Ok maybe i put that wrong, i'v bin with him 5 months, they had been split for 6 months befor he was with me, but was still haveing sex, i no he isn't cheating as wen he phoned me to tell me, he was almost crying, but he is a good man and will be there for his kid, i wanted to start a family with him, maybe at the end of next year, i am 21, he is 25, we have already spoke of marrage, and haveing childre as we were both as broody as oneanother, it is some thing that we both wanted to do, i no guy's it's a bit early to be speaking of such thing's but we do honestly love each other, i'm not a fool, i'v had a 5 year, and a 2 year relationship, i just no that he is the one, i'm gonna stand by him, but i feel i will have to let my dream go, i feel i will have to wait like 5 year's to have my dream, i feel selfish wen i get upset hearing about it coz i want it so bad, he say's, him haveing this baby won't change things, but it already has hasn't it?
2006-10-19 17:35:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i always answer these the same way. I started to read it and just couldnt finish. I feel like i deserve the points for even trying.
2006-10-19 17:42:41 · answer #1 · answered by jon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was with you for 5 months while still having sex with his ex?? Is that right? It is very hard to understand what you have written. But if you are only 21 you still have a lot of good fun years ahead of you and plenty of time to find the love of your life and settle down and have kids. At 21 you have had a 5 year and a 2 year relationship? You need to date!! And I mean date, not have sex with, a lot of different guys. Let them take you out and treat you nice.
I was dating a guy whose ex turned up pregnant. He hadn't cheated, she was pregnant before we met, but he didn't believe it was his. After the baby was born they had the tests done and it was his. I supported him. I bought him Father's Day gifts. He never let me see his son and then soon after he broke up with me. He didn't get back together with her either.
Long story short, tell him you are too young to deal with that right now and just move on! I know you won't listen to me, but I hope that 10 years from now something will make you remember my words and you will see that I am right.
Good Luck!!
2006-10-19 17:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by miss_fred 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it won't make the relationship better. how do you know its the one. you thought the 5 and 2 year ones were the one. anytime someone gets together, they think its the one and at your young ages, you have plenty of time to find the one. rush into it out of loneliness and being wanted will only add onto the other two you had.
2006-10-19 17:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by hollywood71@verizon.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur still young. Live your life! Ur always going to get a chance on having a baby. I f you know your relationship would last long don't worry you would have a baby. But remember i you want you would suffer when you give to birth
2006-10-19 17:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of things you should be looking for before you have a baby.
You need to have things together in your life.
Babies need a home & lots of care. This needs to be in place well before baby comes home. May I add before the seed is planted.
2006-10-19 17:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋