I don't know if "suspicious" is the right word, I just feel downright weird when someone asks me what name we've picked out for our future daughter. And most people won't take NO for an answer! My boss practically dragged it out of me, even when I told her I was uncomfortable talking about it.
My husband and I don't even refer to her by her name yet. I'm 36 weeks along, and we still call her "the baby" or just "it." And now that the grandparents know what we're naming her, they refer to her by name all the time, which makes me crazy.
I'm weird, huh...?
2006-10-19 20:15:12 · 9 answers · asked by clueless: please be kind 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't feel that way. But I don't think you're weird. I think it is totally understandable. Right now we've said, "the baby" or we we've tried out the two names we have picked out. We don't know yet if it is a boy or girl. I'll find out next week then I'm sure we'll refer to the baby by name all the time. However, I refuse to tell anyone else the names we have picked out. This is our third baby and I've learned that no matter what you pick, family will find a way to criticize it. So, we're not sharing until the baby is here. We named our first son Joseph and my mom found a way to tell us how terrible it was!!!
Someone on here said that baby names are for announcing not analzying. I so agree! So, keep them to yourself if it make you feel better. Who cares if other people find it weird. You're the one who is pregnant. You need to have peace of mind.
2006-10-19 20:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess everybody is different, I found out the sex of my son now 4 and as soon as I knew it was a him I decided what to call him, I found it helped me bond with him, Like I was talking to him as he was already alive as I looked at it as he was, I could feel him moving and I could hear his heart beat at the doctors.
With my second I started calling her Jaida at around 22 weeks after we finally decided on a name but the spelling was still up in the air until she was born. It helped my son bond with her as we would ask him where his sister Jaida was and he knew He was only 22 months and my sister in law was pregnant at the same time so it made it much easier then baby and baby they were indiviguals, when she was born but I found it helped him adapted to her birth, after he met her he never even asked about the baby in my stomach as he already knew his sister was Jaida and he had met Jaida. This time I'm over half way and its still 'the baby', Hubby and I haven't decided on a name as the sex is very unsure. If we knew what it was it would help. This is a personal experience and everybody is different, I was told it was good to use the name because your baby was a person even before birth and you can talk to them the same as after the birth. I guess its hard to call your baby there name if the sex is unknown either by choose or just because its to hard to tell.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 03:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never felt that way, but that doesn't make you weird. If you don't want anyone to know then don't say anything. What I do find "weird" is the fact that when it comes to a pregnant woman and her space or privacy all manners go right out the window. I could rant all night but will stop here.
2006-10-20 03:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by D J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousins are about to have a baby and they totally refused to tell anyone the name they picked out. They just call him "Baby Boy" ----- and then thier last name. I'm not really sure why they want to keep it a secret, but they definately haven't told anyone. Just stick up for yourself if somebody asks and tell them you want it to be a surprise when the baby comes. Or, you could always lie and tell them you don't know yet. I think if you don't want to tell anyone, u don't have to.
2006-10-20 15:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you arent weird. ;-) We didnt tell a soul the name we had picked out for our girl until she was in my arms - and we had several people who didnt want to take no for an answer either, like my husbands mother. He almost told her a few times, and I would quickly remind him we were keeping it a secret! It was more to keep her name safe from others opinions that might sway us to change it when we both really liked it than out of supersition or anything.
2006-10-20 03:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way when i was pregnant but I assumed that it was just because I was giving my child up for adoption. I was afraid somehow that by saying the name, something bad would happen that he wouldn't survive. I just always thought that I was really afraid that by using his name, I'd get too attached. I doubt that you have to worry about that. I think it's just a bit of a mind trick induced by pregnancy hormones, like the nightmares that many women get early in second trimester.
2006-10-20 03:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not crazy. It felt unreal to me. Like a dream, even after she was born. You will get the hang of it. people are just like that, expecally when you are pregnant. They... well they get on your last nerves.
"You still have not had that baby?"
Look at me what do you think
"so if it is a boy and the doctor told you it was a girl what will you do?"
Why even tell a person that?
2006-10-20 03:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r not weird at all. I was weird on telling people what I wanted to name my 2 kids. Put I guess that is just me. I had to give up my kids for adoption so I am glad I got to call them what I wanted to. Chase and Noelle got to keep their names.
2006-10-20 05:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by cool_babe_80_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I was a lot younger I felt that way about my sister that was being born, but if you say it all the time it shouldn't feel that weird.
2006-10-20 03:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Persia Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋