What words could I mentally tell myself to give me a "thick skin" so my feelings won't get hurt so easily?

Answer 1

You don't need to be thick skinned.
Do this:
Go to a mirror and look into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self I love you, and I honor who you are and what you are.

Do this right before you go to bed and when you wake up, do it every day for a few weeks and your Life will BE changed.

Answer 2

always consider the source and motive when anyone says something that upsets you. You dont give enough information about your feelings. and who or why anyone is hurting them. If someone you value and respect hurts your feelings, constructive criticism is meant not to hurt, but to help you to improve. A teacher, for example might tell you, "Your essay was not your best effort. Your thoughts were not conveyed clearly, and your sentences were not gramatically correct. Read my comments in the margin.I will not accept this as a passing grade".You could get hurt feelings, OR say mentally "Thanks for your encouraging words.Ill do better for sure, next assignment". If someone you know only casually says something offensive to you, tell the person you dont have the time or inclination to hear anymore out of his mouth. Or, for sure, avoid people that hurt your feelings. They have no place in your life.

Answer 3

I have been told that I am one of the most cold hearted, mean, sob around. I in the past use to let people run over me. put me down hit on me, I mean punch in the face hit on me, I would cry when my feelings got hurt. i am 37 6' 4" 318 lb. I am no longer letting anyone run over me ever again. It has taken years for me to grow this thick skin. I have over the years hardened my heart. it doesn't take much actually but it in my case took some time.I tell myself it doen't matter what people say word's are nothing. people do not matter they are nothing. the ones that are trying to hurt me that is. I tell myself i want be hurt anymore over and over. I also went into semi pro wrestling to learn how to fight. I have taken karate for self control and to learn how to fight. I have also taken golden gloves boxing so get into something you don't have to be violent. but learn how to toughen up mentally and karate and boxing helps a lot. Good luck

Answer 4

1- Remember the only person who can help you, is you!
2- If you help others, do so without expecting anything from them.
3- Don't let anyone get too close to you.
4- Don't tell everyone all your secrets.
5- And as selfish as this may sound, remember that unfortunately in this world people care about themselves more than they care about other. So, watch out for yourself! You are the most important person in your life (except if you have kids!).

Answer 5

If you realize that most people who deliberately hurt or put you down are in fact doing it to try and raise themselves above you because they have self esteem issues, then things shouldn't bother you so much. Think about it, if a person is secure and confident and caring, why would they want to hurt or put someone else down? They are trying to make themselves feel better or bigger by making you feel worse. It doesn't work, they dont look any better, and you shouldnt take their comments personally. Most mean people have been abused themselves in some way and being mean is their way of striking back.
And remember this: NO ONE can hurt your feelings unless YOU allow it to happen. YOU are in control of what you feel.

Answer 6

Think of yourself as the center of your life. When you do that, you start to realize how much certain things mean to you, no matter what people say or do. Take constructive criticism to heart and say to yourself: i'm upset about this because I give a damn. It's because I care that I'm upset, so it's well worth it. Once you realize that's it's ok to be hurt, you'll be able to handle things much easier.

Answer 7

I am ok. I really love myself. Your opinions only count if I let them. I,m just as wonderful as any other person on this planet. I am special because there is only one of me. You can't hurt me unless I allow you too.

Try saying those things to your self everyday several times a day and see if maybe you don't start thinking that you too are just as wonderful as any other person!!!

Answer 8

Imagine an invisible bubble around yourself like a force field in sci-fi movies. Or the shield of your holy source. Stay positive thinking about your protection. It works for me.

Answer 9

Hey! I used to have the same problem too.

You should remind yourself that everything has an end, so even if you're somewhere where you don't want to be, it's gonna end. Then you can go home and cry or whatever you want to do. That's what one of my teachers once told me. It really helped.

Answer 10

Never allow a soft heart to become so callous that it cannot be hurt...Be yourself, Just try to remember the type of person that hurt you and avoid that type in the future..