what is his problem i lost 50 pounds im 28 small fram n weigh 125 now. i have heard of him always cheating but he wont leave me and says he loves me and only me im fustrated and lonley i miss having a man take full control or at least make me feel wanted and sexy. i get lots of looks from othter men and people tell him he has a pretty wife what can i do?
2006-10-19 18:36:10 · 29 answers · asked by reda m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
. ,, It sounds to me like he may be insecure of your weight loss. all the other girls he has been messing around with was probably small like you now that you have lost the weight(congratulations).he may be worried that other men will be looking at you the way he has in the past looked at other woman.He sounds like a VERY selfish man!!! he needs to quit his cheating before you start looking back at the other guys who's been looking at you,,, actually you should dump his as* and find someone who will treat you they way you deserve to be treated.In this day of all the STD's why would you risk your life with this scum bag??? (sorry if i'm too harsh but I'm pissed!)
2006-10-19 18:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if people are telling you that he is cheating, chances are that he is. if he knows you are hearing this and you haven't left him yet then he knows that he can continue to have other woman and you will be there whenever he wants, and it sounds like you are doing all the work. and all he is doing is feeding you a big line of bullshit and you are believing every bit of it. wake up and smell the single life honey you will enjoy it and there are alot of men out there who want to please a woman. some men get off on this alone. your first big red light should have been that he doesn't even kiss you thats terrible. i really feel for you. it's time to move on. you are still young. don't let him drag you down, and stop having sex with him, he is obviously getting his kicks elsewhere. tell him you want a divorce A.S.A.P.
2006-10-19 18:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we, men, think stupidly. We always seek the prettiest lady when she is already by our side. I believe that your husband needs to be wanted by pretty ladies. It’s a kind of flirting game. The male wants to succeed on flirting ladies –this game makes male people feel stronger about their ego. As soon the lady accepts and joins the flirting game the male switches to another female and restarts the process. This game is form men creation and male nature I believe. I would suggest playing the same game. Ask your husband to date you. Arrange an appointment in a hotel or in a parking place or something and go wild. Ask him to having sex with you as a person and not with his wife. Ask him to cheat his wife with you as a lady. I hope this helps and I wish you enjoying your life.
2006-10-19 18:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think it's time to show him the door and find a man who loves only you and making love goes both ways. If he can't pitch in a little then he needs none.
Sorry to be so to the point but thats the way life is and he isn't the only fish in the sea.
2006-10-20 08:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by kimber_j1968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you say he is cheating or has in the past. One of the signs of cheating is a change in sex drive. Maybe you should tell him how you feel. Or if he continues to cheat just find someone else that can give you what you want.
Best of Luck,
Drew Bryant
2006-10-19 18:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to take his blinders off. He's a dumb oaf. He wants to
have things HIS way all the time. He doesn't care the least what
YOU need and want !! That my dear is called being SELFISH!!
It's called being a F*cking PIG.......oink oink. Do what will make
YOU happy for a change. And learn to say NO. Refuse to do
things as you feel....not him. That would make me feel used.....
He hasn't a CLUE how to treat a woman....what a shame.
2006-10-19 18:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still in love with him? If your not leave him... But if your still in love with him, then you take charge in the bedroom.. Break out the old handcuffs and then slap them on him to the headboard... The tease him till he can't stand it.. Or if your openminded to the extent of the idea of swinging try a 3sum... But you pick out the person to join you and your hubby... Try it.. It will bring more spice to the bedroom
2006-10-19 18:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by cockednlocked38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a day or two alone and think about your relationship and your live right now. Do you forsee how it will be in 3 years , 5 years ?
If not, I recommend you to consider separation.
Leave him while you are still young and marketable.
2006-10-19 18:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So don't start the sex, when he wants to do it, pretend like you don't and then maybe he'll start kissing you,and making you feel good so that you'll want to do it, and then there you go, or pretend that you're sleeping when he wants to do it, and that you're too tire to do it, so that he can do all the work. Works for me.
2006-10-19 19:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Girlish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe he liked you when you were a lil bigger. i know not all guys like skinny women i know i dont. just try to make him find you attractive how you are now if you like your body now then dont be ashamed. just take control of him and make him your b*tch during sex. And if you ifnd he is cheating cheat back other guys want you then do em (but that is only if you KNOW he is cheating like you catch him cuz cheating is bad). just be all sexy for him and he might want it like before.
2006-10-19 18:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋