I like this girl so much, but she's already had a bf. So I am trying to forget about her and treating her just like a normal friend. Her bf treats her like cr@p. Everytime she comes to me and talks to me about her situation, I just cant stand that guy -her bf- for so many reasons....However, I dont know what I should do...I dont know whether I should meddle in or leave it up to her decision about her relationship...She once told me that I was her best friend...So I dont want to lose that title...Please help me ! I'm stuck here and dont know wat to do !!!
2006-10-19 19:12:51 · 12 answers · asked by pharmwannabe0129 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, being her best friend is to give up the ulterior motive of trying to win her over. She's venting about the guy but you should never talk bad about him because she will end up distancing herself from you. She will end it with him when she's had enough. All you can do is be the friend and listen and be there for her when she needs your friendship. It would be uncool to try to come between her and the guy in any way. Don't encourage or allow deceitfulness between you, IF she means that much to you. She'll respect you more in the longrun and... you will respect her more as well.
2006-10-19 19:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest coming from a girl's point of view. I think you should leave it alone. You can't see someone only to have the same conversation over and over. As hard as it may be you should save yourself from her. You may want to tell her that you are sure there is another good guy out there. But in order to discover him she should leave her current b/f. You know all too often great guys are hanging on to the thought of maybe "replacing' the guy who is so bad.. Come on when she gets sick of what he is doing she'll go and then you will have to be sure they are over each other. Because if not there is still no room for you. Just be careful. Try to change the subjects so that maybe you can better know what is going on with her. If you really still like her then you may want to tell her of your feelings but try not to for a while...
2006-10-19 19:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by rosezealous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's telling you about her boyfriend problems, that means you are just another girlfriend in her eyes to spout off her problems to. Forget about her, or at least act like you don't care. Don't just sit there and listen to that garbage. Be a player and try and move in on the situation. "Hey forget his a s s lets go out and do something." Quit being a b i t c h and tap that a s s.
2006-10-19 19:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, you are in the catbird seat! Don't EVER, EVER tell her how you feel about him. Let HER tell your how SHE feels about him. Listen, & be there for her no matter what, just like the best friend you are. If & when he shoots himself down, you will be there to help her put herself back together again. But don't get impatient! This is a waiting game for you, & you are the only one who can ruin it for you. She is really going to need you when he kills their relationship, as her best friend, not as a replacement. Then, when the time is right, you will be there in shining armor. So hold tight, & keep the faith!
2006-10-19 19:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by therealme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never stand by and do nothing, especially if it's someone I love. If she cares for the guy, she'll probably ignore what you have to say when you offer advice. Just be there for her. If you can't be just her friend. Tell her how you feel, that you want more and can't stand by and see her get hurt by someone else. She might reject you but she will come to her senses sooner or later. Good luck and be blessed.
2006-10-19 19:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Curly Q Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should continue to be there for her. Be supportive, and let her know how you think she deserves to be treated. However, I would not recommend getting in the middle. If you are meant to be together it will happen, but let it happen in it's own time. She most likely needs a good friend to trust and talk to.
2006-10-19 19:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Gia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell her how you feel and try to get her to see what you see. Ultimately, it is up to her. If she refuses to see it, then you can't make her end the relationship. It also kind of depends on how old you two are. It sounds like you are both adults. If you two are under eighteen, then maybe you can try talking to her parents.
Is there anyone else who knows what's going on. Maybe they can talk to her too, if the talk with you doesn't work.
2006-10-19 19:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should protect her againsther boyfriend and try to be there for he rbecause even though you dont want to meddle you have an obligation has her good friend to look out for her and protect her so you shouldn't stay away...
2006-10-19 19:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not meddle that for sure!! then you wold lose that title you have! But you cant do nothing either. i would try to help her with her problem. ask her questions like "wat can i do to help make this stop?" or somethings like that. but remember dont MEDDLE!!!
hope you stop him
2006-10-19 19:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by DaysiJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the best thing to do is support her. because she is going to be with him regardless of what you think at some point she is going to get sick and tired of treated like crap
2006-10-19 19:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by ~Ms. Peaches~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋