How unfair Is this?I'm not ready
2006-10-19 17:07:50 · 24 answers · asked by Amy Lee J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how unfair is it to your baby.. you should get married and stop thinking about just yourself.
2006-10-19 17:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by ana g 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You made a mistake by having the baby with this guy. Why would you want to make another mistake by marrying someone, who you are not ready for? Marriage is not some kind of race but a commitment to spend your life with an individual. If you are unsure of your feelings for that individual, you probably have good cause. Trust your instincts here! I think in the long run of things, you will be happy you did. Good Luck to you !!!
2006-10-19 17:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is not a reason to get married. You have to look at the total picture. The main thing is if your are in love with him or not. There is a difference and too many people don't realize it nowadays. You can love a puppy your parents your best friend, but being in love with someone means you don't give ultimatums they are someone you can't picture the rest of your life without, they are your best friend you can tell them anything and they don't judge you. When you find this person then you should say yes only then.
2006-10-19 17:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by 6kidz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first question, do u really love him?? and secondly what made him give u an ultimatium??/ did anything occur before that?? I would suggest that u tell him that if he loved you so much to get married and spend his entire life with you, then he would have to wait until u are ready to get married. cos marriage is work that both partners have to do. If he is asking u to get married just because you had the baby, then its not worth it.. Because 10 yrs down the line both of u, will regret it and wish that ul were happy evn tho it may not be together....
2006-10-19 17:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by makeuplover. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to be a mom? I assume you are pregnant. Or are you disputing over a child that is already here? Regardless if you are not in love with the man enough to marry him then you better not just string him along. Let him play an active role in the child's life tho cause all children deserve to know their daddies.
A baby doesn't know bad so don't teach it bad things.....the world will do that later.....this child deserves to know it was concieved out of love.....and i do hope i am right in assuming that....Am I? If i am then there's your answer......
2006-10-19 17:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_kitty_blue_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is why women throughout the ages have fought for our right to have, or not have, a child. If you are second guessing, dump the jerk.
Leave time for serious consideration as far as the child. The first month is crucial. The longer you wait, the more developed the fetus.
Also, the longer you wait, the more the life inside of you develops.
If you are not truly ready, you have options sweetie :-)
I was in your shoes 10 years ago, I made my choice. I am very happy with it :-)
God bless and make the decision your heart leads you to!
2006-10-19 17:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If parenting a baby together doesn't make you ready for marriage, what does? Playing house is for kids not adults.
What is it going to take to make you ready?????
2006-10-26 13:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is unfair, but he's only trying to do the right thing by you and the baby.
but, honestly if youre not ready to get married, don't, it won't work; it will only end in divorce.
if you do, you're going to be miserable.
2006-10-19 17:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Znai 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it pretty fair if you ask me. Get married be a family or be single parent?...... I think i would opt for the first. At least you'll have help with those 3am feedings. Think of your kid. Its not just you that you have to think about now there is someone in you that deserves everything wonderful in this world including having 2 full time parents. Give things a shot......this may be the best choice you ever made.
2006-10-19 17:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You made a baby with him so why not get married? What are you ready for? Do you want to git rid of the baby and stay? Hmm Why? Break up and do what you want? This man has a stake in all this.
2006-10-19 17:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tedi 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, what's the reason you are not ready?? I think that makes sense what he said because if you don't want to get married, then what is the relationship about, just temporary?
2006-10-19 17:13:52 · answer #11 · answered by Raines 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋