i'm 18 years old and told my guy a few weeks ago that i was pregnant. we aren't dating, which makes things worse. but he keeps telling me that i shouldn't tell my parents. and he thinks it's best that he don't tell his until i'm farther along. why is he telling me this?? and how do i convince him that we need to tell them?
2006-10-19 17:59:27 · 18 answers · asked by Q 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
at 18 the best thing you could do is abort...if your not bright enough to take precautions your not bright enough to raise a kid!
2006-10-19 18:03:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, I'm no genious because my guy is doing the same to me but like i told him.... our parents need to know so that if something was to go wrong and i was to get horrible sick they could tell the hostpital or whatever that im pregnant and they would be more careful than useual, but your not "really" seeing the guy i think he's just scared that he didn't use protection, and that he'd be in ALOT of trouble with his focks and all..... but he's just scared and thats why he's telling you not to tell your parents, use the whole "well what if i get sick theory on convincing him that yall' need to tell your parents and the fact that you guys are only 18 barley out of high school or what not, not that i have room to talk im only 19 and pregnant barley starting college and pregnant anyway let him know it would be in the best of his your unborn child and your interest if you both sat both sets of parents down and discussed all of your opptions with them and all...
best of luck
stacy
2006-10-20 01:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I'm no guy. But you need to tell your parents and to see a doctor asap. I'm assuming that the boy is the same age that you are. It shows that he is immature. You need to speak with your parents and make a decision about this. You are very young to be starting life with a baby. Go get an education better yourself. One day you will be with the person you love and start a family when you both are ready. Hope this helps.
2006-10-20 01:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is going to eventually try to pull the "Abort Card" on you in hopes of you keeping this silent. I personally don't like the idea of abortion but your parents raised you right I'm sure. He may be intimidated or afraid of your parents, who knows. So I would tell my parents because they are going to find out sooner or later. Especially your mom. If you are cool with her, she will know your prego'z before you even show a sign. Its a maternal instinct. I'm a guy and my mom knew I had kids coming without me having to tell her. So spill the beans and then decide on what your next step will be!!!
2006-10-20 01:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by aukasted1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling you're parents feels like the right thing to do, because it is the right thing to do. Don't waste too much energy trying to convince him. He has a right to his own opinion. However, tell him you are going to tell you're parents because YOU believe it is the right ting to do. Then tell him WHEN you are going to tell them, with or without his support.Give him a couple of days to cool his head, but thats it. Tell them as soon as possible, you don't need to be walking around with that anxiety for to long.They deserve to know. They might be shocked, scared, and angry, but most cases it will calm down and they will give the support you need.Good luck.
2006-10-20 01:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by stullyo2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm not a guy, but I couldn't just let this go. MAYBE he doesn't want you to abort the baby... since it ISN'T the best option like a few people have already said. I wouldn't worry about convincing him, I'm sorry but you aren't even dating. You need to worry about yourself and your baby right now - and your parents can help you. Please do this for yourself.
2006-10-20 01:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he is trying to avoid the problem and let you abort the baby later. You should keep the baby afterall it is your own blood and flesh. You have to tell your parents on this and I believe your parents is willing to give you all their support. I don't think you need to convince him if he is not interested in his own baby
2006-10-20 07:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to convince him. If you want to tell your parents, tell them. If he didn't want you pregnant, he should have kept his pants on. And when I want my mother-in-law to know some of our family matters, I tell her. I don't like to keep secrets in the family. Hope everyone is supportive - for the baby's sake.
2006-10-20 01:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your not dating then his opinion isnt realy that important now is it. i think that if you think its better for you and your potential child than you should tell them and make him deal with it because it will just cause trouble if you dont. i have no idea why he would want you to hide it unles he plans on stopping talkin to you when you tell your rents and just wants to have sex with you till then. so id suggest that if he cant accept what you think is best for you and your future kid then he doesnt need to be the father of it because he isnt fit i mean he wants to hide it as long as he can. i hope i helped some and when you have your kid be good to it
2006-10-20 01:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!.. im no guy but i just wanna help you, ok? if i were on your shoes, i would tell my parents. why not? i think they have the right to know. afterall, they are still your parents and besides they can help you the problem. well, don't mind the guy. he's an idiot!..he doesn't deserve to be a father.. girl, love your soon to be child.. hope i helped you.. bye!:)
2006-10-20 01:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by myself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest you to voice out the matter to your parents. Pregnancy is not a small matter, it concerns an innocent life. The longer you wait, the more implications you need to handle.
2006-10-20 04:04:19 · answer #11 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋