We are 12yrs apart, I am 27 and he is 39. I have had 2 kids,youngest is 9months and I am 5'4 119lbs with a booty and natural size 34D what the hell is up? I think I married a man to old for my sex drive! Only been married a year!
2006-10-19 18:28:38 · 15 answers · asked by butterfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I do not have a problem, i take care of my children. And because of his behavior we or I am about to file for Divorce!
2006-10-19 18:39:39 · update #1
Hey KikiS yes he does. I have 2 boys 1 is 3 and the other is his 9mths, I am the one that is the sober one. Mom of the Year! I can not deal with this anymore, God wants us to be happy, and I am not. I will do what is best for my little angels,no matter how hard it gets. Divorce is our next step!!
2006-10-19 19:20:38 · update #2
MTE, You do not have a clue! You sound real shallow, it has not always been this way for us, but after one year of marriage and his drinking getting worse,because of problems we are having,has nothing to do with my sexual performance at all. I drive down the street and guys are just looking and honking and I think to myself you pervs, I have 2 kids in the back of my car, and I have a 5ooo$ ring on my finger!
2006-10-19 19:32:51 · update #3
Sweetheart it's not you it him. Even thou he loves you, he loves the drinking more. And as long as he drinks that will always be first in his mind. I know I've been throught it. In short he has lived his life and has already settled down in his ways. Now you can toTRY to get him to stop drinking,but unless he is ready to stop its not going to happen. If he is ready to stop, Are you ready to face the real him underneath the drinking. Example: I got my ex-husband to stop and he turn out to be a mental nut case, stopped working, and tried to kill himself. I'm not saying that will happen in your case. Hey it may be for the better. You also have to look at the pos that you may have to satisfy yourself everytime you get horny and just love him for who he is. Or cheat and if you do that than divorce him. But try seeing a professional first,before doing anything major. Again it's not you!!!!!!! Its the drinking,when people are addicted to a drug. That is their God or wife. It's nothing against you and deep down he doesn't realize he is doing this to you. His intentions are good toward you, but his drinking is more important. YOU ARE FINE AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU HONESTLY. Don't let anyone tell you different not even him.
2006-10-19 18:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Tell him, in a non-threatening way of course. This is no way for you to live. If he drinks every night till he passes out, he has a problem. If you don't do anything about it, you have the problem. 12 step programs are sometimes free.
2006-10-19 18:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by invisibleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey thanks for the great answer about my religious beliefs. my fiance drinks too. he's actually going to an AA meeting, he'll be done by next month. he was like ur husband too, a heavy drinker. do u think he has a problem drinking? i mean, does he really PASS OUT like, knocked out kind? i mean, you guys have a 9months old baby, he needs to cut down on drinking! &spend more time with you and your kids!
2006-10-19 18:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should deal with your husbands drinking first. He needs to seek treatment and go to AA. That is more of a problem then your sex life. You are allowing your kids to see how your husband is using alcohol to deal with his problems. That is more important right now.
2006-10-19 18:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 43 and I can't find a woman as horny as I am.. But it sounds like you need to dump him.. But don't go rushing into things either. You have plenty of options of satisfing your self. You don't have to have a man.. try toys... Or if you have a friend ....
2006-10-19 19:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by cockednlocked38 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is fair to say that he is too old for your sex drive - sounds like he has other problems besides age - alcoholism would sound like a good path to explore going by what you say.
2006-10-19 18:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by 3DDD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, mine is 6 years younger and no better! I fell in love with Prince Charming and ended up married to Al Bundy! : (
2006-10-19 18:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Helzabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r wrong Men in our 40 is very strong sex.Maybe tour husbanh so poor.lf u need it u can email 2 me.l think l can do 100% better than your husband.let me fulfill your horny sex.
2006-10-19 18:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by gen2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you grabbed a real winner there hun, guess that doesn't make you look so good now does it. Having a husband who would rather drink than have sex with you...hummmmmm.......sorry i can't relate.
2006-10-19 19:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by MTE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
outch, girl its not only your problem. they are many girls that feel the same. i think you would talk to him and ask him what is up. also guys who drink too much loose their erection very soon.
and have less sex drive.
2006-10-19 18:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by chik_nice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋