He's not gay and some other kids giggled about it and he thinks it was because of his purple bookbag. He cried for an hour tonight because it really bugged him and even tho I thot of several responses, like why do you care, are you gay? or giving them the finger or ignoring them, we need a good zinger! Please help!!!
2006-10-19 16:24:42 · 8 answers · asked by bookluffer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If students are harrassing your son, the best thing to do is go to the school administration. They'll put a stop to it. Or, if all else fails, simply replace the bookbag. Sometimes those small things can make a huge difference.
Middle school is a harsh time, you'll have to help him as much as you can.
2006-10-19 16:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Not done with love 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
bookluffer: Your son is at the age where the kids around him are seeking acceptance and identity through that acceptance. It is a tough - rough time to be in. The people can be so caustic with their remarks, not caring who nor how they hurt someone. I know it sounds soooo easy to say, but he can TRY to ignore them and make friends with the other kids, who are not that popular or accepted by the "in crowd". Ignoring them may prove not to be enough and further action may be the dictate. It can drive you "nuts" being taunted at all the time. This is a form of "bullying" - verbal bullying! The main instigators will have to be rooted out, their parents called and even, expulsion from school. If it is not dealt with, your son will suffer physical ailments (head aches, stomach aches, anxiety, etc.) or even push him into suicide. YES; it's THAT SERIOUS! I hope he comes through this by ignoring them but usually, it is not enough. Bullys are on a power trip at the expense of their victims. Good luck to you!!
2006-10-19 16:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like bad advice, but a stern "shut the %$*$ up" and then ignoring whoever is harassing him will work wonders. It has to be done sternly. If it continues then the next response would be "why are you talking to me?" as if to say that whoever is harassing him isn't worth even talking to. It sounds combative but it will help him if he does it with some confidence. Also it's important for his dad or uncle or stepdad to be supportive and boost his confidence with some guy talk about dealing with bullying. Also he should know that his peers will love him for standing up to bullies or snot-rags.
2006-10-20 14:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put downs can be tricky- they can backfire, or snowball.
I'd usually suggest that he just laugh it off with a 'nope' and move on until the class clowns find something else to laugh about. I would not give the situation any 'energy' or 'traction'.
2006-10-19 16:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First off, if the backpack has become part of the problem, buy him another. If that don't help, talk to the school.
2006-10-19 16:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by blackcola05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son was asked this same thing at school i told him to ask them why r they wanting to no r they after ur body?might not b what u had in mind but it worked 4me
2006-10-19 16:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by sandy k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its a boy. who's asking the question have him respond in a joking way. only you would know. that often stopped it real fast. if its a girl say yes i have always been a very happy person, if that's being gay then yes i am.
2006-10-19 17:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Im a real smart a-- Say "Why dont you come over tonight and find out "
2006-10-19 16:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋