Whats it like to be single with kids is it really hard work? Will i need to buy shares in batteries for my vib?(sorry) Seriously though whats it like? Too late now its the single highway for me now
2006-10-19 20:34:40 · 26 answers · asked by jules 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
kids are 4,3,20 months oh i should of had a headache on those nights!!!
2006-10-19 20:39:41 · update #1
wow thank you dont feel so bad now ready to go now!! You all are so right i make joke around but my children to come first always have and always will
2006-10-19 23:49:27 · update #2
You will carry on raising the children just like you were when you are married. The only difference is you will be doing it solo. As far a personal life, you are going to have to wait when Dad picks up the kids for the weekend if you are not too exhausted.
2006-10-19 20:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single mum, is one of the hardest job on earth, even when you are sick you still have to be mum! But guess what I would not change it for anything!!
Get a good support network especially if you work, I use friends and family for the week holidays and summer play-scheme.
It is a long road but the rewards from the kids is FANTASTIC. Your happiness or unhappiness rubs off on the kids. If the marriage is not working it is not working.
Your kids are young so for the next couple of years it maybe very hard but once in nursery/school it gets easier. I was lost when my last child started nursery.
With regards to your vib whatever makes you happy but nothing beats the real thing!!
Good Luck and god bless
2006-10-19 21:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by PRIVATE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're in this situation, but you're in good company. I'm a single mum of a severely autistic boy and I find things tough especially as I have a medical condition myself. But because my marriage was so awful anything seems happier than that. You can have a happy life with your kids and build up a really close bond with them. If you feel isolated try looking for single mum groups in your area, or make friends with other mums at your kids school. Loads of mums are in the same situation. And don't think you won't ever find another man - loads of men are attracted to women witha ready made family. I wish you luck with your new life, and remember at least you're not in an unhappy relationship anymore. That will be much better for you and your kids. The vibrator is a necessity though!
2006-10-19 22:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel for you totally, as i have recently become a single mum, having seperated after 17 years with my husband,and have 2 young children too. It's not easy, what stage are you at??? Have you done the crying bit, the how am i going to cope bit? The hopeless stage where you feel like you are destined to be wiping dribble and snot lines of you forever?? still trying to make it amicable when he really doesn't give a damm, that no man will ever look at you etc etc........I have, then you suddenly realise there's less washing, less to pick up and tidy, less pressure to be the wife you tried to be, you'll get some routines going for the kids.....that suit YOU, then you'll start looking at what you always wanted to do, to be, before the marriage, the kids and reassess your options. I got left with piles of debt, lots of uncertainty but am beginning to manage it all, and so will you. Getting out a bit with friends has helped, this whole 'answers' set up has helped me too, as when i felt isolated and still in 'housewife' mode, the guys on this really started showing me that there are other people out there and it feels good. Finding your independance as a woman that you aren't just a mum feels nice, finding that you are in fact attractive, that people do want to talk to you as you, that you can be both a fantastic, loving and caring mum, whilst becoming a single woman enjoying her own life too it soon starts to actually begin to get exciting.......the vib part, lol, am beginning to feel like that myself!!!! but then my marriage was stale a long while back and I just forgot what intimicy and being cared for felt like, so yeah you will be ok, you can do it and get out and get some attention....you won't need a vib for long!!!! Good luck, email me anytime if the going gets tough. x
2006-10-19 22:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been a single mom now for 3 months and it is hard to begin with. Just take each day as it comes, and deal with each problem one at a time. Get financial help from the council re rent/mortgage payments, child benefit, extra tax credits...anything you're entitled to. Take any and all offers of babysitting, even if it's only to have some quality time to yourself. And yes, get some batteries; it's not the same, but it sure helps!
2006-10-20 05:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take each day as it comes, i became a single mum when i was 26. I work full time and look after my daughter....its hard to start with but as you see your kids grow it gets easier. And you may not be single forever.............
ps (vibs dont help cos its not the same as actually being with someone ;o) )
2006-10-19 20:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by life_vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been separated from a bad 20yr relationship for the past 2 yrs now... i have 3 children and still work full time. I have no family to help me and frankly was never allowed out during my marriage to make friends so am on my own big time... but i am making new friends through getting the odd night out with workmates and using online dating... things have taken a while to get going in finding a work/kids/life balance but its starting to work and i am happier now than during most of my marriage.
hang on in there girl. u'll do fine. just learn to accept help as and when u need it. i probably would have had it easier earlier in the split if i had of done this... but we live n learn.
rooting for u and hope ur life gets better n better.
(ps. yes... get more batteries! lol) x
2006-10-19 22:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cubangirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mum too - its not the end of the world and I get the kids all to myself! Lets face it he wasnt happy was he? Life with an unhappy guy is not much fun.
There are pleanty of guys out there - they suddenly ooze out of the woodwork!
As for the batteries - at least I know when I have a headache!
2006-10-20 05:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life will turn out well for you. Do you not deserve the best? It takes time too see all of this, and in the mean time buy cheap batteries for your vib, the expensive ones will wear out your vib quick!!!
2006-10-19 20:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweetson01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jules, I tell you what,, I love kids, I am and have been very single quite awhile, If you let me fix you dinner and we can talk, I will even bring you a yrs supply of batteries, and then maybe you will still know that men ARE attracted to women with kids, they are the innocent ones, they've done nothing wrong, anyway,, I am just tryin to slide my way to your side and let you know there are still good guys out here that will treat you like you want and deserve to be treated , Best of Luck to you and your kids ,
2006-10-19 21:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋