I'm together with a man that has 3 daughters and got divorse from an 18 year marriage. We have a 1 year old son, he is the perfect father, and a very good man, but the fact that he has 3 daughters kill me, and that he was married before also. I'm not happy like that, it's something I can't live with but I want for my baby to have the family I didn't. What should I do?
2006-10-19 20:14:48 · 14 answers · asked by Heidys P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear you should have thought about this before you had a child with him. He can't change the past. I suggest you get some counseling. I am sure you had relationsips before him and he lives with that. It is a fact of life everyone deals with. The relationships we have help make us into the people we are today. Isn't this why you love him? Good luck
2006-10-19 23:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you know prior to getting pregnant that he had 3 daughters? And that he got a divorce after 18 years? You should be happy he is the perfect father and a very good man. I think maybe he would be better off without you, not the other way around.
2006-10-19 20:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.....did you not know that he was married and had kids before yall got together and had a kid. I see you made this bed and now you have to lie in it. I am sure the marriage and kid thing was not a shock. You should have thought about that before you got together with him. No you can either stay or leave, but if the kid gets hurt in the process then it is your fault.
2006-10-20 06:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he treat you and the kid. The ex is always there. Will always be there. Babies are easy to play with how does he treat the girls. He will treat your son the same way later. After 18 years and changing life styles is scary... I'd worried .
2006-10-19 20:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Dann R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it was "something you can't live with."
Why?
Ask yourself why you can't deal with his past. I'd think realllllllllllllllly hard before you throw a good man away. Does he drink? Swear? Do drugs? Criminal history? Bad family? Mean to you? No? Then u crazy if you ditch him.
2006-10-19 20:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have serious doubts about marrying the
man you should have thought about all these other things before you got pregnant . do you feel insecure that you wont live up to his expectations? it sounds like you are having alot of resentment issues not too mention a little jealousy. you and your man need to sit down one one on
one and talk this out tell him how you are feeling.
2006-10-19 20:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the man married when you met him? If he was you should not have started dating him. Are you married to him now? If he is your babies father and he treats you and your child decent and you are married to him now. I think you should stay with him.
2006-10-19 20:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by READER 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you are being very selfish.. you knew before you became serious with this man that he had baggage... and you stuck with it. His daughters are a part of him. You want him, you take his kids... they are a package deal... if you can't except it, then do him a favor and let him find a real woman who will love him as he is, with baggage.... PACKAGE DEAL LADY!!!!
2006-10-19 20:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by next.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you know all of this when you first got together with him? You should have decided whether you should stay with him before you had his baby. If you can't accept his kids don't stay.
2006-10-19 20:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by stariei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you must have known from the beginning about his kids, and now you have a child with him.. In my opinion you need to accept his children and maybe you can have the family you never grew up with.. Its all up to you
2006-10-19 20:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by cockednlocked38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋