What do I do?

Question

I have this friend who keeps blowing up at me over the littlest and stupidest things. I mean we are supposed to be mature but she sure as heck isn't acting mature and isn't treating me like a very good friend... This has happened once before and I called her up first and made the first attempt to hang out with her again but after now telling me she's done with our friendship for the 2nd time (she's quite dramatic but doesn't mean it half the time) I don't think I should be calling to talk to her about it I think that if she wants to talk, she needs to call me. What do you guys think? I'm pretty sure I have a good perspective on this but what would you guys do if you were in my shoes? Gimme detailed answers please...

Answer 1

I think If you keep making the move to rectify the relationship you will be doing this for the duration of the relationship.
let her make some initiative to resolve the problem, and with this you will know that the relationship is valuable to her as well.

Answer 2

I would quit trying to put a band aid on her mistakes. If she was blowing up on me for small things I would limit my hanging out with her. If she called me up and asked to do something I would go....If she did it again I would just leave. Give her a chance to grow up. I wouldn't confide in her about anything and I wouldn't really even consider her to be a friend, just an acquaintance. eventually she will eather grow up and quit taking the friendship for granted or you will completely go your separate ways. There is something deep inside her that is bothering her but its up to her to figure out and fix. Maybe after not having you around to take her back and kiss her *** she will start to work these problems out herself and become a better friend to you.

Answer 3

don't let yourself be trampled. If you keep coming back to her when she treats you poorly, you're sending signals that say its ok for her to act immature and treat people as though their feelings dont matter. Tell her you're hurt--and leave the rest up to her. If she calls to apologize, then she calls and take it from there. If she refuses to acknowledge your feelings, then let her go. No one needs a friend that isn't really a friend.

Answer 4

If you are waiting for her to call you is that you are still caring for her. Since she wants to be like this, give her the boot and find you another girlfriend that wants you for you. After all she has already told you it is over, so lose all your connections to the communications.

Answer 5

let it go. if she doesnt want to talk to you dont kiss her butt. you say "shes dramatic but doesnt mean it half the time" dont be so sure. this reminds me of me and one of my friends. i blew up at her for little things too but really it was just built up anger for something she had done to me in the past. i realize that i never really forgave her for it but i used other things to yell at her about. i really didnt want to be friends w. her at one point and i told her that and she thought i was kidding. just talk to her and ask her if she realy means what shes said. if so let her go.