whay i have gay dreams??

Question

am married guy with 2 beatifull kids
lately i am getting gay fantasies & dreams
does it mean i am a gay??and how i fix it

Just for more clarifications
When I was a teenager I have been hitting some of the websites for nude men and such staff
But at the end of the day I hate what I did
Also, in the dreams that I had
Most of the time I resist to do the intercourse
And this is plus to the straight dreams (with females),

So, how can I stop this time to time fantasies and desire
Because am afraid that it will effect my married plus my life

Answer 1

First of all, you are a normal guy, it is just that the average guy does not admit this is happening because of the gay label. I've seen lots of guys in the locker room at the gym check out other guys discretely, though not discretely enough that I could catch them doing it. They were all ages, but generally the older guys are more likely to look. Older as in 35 and up.

Guys tend to lean towards bisexuality as they age, not sure why but may be due to less interest from the spouse in sex, and male hormonal changes--probably long evolutionary ones to keep older farts from procreating, by making them attractive to each other. That way the new young studs have a chance to impact the gene pool.
Nothing to fix, if you are having the dreams they are normal, yes you may have bisexual tendencies, and start to notice when you are awake the nice buff guys that seem to be in every commercial, every mag ad, and on every street corner. Wonder why we see hot guys in clothing and cologne ads--because the marketers know all guys are naturally attracted to hot guys whether they are conscious of it or not. So what. Getting turned on by sexual fantasies does not mean you have to act on them. There are a whole lot more bisexuals out there than gays or lesbians, but they are the silent majority. And many more that are mentally bisexual never physically act on it, because of spousal commitments and fear of exposure or rejection. Thank goodness our arms are long enough to reach down and temporarily alleviate our frustrations.
If you start looking around and watching other people, you'll notice some trends--like older guys tend to hire young, attractive guys to work for them; older guys like couples sex porn, not just looking at girls; you'll notice guys glancing discretely at physically attractive guys more than once.
Again, you are a normal guy with normal urges that society still keeps under wraps.

Answer 2

As far as the dreams go: Rarely do sexual dreams of any kind have anything to do with sex.

The fantasies? There I begin to wonder because you are in an awake state, not an unconscious one. I suppose one question I would ask you is this a new thing for you or did you always have such fantasies? Also, have you carried this interest in men any further? Do you look at male pornography? Do you visit adult bookstores and the like? Do you find yourself having an undo interest in the male form? Are you finding yourself aroused by seeing men and not just fantasizing about them?

You may be a bisexual. I doubt at this stage of your life that you would suddenly discover that you are gay, but one never knows.

My guess, from what you have told us, is that you are just curious and perhaps a little bored with your sex life with your wife or you are actually not totally straight, but bisexual.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. I have fantasy dreams about women. I am not gay. Awake I could never think of doing anything with a woman. I thought it was all the sexy beer commercials or Victoria secret ads that was back in my subconscious.

But hell I enjoy the dreams and it doesn't cause any problems when I'm awake. If you enjoy the dreams then why worry?

Perhaps it is the fact that you are really close to your guy friends or that you really like being a man and in your dreams you take it further. Meaning nothing sexual in reality, but in fantasy you are in love with manhood. As example in my dream. I love everything girly. I love having long hair and high heels. I love makeup and perfume. I love having curves. Perhaps so much that I really appreciate it in my dreams.

Take care I am sure you aren't gay,

Answer 4

Tell us: Exactly what do you see & do in your dreams? In the dreams, do you relish it, or resist it. It's your subconscious fantasies coming through. Don't be ashamed. Look at women, they not only fantasize, 90% of them actually get sweet on other women and go down on them. they kiss, touch, do "69", and more than that. but they hide it and deny it.

Write to me directly & share your mind with me. I'll explain further.
Best wishes. don't sweat it.

Answer 5

That's something only you know. Just because your having gay themed dreams doesn't mean your gay though. There isn't really much you can do , dreams come weather we want them to or not. Just be true to yourself and your family.

Answer 6

Go to www.dreammoods.com and you can get free interpretation of what your dreams mean. I myself think it more than likely that you are bi-sexual.

Answer 7

Spirita explains your dreams
Visit http://spirita.blogspot.com/ and post your question as a comment. You'll get your answer shortly

Answer 8

u should go to therpy because these dreams may mean something diffrent ushly not what they apeer to be

Answer 9

haha you obviously aren't a married man, otherwise you would probably be able to spell more efficiently.. but anyways I think maybe you are gay

Answer 10

You are Bisexual, you can act on those impulses, or not; up to you, they will probably not go away.