my boyfriend does not want to have sex w/me anymore? & it was great in the beginning & now its no-more? we live together,fight like crazy (due to past issues that he did to hurt me!)..& ive had a very hard time being able to trust him again? & now no sex? he says its becuz we fight so much & that the things i say & do when were fighting cause this? seems he forgets what caused me to react this way?>!! (ie:he cheated w/ex,lied about it, but yet i kicked him out, but it was only a fight not a permission slip! & he knew that!) then we got back together & he hasn't done it again thus far? BUT!>there's been many, MANY unexplained "things" that ive had to put up w/too...but my ? now is if 2 people"fought" & then "made-up", why does he still want to have no sex? he says because he's just that way,>meaning,>that it takes him time to be able to feel close to me again? if your made up then you already forgave right? or could it be something that hes just not telling me? helllllllpppppp??
2006-10-19 15:34:54 · 10 answers · asked by bashfullyblessed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't trust this guy, he's been sleeping around and hurt you in the past; and you want to sleep with this guy? What in the hell are you thinking?
If two people really love each other and have a little spat or a falling out, the makeup sex is suppossed to be the best. He doesn't want to have sex with you cause he's too tired from boinging some other chick and he's just using the "fight" as an excuse. Why would you want to even be around this turd?
I'm sorry for sounding so harsh, but darling, you deserve so much better than this. I hope you'll wait for it and not be so impatient. For now, maybe take a break from guys and get more into your school work and making some good friends with some caring girls you can hang with and rely on. God bless and the best of luck to you.
2006-10-19 15:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweetie first I would say that you have some trust issues with him and still haven't passed that page yet. It also seems like that you two fight so much that maybe the love and compassion you two share is on that thin line. So I say you two should sit down actually have an adult conversation to understand where you are in the relationship and go from there. Good Luck
2006-10-19 22:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by krazydavina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know the type - he is a repeat offender - and he always will be. He gets high on all the sneaking around and cheating on you. It's not fun for him if he doesn't have someone that he's cheating on. You need to get away from this loser asap. He only cares about himself and his cheap thrills. You are only someone he is using to make the sneaking around all that more interesting. That's why he doesn't want to have sex with you. He's totally bored with having a steady girlfriend. It's only good if it is illicit and naughty for him to have sex. These kinds of guys never change and are not worth you time for even one more second.
2006-10-19 22:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. Why is having sex with someone you fight with and don't trust such a big deal. I am certain you could find many a guy who would not fight with you, you could trust, and would thoroughly enjoy having sex with you.
2006-10-19 22:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by rec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be time to move on honey. Only you know for sure. Don't make both of you hate each other after all you have had together
2006-10-19 22:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just give him some time? Maybe it really is the way he is. If you keep getting paranoid about everything he does or doesn't do, it's just going to turn him off.
2006-10-19 22:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Eric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be mean but maybe hes getting it from somebody else. you dont deserve him just end it i bet youll find a guy that cares about YOU and will have sex with you. maybe youll find one that will make love to you.
2006-10-19 22:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl how old r u and u shouldnt have sex before marage
2006-10-19 22:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
having sex deosnt mean he deosnt love you....
2006-10-19 22:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by kenzier_90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's gay?
2006-10-19 22:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋