.
THEN, ask some of your closest friends and go to the mall or some cafes and HAVE SOME FUN!!!!!!
Hope it Helps!
~ME
2006-10-19 20:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋