Im suffering alot since my first child I have never been able to sleep, i have day dreams of both of my children dieing, I can picture there funneral. Im a nervous reck. I love my kids so much infact i love them to much, but i cant carm myself down. I could be driving along and i could visualise a fire and feel the pain my children would be in, i would be in tears all the time. I pray every night for my children to be safe, can anyone give me PROPER advise to control this.... Only serious answers please
2006-10-19 19:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by chicken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since u know how to pray, that should have solved 99.5% of ur problem. why domnt u just trust God that everything will be alright? The more u doubt, the more you will have to live without.... so keep the faith. God wont give u anything u wont be able to handle.. He have heard all ur petitions.. so stop worrying.. god is in control.. whatever u do, even if u stay with ur children 24/7, its not a guarantee they wil be safe. But trust me.. one thing is for sure.. they will be safe in God's mighty hands....
2006-10-19 20:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's possible you are still suffering from post-natal depression or are depressed in general. I would advise seeing your doctor as a starting point. If you really feel you don't want to do that, then i would suggest that every time you imagine something bad happening to the children, you IMMEDIATELY flick your thoughts to something good - imagining your kids, happy, laughing, playing, sleeping or whatever.
It is impossible to protect your children all the time but if you take reasonable precautions, suitable to their ages, then they should be ok. You worrying doesnt actually help them! Try to remember that. It is just making you ill.
I do understand how you feel cos i myself have pictured my own kids funerals' - it's bizarre, but don't dwell on it.
If you pray, then no doubt you believe in God or a Higher Power. Don't pray with no trust. The Lord is your Shepherd, you shall not want.
Talk this through with friends and see if they can help you, but if not get proper counselling, so that your day to day life is not ruined.
I hope you can get past this, i really do. It must be so draining. Take care of yourself too.
2006-10-19 20:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are this children by the way?
You are just being too protective and that's why you are now falling into physic problems. Just know you cannot give them good protection as God.Live your life and pray for them that the best a mother can give to her children. Children are like guests so when they grow up they go and not live with you forever.
2006-10-19 21:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to suggest a cliche but...counselling? It really does work. Speak to your GP about it.
Aside from that you need take a step back and calm down. Try leaving your kids with a babysitter or something for an evening. It'll be gut-wrenching but if you can do it you'll build confidence and the strength to not worry so much
2006-10-19 20:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by fatboyslick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly you are not alone. it is every loving parents absolute worst nightmare and no matter how sane you are you will feel like you can never do enough to protect your babies. the problem for you is that things have gone way to extreem.Your feelings now will be been affected by some other factor[s] and nobody on line will be able to tell you what those factors are. get help i am not been patronising or judgmental i have been there.you can control this it doesnt have to control you.good luck x
2006-10-19 20:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by caroline c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am exactly the same. I have a 5 year old son and I'm terrified of anything happening to him. I'm about to go to counselling so I'd advise to to do the same as it will help to talk your fears over with someone. It stems from love for your kids and the overwhelming desire to protect them as they are so vulnerable. It's normal to feel those things but not when it consumes your life. Hopefully counselling will help, of not speak to your doctor about other treatments for severe anxiety.
2006-10-19 22:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am exactly the same I used to carry my baby down the stairs and have vivid images of dropping her and falling down the stairs, its anxiety and it is treated the same way as depression. They put me on tablets but I have managed to stop taking them, I suppose if you dont like the idea of tablets then speak to your gp. The natural law is that our children will out live us its what normally happens so just keep thinking that, its more probable that that will happen, not the other way round. If you keep your children as safe as it is possible to do so then I shouldnt think they will be in any freak accidents, just dont go over the top and wrap them in cotton wool, they wont thank you for it. Good luck x
2006-10-19 20:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are having anxiety attacks. You need to speak to your doctor or you behaviour will affect your children in the long run. It's not natural to worry that much.
2006-10-19 21:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, you're a great parent. But, a touch too paranoid. Consult a physician. Not that you're insane, or anything. A physician can help find out why you're feeling like this. Don't worry. These things happen.
2006-10-19 20:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by csmcsm94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im no expert, but your extreme anxiety could be a sign of depression...go to your doctor as this is spoiling what should be a lovely time for you and the kids will pick up on it, so for all your sakes get some help...good luck :-)
2006-10-19 20:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by ginger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋