was the best person...so I thought..until she told my dad that he needed to stop helping me out and use the money on her. My father is really the only person who has always been there. I am a single mom of two boys and I pay for everything..Rent..childcare..Everything..I do not rely on welfare or any state assistance. Before they moved in together he made it clear that we are are a close family..and that he helps pay part of my car paymnet. I am waiting for my little son to start school that way daycare is cheaper and i can pay my full car payment. I am working full time and in school. My dad does not mind helping me out for another year. so..pretty much his girlfriend who already knew this is now sayin me or your daughter...Im a little hurt. I do work..I am very responsible..and dont waste my money..Im 24..is this wrong or is it really me??..Do parents still help there kids out..please dont get me wrong I am not spoiled Ijust need help..my dad is considering leaving her..
2006-10-19 17:18:33 · 13 answers · asked by ♥Bossy♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She also wants y brother who just turned 18 to get a job..while he is going through college to pay for "his share of the house"..but her daughter never had to pay anything and was told to just worry about school..maybe she looks at us as not her issues..I dont know..just confused:(
2006-10-19 17:20:43 · update #1
To the lady who said I should move on...I have told the storyu..I think she is a great person we do get along. I dont live at home maybe you should read the rest...I have my own apartment...a great job and I work full time and go to school..I moved out of an abusive relationship 2 years ago..there father..My father was the only person who emotionally helped me..not financially..I have worked since I was 16. I had my children was I was 19 and was a very happy girl..until I realized My kids deserved a better life. I do NOT live with my dad and his girlfriend.. I do not go out and party and leave with my kids with them. I work everyday!!. There are more issues between her and my dad that have nothing to do with me..I want him to stay with her and hope her and I can sit down and talk..unlike your boyfriends sons wife..(to the lady who put me down) I am not a house wife..I clean. I work..I dont mooch off daddy..
2006-10-19 18:01:45 · update #2
He helps pay a part of my car payment. If there is something I want I work for it..and I dont go ask daddy. if I cant afford it I do without. Pleased dont cofuse me for your life.that is not the life I have. The father does see his kids and lives in la im in sd. But anyways..Why is okay for her to help her grown child but its not okay for my dad to help me for a year??..she knew this before dating my dad. They have only been dating for 2 years and they have been living togther for 4 months. She buys food for adult daughter who cant buy her own beacuse she parties..and thats fine..If she wants to do that but dont knock my dad for helping me. He doesnt get on her case. Once again..I do like her..im not trying to get rid of her..I would even consider down sizing my apartment to a one bedroom so i can pay my car payment. My dad said no. He wants to help until my little boy is in school..then i can pay everything. Iused to get $800 for child support now I get&600 Im doing the best I can!
2006-10-19 18:08:34 · update #3
If your father has agreed to help you till your son starts school and you and he had an agreement on it, then it doesn't matter what she says or what her opinion is on the subject. Just keep on doing what your doing and don't let her affect you.
I am sure your father will let you know if he plans on changing anything in regards to making part of your car payment.
If he does, then you will have to just figure out another way to pay it.
Don't get into a battle with his girlfriend over it. Keep it between you and your father and if she says anything to you, then let her know in the nicest way possible that that is you and your fathers agreement and that you really don't want to discuss it with her.
Be nice.
2006-10-19 18:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of like your dads girlfriend. My boyfriend pays huge sums of child support for his 2 teenagers which I dont mind, but His daughter, her husband and 2 kids moved in with him. She is 25 yrs old, and her husband works a full time job and she doesnt work. She calls herself a housewife. The house is filthy. He has dirty diapers down the couch. A fly stip is beautifully hung over the kitchen counter since she moved in and is so busy with her 1 and 4 yr old kids cannot do dishes or clean house... or so she says. She is filthy and doesnt mind leaving the housework to me and I dont live there, and I work a full time job and have raised 2 kids as a single mom since I was 20 yrs. Now he has moved his 28 yr old son in and his pregnant girlfriend. They work part time and expect ole dad to pay the way. Meanwhile dad is working his rear end off and they give him ther pity party story and expect him to stop living because they made mistakes in there lives. Your dad deserves a life and as harsh as it sounds, you are raised. Get on down the road. He wants a life and you are laying a guilt trip on him and its working.
Why dont you move in with your mother. I suspect there is more to this story and your not telling it. Since when do you live at home when you are 24 yrs old with your whole family. Get real! What happened to the father of those kids of yours?
OK. Good deal. I worked my rear end off and went to college on welfare, I think its a great thing for you to get an education and I understand abusive relationships since I once lost 1 of my front teeth. Work hard, and you deserve to be helped by your dad. I hope you chose a health career because when I started my college courses, I made $300 dollars a month to live on and now as a nurse in a hospital I make $300+ dollars in a day. Of course, I am plugging nursing as a career. Good luck in all your endeavors and tell her to go to H.e.l.l. I thought you were living at home. Peace.
2006-10-19 17:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should consider his happiness with her. It's not real good to base a relationship with someone depending on how the kids feel or say. Kids, even grown ones say and do things to get different results and often from feelings and emotions...it's never good to make decisions like this based solely on those attributes but should also look at facts and his desire considering his future. If their relationship has several other red or yellow flags, he should step back and evaluate but not because you or somebody else thinks or says so.
It's not your business on her kids...that constitutes nothing...Don't get me wrong either, I'm not for her but giving you some angles to consider. But don't be guilty of influencing your dad's happiness because of you. My kid did that to me...now he's off somewhere else and I'm still paying for it.
Your dad has to make a decision right now though...he either wears the pants right now or she will soon be wearing hers and his pants....hope that helps!
2006-10-19 17:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by David H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should leave her. Obviously she is not a woman of her word and does not care about anybody but herself. It is totally ridiculous to ask a parent to quit helping their child of any age, especially when the person is working very hard to help themselves. It would be a little different if you were a bum and always just mooching off people without doing for yourself and your children. I give you permission to knock her out!
2006-10-19 17:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by L.J. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your step mom got a little bitter after that house fell on her sister.She is selfish,unfortunately your dad is caught in the middle.You need to speak to her directly and ask her for a solution to the problem.Your father sounds like a very nice guy,but you are not his responsibility.It is wonderful that he helps you.Just try to get on your own financially as soon as you can.Where are the children's father.Does he help you?Maybe it's time to go after child support if it isn't a factor already.Could solve the entire issue.
2006-10-19 17:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blood is thicker than water. if theres a problem between parent and child and girlfriend/boyfriend then you should always stick with the family, cause family will always be there. but it isn't always the cause because some people tend to forget that and think with their penis instead of their heart. and your not spoiled you just have a dad who loves you. I have lived on my own for over a year am engaged and my mom still buys me clothes and such and lends me money if I really need it
2006-10-19 17:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by froggy_dimebag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you were left holding the bag so to speak in my own humble opinion.Did the kids father just abandon you?I will always choose my kids over anyone else.You are in the right to think your dad should leave her if you do in fact think this.You are on the right track by going to school,and working.Your dad helping you out financially should have no affect on his gal pal.
2006-10-19 17:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to dump her, daddys are daddys no matter how old there children are there are times when they may need help..she is being selfish and jealous to..besides he will always help you, you are his daughter and he loves you and cares for you. dont worry about it she will be out the door and he will still be helping you pay what you need help with. and i am very proud of you that you are taking care of you and your babys without help from welfare or state funds..i say you go girl, your dad will help you dont even worry about that gold digger g/f of his. he will take care of you and your babys and she can go dig somewhear else. keep up the good work!!
2006-10-19 17:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i congratulate you for being a well minded woman who knows how to do things right. I think you need to sit your dad and his girlfriend down and discuss this issue. I'm with you. She shouldn't do for her daughter if she isn't going to do for you. It is just not fair. Sit them down and tell them how you feel. Helping out for a year is nothing compared to what i have been dealing with concerning my own daughter and her child. But we won't go there. good luck
2006-10-19 20:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to say audios to this chick!!! She is obviously not putting you guys in the same league as her own child. This sounds to me like a classic act of jelousy!! She shouldn't interfear with you, your brother and your dad as far as te realtionship goes. If he was helping you out before she came along and she knew about it, then SHAME ON HER!!!!
2006-10-19 17:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋