i don't know what to think of this guy i've been dating... i really want sex and he doesn't believe in premarital sex...this is so not what i'm used to...so, anyway do i want it more becuz he doesn't? shouldn't u drive the car be4 u buy it? or is it that i am used to sex starved men who didn't respect me? i am 43, not a kid anymore...serious comments only please!
2006-10-19 19:10:47 · 17 answers · asked by bev_lev 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good sex is a result of a good relationship. You dont need to test drive him. It will be good if you guys are in it for the right reasons. I think its smart to not let sex get in the way and cloud your feelings. This way, if you guys work out, you know it will be for the right reasons. You said you were used to men always wanting sex from you. And you gave it to them. How did that work for ya? Where are they now?
2006-10-19 19:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you see yourself growing old together then I suggest you respect his wishes & you wait until he is ready.
I think he respect you & himself allot more then those other s e x starved men respected you.
You should be greatfull that a man like him still excist in this world.
The whole "drive the car be 4 ya buy it" - personally I agree with you there, you should try him out first.
Coz once your in a serious commitment with him and the s e x is not good you will obviously want to look at other men, so save both of you the pain & tell him exactly how you feel
It must be so frustrating not being abe to have s e x with him.
Rather let it all out.
I think the only GOOD think you can do is think about this hard & then asks yourself "do i love him? do i wanna spend my whole life with him? do i see myself with him in 4 years? do i wanna have his kids" If you answered no to these questions then dump him & let him save himself for his true love!
2006-10-20 02:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by MERCAYDEES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do indeed want it more cause you cant have it. It is human female nature to want what we cannot have. Its like a huge temptation. Eve and the Apple. This thing goes way back. I wish you all the luck in the world. A sex deprived women the world don't wanna mess with.In the meantime, I don't know how you feel about vibrators and masturbation, but Ive got this vibe and its a banana shape and it works wonders, even on the g-spot, ask him how he feels about doing something like that. If he's not on board you could always do it to yourself when he isn't there.
2006-10-20 02:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by twysty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I admire this guy, I am sure he wants sex as much as you do but has obviously made a decision to abstain until he marries. His choice to wait has no reflection on how he feels about you, I am sure he would love to make love as much as you do. Sometimes sex is far better when you wait, being turned on and unable to do anything about it is extremely sexual. I don't necessarily agree with your saying "drive the car before you buy", anymore than I agree with the saying " Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free ". I wish you happiness.
2006-10-20 02:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has really been hurt in the past, possibly burned .... Sounds weird but there are alot of men out here like this.. Is he really religious, because that may be the answer right there. If you don't see yourself having a serious relationship with him possibly marriage, then I suggest you stop the charades and move on, it would save you and him both valuble time.. Life is too short to be dilly dallying and unhappy !!
2006-10-20 02:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not they don't respect you is they don't respect the value of a relationship... I am 43 also and I have had prematial sex and Its just the thought that there are no strings attached... I have been there and done that... Just look me up if you want to go in depth about this...
2006-10-20 02:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by cockednlocked38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether he is now more attractive to you because he has denied what you have asked is not the point. At 43 years of age you are a grown woman who knows what's best for herself and what she is prepared to accept. You have to ask yourself - how much does this situation bother you? Are you prepared to marry this guy in order to have a sexual relationship with him? Further, if his perception of the world and his values do not mirror yours, then perhaps you would be better suited to someone else.
2006-10-20 02:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his beliefs. If you don't want to date someone who won't have sex with you unless he's married to you, then you need to end it with him. Are you looking for marriage? If you are, and you like him, then why don't you see what becomes of it? Perhaps there are other things he is willing to do that isn't sex, but is sexual.
2006-10-20 02:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about someone you should respect their wishes. If you see yourself really settling down with his guy then it would be worth it. IF all you want is sex, then you need a friend with benefits.But if want something real, honest, and a loving relationship respect his wishes.
2006-10-20 02:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by ~Ms. Peaches~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like guys do to us, get him drunk :)
Seriously though, I've dated guys who said the same thing and it turned out they were virgins and scared! Could this be the case with this guy? Like the movie the 40-year old virgin?? I bet if you kept dating him, he would come around.
Hopefully you guys kiss right? If not maybe he is gay!
2006-10-20 02:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Afinity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋