I have had a friend thats a girl for quite some time. She only used to be my best friends sister, but over the course of the last 6 years something has changed. I befriended her bout 2 years ago and now we're pretty close. I started having feelings for her, and i don't know how to tell if she wants to be more, or remain just friends?
2006-10-19 18:48:13 · 4 answers · asked by buddyspy49 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
how does she behave when she's around u? mayb dat can give u sum clues
2006-10-19 18:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by mnd2nite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... as for how to tell if she likes you... not quite sure, it's different for different people. I really couldn't tell you if she does or not without any details. Try not to let your emotions get in the way of judging if she likes you or not, but don't assume that it all is just wishful thinking either. You might try hinting at the subject to see her reaction, but be careful with that... or you could ask another friend if he (or she) thinks she wants to be more than friends. A third person can often see things you may miss.
If you think she likes you too, I think you should admit how you feel to her, hard as it may be. I had a similar situation... finally, after months of starting to really like one of my best friends as more than a friend, and suspecting he liked me that way as well, he finally went ahead and admitted it, and I'm so glad he did. I know it's really hard, especially if you have a close friendship to start with. You probably feel like you're risking everything by taking the step of admitting your feelings. Just let her know that if she doesnt feel the same way you won't pressure her, and if she's a good enough friend she shouldn't be scared off completely by it. Sure, if she doesn't feel the same way and you admit you like her, she might be a little awkward around you at first, but if you just dont pressure her and don't let it change toward you act around her, she probably won't keep feeling awkward. On the other hand, if she DOES like you, and you tell her, you'll make her really really happy, and you'll have found something amazing. When boyfriend/girlfriend relationships have a friendship as the foundation, they tend to be a lot stronger and less easily broken.
2006-10-19 20:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by maethoriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can you tell us (possibly thousands of us) whom you don't even know, but you can't tell her??? Tell her !!! I had a female friend all thru college. We ran in the same circles, had fun, talked, danced. She dated friends of mine, I dated friends of hers. I ran into her several yrs after college. We went out as drinking buddies and caught up on all the gossip of our friends. Started going out, just as friends. But my feeling changed, like yours did. I told her we had to stop seeing each other like this because I had fallen in love with her. She smiled and said she had fallen in love with me, too, but she was afraid to say anything. We will celebrate our 40th wedding anniv next month.
2006-10-19 19:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants more
2006-10-19 18:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋