I'm scared, I've been with my husband for 13 years. The last 2 months he's been edgy, and snappy. He seems to be in a bad mood all the time anymore, and ALL he does is complain. I've tried talking to him but he just blows me off and says "what are you talking about, I'm not moody". I do everything for him, cook, clean, laundry, bills, have sex when ever he wants, i run all the errands, let him go out with his friends whenever he wants, I bath the three kids, take care of their needs, and but them to bed. I am not sure what is / can be going on for him? I know it's not money - he makes more then enough to cover bills and then some. Any ideas what could be wrong with him? Or what I should say or think??????? Does he not love me anymore, when I ask him he says "OMG of course i love you".
2006-10-19 19:00:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think u r unneccesarily being scared for no matter. Men do have some problem at certain circumstances like at work,business etc. and they also dont take these problem to family. Your taking care of everything, thats really good and I appreciate that. You are just like my mom. Just keep doing the same and stop asking your hubby about his silence. Surely he will come by himself and ask you any solutions if he has any problem. One thing damn sure, he his loving you more. So dont worry about it.
2006-10-19 19:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is all of a sudden, out of the blue, and not his normal self, I would be wondering what was going on myself. Is there any chance he is using methamphetamines? That is a trait amongst those who use that. When they "crash", come down, possibly don't have any more, they get irritable. If there is no possibility of drug use, it could be he is just stressed out. Could be his job, co-worker, boss, pressures or new responsibilities. Could be a variety of things. Could also be he is having a fling. Or it could be the pressures of 3 kids and responsibility issues, like a mini mid life crisis, he may be feeling getting older is freaking him out. I would wait a few and see if it changes, or if you could get him to open up a little. Instead of verbally asking him, write him a little letter for him to read. It won't sound like your nagging, if he reads it during a quiet moment to himself, and gets to maybe think about what he has read.
2006-10-19 19:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you girl.
there could be something on his mind that's bothering him and it could have nothing to do with you,
You and him have been married for 13 years and out of those 13 years he has been that way only 2 month's. I don't think that he doesn't love you any more. 13 years of marriage is a miracle these days and it would be sad to throw that kind of love away. You should try to not think that way because if it has nothing to do with yalls marriage and something else is on his mind your only making it harder for him to dill with whats really wrong with him.I think you should be worried he is your husband but don't automatically think its you. You should tell him that he has been acting strange but just let him know that if something is wrong with him that you'll be there to help him through it. He might not think that hes been acting that way so give him time to realize whats wrong so he can tell you.
2006-10-19 19:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by leftsidesquare@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to a doctor ASAP. Many things can cause changes in a personality. Most causes are easily fixed. It could be hormonal, some medicine he is taking, car exhaust getting into the car, or one of a hundred things. He may not be getting enough sleep for one of many reasons. Only a doc can figure it out.
We went thru this with my wife. Turned out she had developed a thyroid problem. One pill a day and she is her old self.
Get him to a doctor!!!
2006-10-19 19:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... he could be abusing drugs or alcohol... or there could be someone else... I'd be more concerned about myself if I was in your shoes. You're making family life much too easy for him. Where do you and your needs fit into the picture? It isn't too much to expect your man to communicate with you like you're equal to him. You're supposed to be equal partners in your marriage afterall. He should be respecting you, helping you, and making you feel like the treasure that you are. It's not enough to say I love you. He may love you (in his own way) but he is not treating you as if he wants you to stay in his life forever, he's treating you like he expects it, no matter what. Communication problems, marriage counseling, 100% mutual effort on both parts or you wont be mutually content in your relationship together.
2006-10-19 19:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 years is a long time.. Maybe you need to plan some time alone out of your state with just him.. Sometime when you take them out of their elements and have them on neutral grounds ie.. a jacuzzi with champagne you can get more answers that can be beneficial to you.. You may not like what you hear, but at least you will have a handle on the situation... I don't doubt he loves you, he may just need a change of scenery !!!!
2006-10-19 19:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is just going through something. We all get moody from tme to time but that does not mean that the one we love is responsible for the moodiness. He's your husband give him time he will tell you what is bothering him but I doubt it's to do with you so just give him some space - no offence.
2006-10-19 20:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started my period, I was about 12, I skipped about 5 months of my period. Its completely normal for younger girls. Your body is trying to get used to a regular cycle. A LOT can affect when you get your period as well, sexual contact (or masterbation), physical activity, increase in appetite, decrease in appetite, stress, and a LOT more. So don't panic, everything is perfectly normal. If you get too worried, you could always ask your mom to take you to a doctor, so he/she can explain everything.
2016-05-22 04:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby went through the same thing. its called male menopause. He feels like he is getting old and that he isn't attractive to women any more. Most you can do for him is to stand by him, give him compliments and build up his ego a little. Let him know how sexy he is to you. get my drift?
2006-10-19 19:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for a while. Support him this way. Get some distance for yourself. He will come around
2006-10-19 19:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋