i have talked to him and he doesn't answer me at all, i know he is not cheating he is either at work or at home with me.... but he never shows me attetion anymore no kisses no hugs nothing, i am hurting so bad what is going on please help me i can't even sleep.
2006-10-19 19:05:47 · 14 answers · asked by lovebug1234 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You need to get involved in a hobby or go to the gym and not sit next to him and hover over him. Don't you know men hybernate for x amount of days, weeks, or even months. It's like they go into a cave and think things through and each one snaps out of it at different times. You need to show patience and do things that please you that you haven't done bc of spending time with your bf.
Do not be anxious or hurt about anything. Sign up for a dance class or whatever you like. Do things for yourself.
In my experience the only way I found true peace was accepting Jesus as my Savior. Find a Christian church near your home and you will enter the family of God. You will receive love and goodness and many prayers and support. If you can also join a women's Bible Study. Praying is POWERFUL. Trust me I know. Get the book "Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. Very Very Good. It is the only way you will start seeing changes in your husband. Reading and learning the Word of God brings peace, love, guidance to everything in life including your children. You will never regret having Jesus first in your life. He is the answer to all your problems. You will never be the same once Jesus touches your heart.Will you allow Him?
2006-10-19 19:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really enjoy reading all the answers telling you to GET OUT of the relationship, and kick him to the curb, etc.! Is it any wonder the divorce rate in America is now over 60%?! Everyone is looking for any opportunity to just quit and give up! I know you aren't married, but if you quit this relationship without trying to fix the problem, you simply will find yourself in the same situation in your next relationship around the 2 year mark as well.
Relationships ultimately "cool-off" and become more like friendships than romantic relationships. Hollywood movies are a big part of the problem because they show this idealized version of romantic love. Why? Because it sells movie tickets! In reality, all relationships get to a point where you simply stay together for reasons other than passion. It sounds like you are probably pressuring him or insisting that things be the same as they were 2 years ago when you first began dating - and that isn't realistic.
2006-10-19 19:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to talk with him and he chooses to ignore you, and is actions are what you say, I think he might be wanting you to make some kind of move to end the relationship. But sense we are only hearing one side of the story, it would only be fair to try something else. To just throw your hands up, and say to heck with it, isn't saying much about your character. I would probably write him a letter, so he could read it as many times as he wants, and really think about what you did write, and how you do feel. Tell him how you truly feel. In the letter you could let him know that you expect some kind of reply, because you "need" to know if your heart still can be in the relationship. Sounds like you have nothing to lose, but lost time at this point, so go for it! Time is precious, and you have to be worth it!!
2006-10-19 20:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to go out and do stuff for him. Dont get mad at him if he wants to spend time with the guys or do guy stuff. He needs that time for his brain to relax, and he will come back to you feeling a lot better. Spending TOO much time together can be really destructive in a relationship. Be secure enough in him to let him retreat now and then.
2006-10-19 19:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go about your way, He has stopped showing you any kind affection and he must be drifting away. I think he is afraid to Tell you. There is always another person who may be the right one . As long as you don't have a baggage like marriage and kids. Show him his way be free to pursue a better catch. Good Luck!
2006-10-19 19:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he loves you that he is neglecting you and what is happening. Get his attention, perhaps something may be bothering him and men are quite and keep inner most secrets to themselves a lots. Just keep showing your love and affection and sooner or later he will come around with even better romantic ordeals for you.
2006-10-19 19:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lovebug, Sorry to hear your BF is treating you so badly. it sounds like he is tired of you relationship and wants out.Or he could have meant someone else,and you just don't know anything about it. It's time to kick his sorry a s s to the hurb and move on.i know you are hurting,do you want to be hurting all the time your with this jerk.move on sweety,you deserve alot better. A Friend
Clowmy
2006-10-19 19:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl i dont think it ever gets better. I been w/ my hubby for 9 yr all 2 gether n i still gotta beg that mutha for attention. hes cool bout it till his rocket is ready for blast off. let em know how u feel and what u need... he is use to you thats why. spice it up show him new things make him want you or bust em up side the head like i do...
2006-10-19 19:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by stronger times 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships go through phases. Give him some space maybe he needs some timeout with his friends.
2006-10-19 19:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋